Piercing of Child's ears - For or Against and why? My 3 yr. old g'daughter had her ears pierced - I'm angry.

Question

Personally, I think a child should be 18 before they are permitted to have any piercings. Of course, I am opposed to any piercings even for adults. Realizing that there are different ideas and thought patterns on the subject, I am soliciting your opinions on the subject - especially for children who really don't know how they feel about it.

Answer 1

I got my ears pierced by choice at 6. It's pretty much the norm for women in our culture, but I don't agree with piercing tiny children's ears. It's arbitrary, but I'd let my daughter do it whenever she was old enough to ask for it. I'd probably let my son pierce his ear or ears at 14 or 15 if he wanted. But no piercings beyond that until they're 18 and I don't have a say. I'm not against body modification (I have 3 tattoos myself) but I do think it's an adult decision.

Answer 2

As long as the child is okay with it then its not so bad. But still i wouldn't do that until the child was a little older and can make the choice themselves without any persuasion from their parents. 18 is an arbitrary age and I think is a little too old for ears. I definitely think you should be able to get your own ears pierced before you can vote, smoke, and buy porn. I got mine done when i was 9 and then again when i was 10. Completely by choice. i begged my mother over and over. They are just ears and it doesnt hurt when getting it done and they can close up pretty easily. PLus it is a widely accepted pratice. Just be thankful they didn't put a plate in the childs lip like some cultures do. I don't think i have a single friend who doesnt have their ears pierced. Times have changed. don't get too bent out of shape. Go donate some money to Darfur or something.

Answer 3

The earrings they pierce with usually have a locking back which means the sharper end is covered and it should not get pulled off easily. However, I will tell you that when my daughter got hers done (age 5) my hubby was drying her hair with a towel and forgot about the earrings and it did get pulled out. This was 2 days after it was pierced and it did have to be re-done. Once they heal, it should not be a problem but if it is going to change how she plays or you are concerned, then I'd wait.

Answer 4

First things first.....babies (not toddlers or infants) have almost no feeling in that part of the ear until they get older and start to form cartlidge.

Next....I am curious.....Do you have your ears pierced?

Third..... I have 13 piercings. I love them. I got my first holes in my ears pierced as a baby, and my second holes in my ears pierced at 9. I dont remember either of them. I am also an office manager for a huge window manufacturer & they love my piercings.
My daughter got her first ones when she was 2 weeks old and she slept through the whole thing. My son had 1 hole done when he was 2 days old, and he slept through the whole thing as well. My daughter was 9 when she got her 2nd holes done in her ears. She is now 14 and when she graduated from Middle school. I took her to get her nosed pierced.
I must also add that my daughter is 14 but is taking classes at SDSU (college) as well as being an A student in high school. She also plays the cello like nothing you have ever heard. She has also been heard by the Brooklyn Tabernacle and they want her perform with them for a charity in NY.
My son is also an A student and will soon be the youngest kid to be sponsored for skate boarding by a multi million dollar company
I DO NOT believe that this in any way disrupts thier Creative process of growing up. This is a old old way of looking at things. I think that people should be more intrested in what thier CHILDRENS intrests are as opposed to thier intrests. If you wait until they are 18. They may resent you in the long run for holding them back especially if it is a girl. All her friends will be wearing earrings and she will be worried about getting in trouble by her parents for having her own fashion sense.
There is nothing wrong with fashion.
My kids are beautiful....piercings or not!!!!!

Answer 5

I personally have only my ears pierced and would never get any other part of my body pierced. With ear piercings as common as they are I don't see a problem with a child having thier ears pierced. I had my daughter's ears pierced before she turned 3 and she has always felt that they are beautiful. She is a shy child and something as simple as her ears being pierced has improved her self confidence a great deal. Every day she gets to choose which earings she wants to wear for the day, this ensures that I have an opportunity to clean them and she gets to control part of her attire for the day. The only problem that has occured with them is one instance when they became entangled in the fringes of a pillow and it was painful for her to get loose, however, that still did not cause her to want to remove them.

Answer 6

There are many reasons parents get a child's ears pierced. I chose to get my daughter's ears pierced when she was 3 months old. The reason? Baby's do not have the coordination to grab at their ears yet, which leads to infection, removal of the earrings and choking, etc. By the time she was old enough to grab at them, they were healed, and beautiful. Small studs look very nice in a baby's ears (especially if its a girl and she has no hair). My daughter had hair, so that was not my reason. I was extremely scared when I was an early teen to get my ears pierced. My mom fought me to get them done because I was a tomboy and always had short hair. She wanted me to have earrings to show I was a girl. I remember being held down in the chair to get it done. It was traumatic to me.

But because I did my daughter's early, the trauma (if any at that age) is not memorable to her, she did not cry much at all and she still has them (now she is almost 13).

I think it will bring joy to you to buy her a beautiful pair of earrings or to pass on some of your own heirlooms when you feel as though it is ok. I wouldn't be angry, but it is certainly ok to feel the way you do. I am sure you will come to terms with it in your own way.

Answer 7

I am personally against young children getting their ears pierced, I think it is very cruel. the pain & suffering of that child is not neccisary. and a baby can't even tell you they are in pain! even as a adult with my ears having long since been periced it is painful to fall asleep with earrings in. I think since it is the childs body that it should be thier chioce. I personally waited untill my daughter told me herself that she wanted them periced. Then I made sure to tell her how much it would hurt. then if she still wanted to get her ears periced then I am ok with it. She decided to do it any way. But I let it be her chioce. she was 11 years old I think.
some parents just don't have the childs best interest at heart. they are the same parents that smoke around thier kids fully aware of how bad it is for them. I will get a lot of thumbs downs from the smokers but it is undeniably true.

Answer 8

My mom had mine pierced when I was a baby. I don't remember it, and I'm glad she did because I would have just gotten them done now anyways. If I didn't like them when I was old enough to know what they were, I would have just taken them out and the holes would have closed. It's nothing serious. There isn't a reason for you to be angry...it was the parents decision, not yours. Not trying to be rude but there are too many grand parents these days trying to interfere with the way their sons/daughters are raising their own children. It's not child abuse, and parents don't do it with the intent to harm their child or treat them as a "fashion accessory". That's a rediculous statement. That's just like saying parents dress their children up in cute clothes just because they want them to be their fashion accessory.

Answer 9

I don't blame you for being mad. Who had it done, the other parent? If so then are you divorced or married? Had you talked about this prior to it happening? My daughter had her ears pierced at 6 months but both me and my wife agreed on it. It didn't work out to good though because she kept pulling the child locks off of them. They say it is better to pierce them while they are young because it don't hurt them. I like piercings myself but who ever did this should have consulted you if you are the childs legal guardian. If you are not the legal guardian then I ask you why not. But just talk to who had it done and find out their reason and if yaw are devorced let them know you want to discuss stuff like this prior to it happening. Just make sure that you consult the other parent about anything you do to the child such as cutting hair off and such aswell. Good luck and forgive and forget.

Answer 10

I have two girls and I got my first daughters done when she was 10 months old because she wouldn't remember it. It doesn't hurt anymore than a shot. I tried to get my second daughters done when she was about 10 months also but she lost one so I just took the other one out. I just figured that I will do it again before she turns two. Both of my daughters did not grow alot of hair very fast and they were always being mistaken for boys if I had them in clothes that weren't pink.