I've read alot of people saying "I cheated because I wasn't getting what I need..."
Anyone out there willing to say "I scr*wed up and I was stupid and I feel horrible about it". No positive spin about it.
So anyone just think their affair was just the stupidest thing they have ever done?
2006-10-17 07:37:51 · 5 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After 20 hours only 5 people answer. I think this says something about human nature, but I not sure what yet.
2006-10-18 04:21:02 · update #1
Your question has been up for an hour and no takers. That's funny.
Exactly what I expected. No one will take responsibility for their actions. It's always someone else's fault.
I haven't cheated, but I hope I would take full responsibility if I had. Perhaps that's a personality trait of cheaters - an inability to take responsibility or stick to a commitment
2006-10-17 08:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, and no. Mine wasn't/ isn't truly an affair because I have filed for divorce, and that was coming before the new 'relationship' ever developed.
Anyway, I started seeing my soon to be exhusband's cousin. I was emotionally hurt and going through it because of a hellish relationship with my husband. His cousin was everything that he wasn't, but wished he was.
It was totally rebound, and totally selfish. So this is the crossroads that I am at now. I want to be done with him, and move on with my life, and take care of my own business. I don't feel ready to be concerned about another person right now, and i don't want to hurt him.......but he is like gum on the bottom of my shoe. He won't leave me alone. I haven't actually asked him to, but it's because when I even do something as simple as taking time out for myself......he wigs out and thinks I'm gonna leave him.
He is very sweet, and considerate, and loving and affectionate.
He is wonderful. But i am just not ready for a relationship. I am not ready to be someone's significant other. I just told him today that I don't want to ever be married again. (He actually proposed marriage already). And he has cut off his family, even though no one knows about us......he has done this ahead of time in the event that they ever DO find out.
So, now I think that involving myself with him was the stupidest thing I've done in a very long time. But......my hormones were going crazy, and he was there. (My husband has been incarcerated for the last two years.......and I was faithful and trying before I filed for the divorce. After I decided it was over, his cousin and I had gotten close.....cause I was helping him solve a problem he was having.......and one day we went to lunch, and were hanging out talking at his house............and next thing you know, the clothes are on the floor, and we are doing what grown people do.)
Sad thing is...........it wasn't as great as it was with my husband. I think I just used him as a substitute for what I was missing and didn't have in my marriage.......and the slight resemblance didn't make it any better. It wouldn't bother me so much if I cared about him for who he is...........and who knows, maybe I do...........but I'm just so torn and confused because I haven't had time to sort out my own stuff, and having him sit up under me like a puppy doesn't help the situation. So........I'm kind of regretting it now.
Sorry so long, but I needed to vent!!!! Thank God for anonymity!
2006-10-17 08:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yep that would be me! stupidly did it all for revenge and anger and am totally paying the consequences for it today but can't take back the past can only make sure it never happens again by remembering what it got me I've lost everything and it was not worth it. I probably will never find a nother mate that loved me like the won I had did.
2006-10-17 18:48:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok , here i am. i was stupid , i made a bad mistake! i regret it! i wish i could undo it! but thank god , you honey are the only one who knows , not my hubby....it would break his heart. but thanks i needed to get it off my chest! i have a few more confessions , just ask? i am honest an play no game on here....smile. jd
2006-10-17 08:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did and I probably shouldn't have, but the p*ssy was fantastic.
2006-10-17 08:45:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋