Basically, me and my ex-partner split up 4 months ago. We have 3 year old and we still gett to see him half as much as each other and it hasn't gone to court.
Here's the thing though everything I say or do doesn't seem to want t bring her back. I've joined the same gym as her last week. She came to pick her son up yesterday and told me she was going to the gym tomorrow, (which is today) at 8. Why did she tell me?
So I've decided to go to the gym at about that time so that I bump into her, but I'm not sure what to say to her or do? She's sending me mixed signals.
2006-10-17 06:43:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe she's trying to fill up awkward silences with chit-chat, and that's why she mentioned the gym. Leave her alone - let her come to you if she wants you.
2006-10-17 07:35:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop chasing her! Try talking to her if you haven't already done that, open your heart to her and tell her how you feel and what you want, then ask her what she wants, you may put your heart at risk by doing this but it makes you a better person..You put a stop to her games"if thats what it is" Nothing is ever really what it seems and communication is the key. No sitting on the fence here, sounds like love is already there and has been for awhile..Love is beautiful, not to be played with, human emotions are very real and some don't have the insight to know this. After your talk if it is not successful for you, give her some space or ask if she needs that..Playing hard to get has been around for centuries..If there is a chance she could lose you she might rethink her strategy..Stop going to the gym!!
2006-10-17 07:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by rainbow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I've been in her shoes before, she is basically missing you. It is hard when you two have a child together, because being a single parent is a tough job, you have to do it all on your own. She honestly probably really cares about you, but it would be better if you stood your grounds it sounds like she might be more willing to get back with you if you stay strong. Don't go and she'll be asking again, then you'll see what i mean. I suggest that you not go and see what she says. Also it would probably only make her feel better knowing she still has alittle bit of control over you-( if you were to go) good luck!
2006-10-17 07:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by lisnalec 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 16:08:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to just play it cool. Enjoy the time that you do spend with her, and make a point to NOT argue about anything.. Reconnect with her as a friend, and see where it goes. When she is ready to send you a good solid signal on if she wants you back.......... trust me, she will. She knows YOU, and you know HER, so just be friendly right now, and be friends like you would another, and enjoy what time you do have with her. Get to know her again as a person..........not your x, or your sons mother, but as her........... as a person. Blessed be........
2006-10-17 07:53:03 · answer #5 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go to the gym with any expectations. You know how you feel now let her realize how she feels. Just be a friend. See what happens.
2006-10-17 07:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she told u that she is going to the gym then go if u want. when u see her just say hi!!! act she is ur friend then walk off. then if she comes to u and starts talking then yes she might want to be with u but she might want to take things slow!!! good luck
2006-10-17 07:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by mustangsweetthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not sending mixed messages. You are hearing what you want to hear. If she wanted to be with you, she'd say so. She doesn't . You need to move on, and stop holding on to something because you want it. It has to be a 2 way street, and she's not driving.
2006-10-17 07:11:41 · answer #8 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh... yeah..... your a stalker.... Joining the same gym as her.... get a life... maybe she told you she was going at 8 so that when she went at 6 you wouldnt be there
2006-10-17 07:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by wilfreds805 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her what's up and tell her how your feeling dont' be defensive and be willing to listen with open ears
2006-10-17 07:24:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋