After a stressful few months, my partner and i took a break from each other. We met up then last Friday and he told me that he wanted me in his life, that he loves me and wants everything to be ok between us. We then arranged to see each other yeaterday but he sent a mesage to say he was feeling unwell and that he would see me tomorrow (today). Then today, he sent another message to say he had to go out to see a friend as he was helping him sort out some finances and debts with him. Am i wasting my time with him or should i give him the benefit of the doubt. We have been together over 2 years.
2006-10-17 06:42:33 · 19 answers · asked by carolina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I wouldn't give up just yet. You have over 2 years invested in this relationship and it sounds like it is something you are still interested in continuing. It's a little disappointing that he backed out twice in a row but I don't think that necessarily means he's not interested. Sometimes one does feel unwell, and sometimes there are other things that need to be taken care of that maybe had been forgotten or was urgent for some reason. Since you have been together for over two years and he already expressed his love for you and his desire to have you in his life and continue the relationship, he was probably counting on you to understand and assuming you would. Maybe not too bright on his part considering the situation the two of you are in but I don't think it reflects lack of interest. If he wasn't interested in you, he wouldn't have bothered telling you he was and arranging to see you. I say give him one more chance. It's only been two strikes right? Three strikes and he's out, lol! Good Luck.
2006-10-17 08:00:41 · answer #1 · answered by Super-Mom9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him make the moves for now. Just act as though you are going on with other things. The first time he trys to reconnect with you, tell him you can't you have plans BUT, make plans for him to come by the following night for dinner. He will agree at the point, if he sends you a message saying he has to cancle on the plans YOU made, then forget him and move on. He is having commitment issues and back tracking on what he said he wanted and he may just need the time to think over his own life. That means that its not YOUR fault, and it has NOTHING to do with you personally. Its HIM, and how HE feels. YOU are ok, YOU are not the *problem* he is. But, this is one way to find out what step you take next and where his head is. I hope you try this, and I hope I have been of some help. Blessed be...........
2006-10-17 13:56:07 · answer #2 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should give the man the benefit of the doubt, I mean, if he didn't want to be with you, he never would have brought it up telling you he wants you in his life. Sometimes things happen and it's really bad timing but if he wants to fix things then at least give him the benefit of the doubt until he proves otherwise. BUT if he keeps putting you off, I'm not saying let him string you along. If he keeps putting you off and avoiding you, then maybe he wants to take back what he said about fixing things, in which case you need to just come straight out and ask him.
2006-10-17 14:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Got DOUBT then get OUT.He sounds like he's already moved on and wants to keep you hanging on.His friends, evidently, are more important than this relationship.Waste no more time---the Good ones are passing you by with this drama in your life..You said stressful months? See it was longer than a day--he's made up his mind--open your eyes...
2006-10-17 14:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is cancelling on u then just leave him alone for a while!!! when he calls u or even text u just dont answer. if he really loves u and wants u in his life then let him come back to u!!! dont sit there by the phone waiting for his calls u go out and have fun with friends or family!!! dont hook up with guys just go out to get him off ur mind for a couple of hours
2006-10-17 14:21:26 · answer #5 · answered by mustangsweetthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont give up quite yet. If you give up now, he is going to think that you never really cared in the first place. Just let him do what he has to do and at the same time you go about your normal activities also. Dont worry though, everything should work out if you let it.
2006-10-17 14:42:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
call that boy up and ask him if he is putting you of or he really was busy and that he can't keep stringing you along. . . .
if he wanted you back in his life that much wouldn't he have cancelled
*noticed i said boy not man!
godd luck and please don't take my answer to much to heart and do think about it you could be wasting your time thinking about him and "mr right" could have just walked past you with a smile
2006-10-17 13:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by Charlotte.♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just from personal experience, if he isnt willing to put you first, he never will. a man that is worth you will always make u the most important thing in his life. it is time to let go, and find that one who will make you first for everything.
2006-10-17 14:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever read the book, "he's just not that into you" ? you should...its a great insight book written by a guy who use to treat women bad and used his experiences and those of his peers to write this book.
2006-10-17 14:49:24 · answer #9 · answered by Carmen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't first in his life now, what can you expect in the future. Time to move on.
2006-10-17 14:07:32 · answer #10 · answered by Letsee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋