i love my boyfriend so much the best sex everything, but i'm moving back to my home town and i'm stuck on what to do. i miss my family back home, but at the same time i love him and don't want to leave him i need help what should i do.?
2006-10-17 06:41:43 · 25 answers · asked by dnelly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Famly is more Important...your future is more important...if he loved you as much as you love him. He'll find a way to be with you.
2006-10-17 06:47:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be able to answer your question better if i knew how old you were, and where you were in your life at this moment. If you're looking to move home, then you're probably not at the right place for a relationship. Then again, if he really cares (and i know this from experience), he will find a way to spend time with you. But i have a feeling in a month or so, you will have found someone new, and this question will be moot.
The normal remedy if he was a stand-up guy would be to propose an alternative to your dilemma, like getting married or getting a place together, complete with stocking up on frequent flyer miles.
Wish you luck!
2006-10-17 13:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by diagofaldi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that problem before, I met this guy and we were filling each other but I had to move home to take care of some business, the guy wold come visit me on the weekends and also work two weeks straight so that he could spend maybe 3 days with me. He ended up moving to were i am know and we are now married . So be patient if he really loves you he do the right thing.
2006-10-17 14:57:37 · answer #3 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation! I'm going back home shortly, and although he says he's coming, something tells me not to expect it. You need to weight out the pros and cons of the cities. For me, staying here would keep me from furthering my education, and my family, plus this town is just stupid, but being home is where my heart is, school, warm weather, happiness. Is he worth the stay? I've asked myself that numerous amounts of times, and I have come to the conclusion that if he doesn't want to to get out this town, and move on to bigger and better opportunities, then he can stay. I'm not going to jeopardize my life, dreams and plans for him. I know, harsh, and I love him, I really do, but that's what I have to do, to do me, ya know? Girl, we should talk about this, for real! whiterashonda@yahoo.com
2006-10-17 13:55:04 · answer #4 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are the hardest. Why don't you visit your family from time to time and stay with him. You can also ask him to go with you. Talk with him about it if you love each other there should be away to work it out for the both of you. One way to look at it is this way your family will always be your family but you can't have children and marry your family (you can but I wouldn't suggest it it's sick)you know everyone has to eventually "get their own life"
2006-10-17 13:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to your hometown. Ask if he'll come with you. If he doesn't want to come then just leave. Its hard, but you don't want to stay where you are just cause of this one guy. It times like these were i make a checklist of the pros and cons. I know, it sounds stupid, but sometimes it helps you figure out what is best for you. Hopefully, no matter what happens, your boyfriend and you can stay close.
2006-10-17 13:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by Brittany P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, one of a few things: Ask him to move closer to you; Don't move; Have a long distance relationship (challenging but not impossible if both of you are mature enough); Break up. Only you can decide which is best for you.
2006-10-17 13:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be nice to know how old you are and how long you have been with this boyfriend. but beings that i don't, if you really love him then why not ask him to go with you. and if that's not possible. and you really want to be with this guy and you see a future with him. then it is time to cut the apron strings, sure go home and visit, but if you love him and want to be with him then when you visit is over go back to him. he could be your future,and that's what you need to focus on not your past.
2006-10-17 13:54:28 · answer #8 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him move with you in your hometown. Don't go living with your parents; if you live in the same town, it will be very easy to visit, and you could live with him and get the romance happening.
2006-10-17 13:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him that much and he loves you back then can't he come with you that is what love is all about taking risks and trusting your heart AND your mind. . . .
if this is not possible because i understand in some lifestyles its not then can't you visit your family for holidays after all you have to own your own life without your family one day
2006-10-17 13:50:40 · answer #10 · answered by Charlotte.♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is hard one but, Me in my case I always choose family
Others would say choose love cause you never now when it will come around again.
But I say if it is meant to be
Let him go ,
and if he comes back it was meant to be.
I know this will be a hard decision
and I might of not helped much
but this is how I think
Good Luck on whatever you decide to do
2006-10-17 13:53:26 · answer #11 · answered by Solitaire 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋