how do you get a child to tell the truth when he lies about everything and doesn't care (he's 13) my step son

Answer 1

That's a tough one, ....Well its like this most kids that have a habit of lying usually think that even if they are telling the truth people would not believe them. Even though he dose lie try believing him first until its proven to be a lie instead of automatically making the pre-decision that everything he says he have to be lying. If this is already done and he still lies just for little non important things,things that you just don't see why he lied. i would say its a deeper issue that needs bigger resolutions because there is something wrong to where he FEELS he has to lie about almost everything if not everything. Some times if they know you believe them give the issue an opportunity to be true they will start to be honest but if they think "it dose not matter they will just think i am lying anyway" then its why not lie. but if trust is seen then maybe they will try to keep that trust

Answer 2

There has to be a reason behind the way he is acting you need to be able to communicate effectively with him and allow him to do the same with you if you feel at all that he cares about you tap into his feelings and yours try not to be the stepparent for just a moment but a friend try to remember what it's like to be 13 and think you know everything you should be able to talk about what he's doing and how it makes you feel and vice-verse if you two really care for one another then have some empathy and try to listen and understand.what the other may be feeling and going through and remember your the parent. SO TAKE THE LEAD

Answer 3

Has his father or mother tried counseling and if counseling does not work then go together and try family counseling and the other parents should also try to make an effort to be there too. Take things away from him such as computer ,phone,mall time ,friends time,movies anything he enjoys take away untill he learns to tell the truth.

Answer 4

take away all the things that he likes to play with. and all the things he likes to do dont let him at all. tell him this "since you dont wanna tell the truth, that leads to a troubled life and you're one step closer to it. if thats the way you wanna live then go on ahead." with that he'll get into minor trouble and when it gets major and the police are invloved do not go to the rescue just say "this is what you wanted and this is how you have to deal with it."

Answer 5

well you could try to plan something not bad but something to get him into trouble with you so he is going to be saying the truth but you are going to keep on saying to him well I dont know you lied all the time!! then he will start to say the truth,,,

Answer 6

YOU don't. You get his father to handle the situation. You'll drive yourself crazy if you expect yourself to be able to exercise discipline over a kid who doesn't recognize your authority.