2006-10-17 06:25:45 · 49 answers · asked by Tamekia Anderson 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd give it a little time and make him earn your trust back, the last thing you need is to get tangled in a web of deceit.
2006-10-17 07:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already know that you shouldn't. Don't come online looking for someone to calm your conscience. You know that what he did is MAJOR. Marriage isn't the band aid that is gonna stop a GAPING wound.
All you will do is be LEGALLY JOINED and miserable. He isn't worth marrying if he didn't ask BEFORE, and if he was on the phone with his ex.
I'm not saying never marry him, that is entirely up to you. But you better let some time pass, and work these issues out because just because you get a marriage license, have a ceremony, and get a ring......doesn't mean that if there is an issue of dishonesty and infidelity then it will go away. Be smart, and take some time out to evaluate everything.
Give it a year from today. If things get better and not worse, if he is honest, considerate, mature, ready for marriage, as demonstrated by his ACTIONS AND HIS WORDS.....then go right ahead. But don't think that getting married will mean fidelity. And don't think that another woman won't sleep with and pursue him just because he is married. It will happen even MORE SO, ESPECIALLY if she was an ex.
2006-10-17 08:20:35 · answer #2 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you have to ask other people what you should do then you are not sure if you really want to marry him. And, also there is no reason for him to be still talking to his ex unless either she has a boyfriend or you know for a fact there is nothing between them anymore. Regardless, you caught him in a lie and he feels like sh-t because 1. he f-cked up and 2. he feels stupid that he got caught so he is trying to make up for what he did by telling you what you want to hear (proposing) I think right now he's rushing into things because of the circumstances. Work out your problems and worry about marriage later. There is no rush. Make sure both of you are ready for it. Not pushed into it by situations.
Good luck! ♥
2006-10-17 06:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by DiVenanzo™ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking this question i think you already know the answer & just dont want to do what you know you should do!...at least you should put it off dont do any thing too soon & see if his actions with his ex continue!....there is no need to rush into something that you may and probably will regret...and im not trying to sound insensitive just being honest,i wish you all the best!
2006-10-17 06:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If him *talking* to his ex is that much of a problem for you, then no. He even shouldn't have had to apologize.
If you were implying whether he was husband material or not, then yes. I don't see any problem in talking to ones ex as long as it's really just *talking*.
2006-10-17 06:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by nik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends one the circumstances. Many people stay on friendly terms with their ex's, it's not a bad thing in and of itself. Were they talking about the weather, or was it a sexual kind of relationship? The latter in a red flag, for sure.
2006-10-17 06:32:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you to answer yes or no, but from what I perceive, he;s a bum that might cause you a lot of concern later. It appears you don't trust him. Marriage or long-lasting relationships will fall apart for lack of trust in each other. Send him packing, and make sure he understands that you deserve his complete attention.
2006-10-17 06:41:36 · answer #7 · answered by persnicady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends.
What part of his life is the "ex" in? Does he consider her a friend or more than a friend?
If more than a friend...NO!
If a friend (which is certainly possible...I have that experience)...then do what you want to without the ex being part of the question.
2006-10-17 06:33:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say yes, but watch his ways, if you find that he's too chatty then deal with it or break it off. You should also talk to him and find out where he stands with you and his ex-girlfriend and work something out.
2006-10-17 06:38:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him. He was just having a converstation, one does not mean does he not love you. Think of it this way he proposed to YOU, maybe he was asking what she thought you would like, guys ask other girls before they propose.
2006-10-17 06:33:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋