2006-10-17 06:06:38 · 21 answers · asked by tazgirlpa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only separated 1 1/2 months and everything is the same as when married except he doesn't live home. I take care of our 2 children and the house while working full time. He says we have to take baby steps and may reconcile it's just not been long enough apart.
2006-10-17 06:33:07 · update #1
no hope...get a divorce yourself and move on..
2006-10-17 06:13:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you considered that it is cheaper for him to remain married to you and live apart? If he is not currently paying child support, he should be. Did you know you can get child support, even though you are still married? Go to the local child support office, get the ball rolling. This does not mean you are giving up on your marriage, you are just taking care of your kids. Also talk to an Attorney, you have essentially lost half of your income, because he moved out. Make sure your are covered.
2006-10-17 14:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by impatientone_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always hope for any marriage if you're willing to put in the time and commitment necessary to make it work. I read this book, Seven Secrets to a Successful Marriage, and it talked about several couples who had problems but through counseling, each and every one of them stayed together. There were many cases where divorce was imminent but in the end, everything went very well. It really does work to go to counseling or to try to work things out with your husband, you'll be surprised what kind of results you can get from trying your hardest. Don't give up, you love this man and he loves you deep down. Don't you want to know what it feels like to have fallen in love with him for the first time?
2006-10-17 13:15:58 · answer #3 · answered by ravensfan172003 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Taking baby steps lets him have time to work on himself and get it togther,and also you. You have seperated so you can't really think that it is ALL his mistake. You had to contribute to it also because no one is perfect.
Take the time to work out the kinks, and get it right the next time around. Because not reflecting and doing your part means that whatever the initial problem was will still be waiting for him when he gets there. It's a two way street.......so do your part while he does his, and rekindle whatever the magic was that brought you two together.
2006-10-17 14:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok ask yourself these questions., do you nag and whine too much. Sorry, but it does sound a bit like it......put on a few pounds lately? When was the last time you gave him Oral to completion? where..outdoors, in front of a movie, what about Anal? does he like BDSM are you ever ready to submit to his pleasures? Because if you are not thousands of girls out there will, and pretty damn quick too, get with the program and shape up before you end up lonely depressed and overweight....and I am serious and right..do not listen to the religios nutters, geeky guys, lonely bitter hags, and the betrayed who missed the boat already., xx Good Luck and I do mean it xx
2006-10-17 14:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a question that needs to be asked when you, or the both of you, are seeing a relationship counselor.
There's nowhere near enough info in your question to answer it.
BTW, I have a friend who is "separated living apart" from his "wife" for just over TEN YEARS now and he has NO intention of EVER getting back with her. He's just "too busy" to mess with the legal stuff of getting a divorce "right now".
2006-10-17 13:14:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There might be. I was separated for almost two years and my husband never ask ed for a divorce either. We were planning on getting back together before he ended up in the hospital and died.
2006-10-17 13:14:44 · answer #7 · answered by red1967 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may not be seeking a divorce for two reasons. One - he just may need space to figure things out and he isn't ready to completely give up. =) Two (please forgive the verbage), it's always cheaper to keep her. He may just not want to deal with the cost of divorce and have to divide all his assets. =( I hope the answer is the first but the other does exist! Good luck =)
2006-10-17 13:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by Pimp E 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get both of you to some family counseling -- even at Public Health Unit in the area you live in. Most of these Marital Counseling sessions are low cost or no cost -- you just have to ask.
2006-10-17 13:16:07 · answer #9 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I mean no, maybe, how would we know. Ok seriously if he does not file for divorce and you dont file for divorce and you move in with him or he moves in with you and both of you decide that you want to stay married to the other one then there is hope.
2006-10-17 13:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, there is still hope.
My wife and I were separated for a year and we got back together.
Take this time to grow as a person.
The idea is for him to want to be in your life and for you to want to be in his life. The idea is to choose to be together because you want to be and NOT because you feel you NEED to be.
2006-10-17 14:01:29 · answer #11 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋