He has a checking account ,i cant get my own right now Only my money is in there, He seems to think that he can write a check and just pay me back when he feels like it. And doesnt see anything wrong with this!! ITs almost the end of the month again and still hasnt paid his half. Im getting to a breaking point any suggestions?
2006-10-17 06:01:58 · 43 answers · asked by treez1976 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That is typical guy behavior. They think they can control all the money and since you are a girl you can't talk back.
Take a stand and make him know that you aren't a doormat and that you need him to pay the bills on time because it's not only affecting him - it's affecting you.
Most people on here will say "You should ditch him" but that is their answer to EVERYTHING. Take my advice to heart - and talk to him about it. Anything worth doing is worth doing right.
2006-10-17 06:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
You did not state why you do not have your own checking account. I suggest you start by getting one. If you can't you may want to keep your cash out of his account and when it comes to paying the bills go get a money order instead. It will cost more then most checking accounts this way but at least you will have the money as needed. Do NOT go for a joint checking account with your boyfriend. It sounds like his priorities are not where they should be. Good luck!
2006-10-17 06:13:59 · answer #2 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That sucks for you. He isn't up on the bill thing, yet. I know lots of women who handle the finances of the house, but all the money is put together and its fair. Simply, don't have your money deposited into his account. Go to a credit union and see if they will give you an account. If not, just go to a check cashing place, and you pay your half of the bills when you do. Present him with the bill, say "This is my half, its due on ########, I need your money, I'm sending off the payment." Or something along those lines. I know you can't wait around for him to pay you back, or to pay the bills on time, but you have got to do something. Your money needs to be separate from his, and that's the bottom line.
2006-10-17 06:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Clear out your money from his account. Open your own at a different bank. It is very very easy to do. Don't let this leach suck you dry. Some guys will do this to woman. Act like you are their everything and say they love you or whatever you want to hear and then they take it all. Please move on. A learn from this experience. Never get an apartment with your name on it unless you are alone. Never join accounts with a man unless you are married and you still don't have to join account. TRUST your gut instinct! I wish I did when I was young. Please take my advise before it gets worse. Remember, he will use a sob story, give guilt trips, and promise anything. You are an independent woman and you are strong enough to conquor this mess. Put your foot down honey(swinging my finger back and forth while pointing up).
If mark c is your boyfriend, don't accept the appology...you want results now...and still have seperate accounts.
2006-10-17 06:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by missy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be a financially responsible person and do not let your credit history get ruined for some p#nis, and look like every twit who does, cause it is your fault for making the bad decision to get financially entwined with a frosted flake and it is up to you to fix it and in your best interest also ,get your own account and let him deal with his issues without being an anchor to bring you down, you need to buy a car and a home and obtain other things without a bad credit history or you will be turned down for loans and what not and charged something crazy like 21% interest versus 6% and back in the day maybe this was not so bad, but now even prospective employers and business partners or investors demand to see your credit history and no one wants to hire a frosted flake and you cannot get certain positions that require someone with an intact integrity including credit as a factor, to get security clearance or the awesome deal or job, your issue is so much bigger than one month rent, wake up get away from hells flames ,dont get burned, be a responsible person society can trust ,this includes the ability to just say no to losers
2006-10-17 06:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, it sounds like you have already talked to him about this and it hasn't gotten any better. I say take your money out of his account.
Put some bills in his name and some in yours, that way if he does pay bills late it's all on him, and it won't ruin your credit. Or just get your own place since you know how to be responsible with the bills.
2006-10-17 06:14:03 · answer #6 · answered by *~Mom2aJellybean~* 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your money is in HIS checking account??? Sweetie - keep your own money. Purchase money orders if necessary and keep your cash in a savings account in only your name. If you're sharing rent with both of your names on the lease, keep in mind that any judgment or eviction filed by your landlord will go on both your records. I've btdt, luckily it was my apartment so I sent him packing to his Mama. You seem to be intelligent and responsible... so be responsible for yourself and to yourself. You'll be happier in the long run.
2006-10-17 06:18:03 · answer #7 · answered by just_Fia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Skip the bank and get money orders for your portion of the bills. Make out the money orders to the company you are paying, not to your boyfriend. When your part of the payments are sitting there waiting to go out and he can't come up with his portion and say for example the electric gets shut off he will (hopefully) take note... Good Luck!
2006-10-17 06:11:15 · answer #8 · answered by thecup420 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You allow this? Boyfriend or not you're being screwed baby. Not even a kiss to go with it either.
Sorry....gather up your brass ovaries and lay it on the line. If you don't set the rule down now you'll be taking advantage of and it'll be too late to ever stop it.
Oh..it'll cause a fight. Most assuredly. Not because you're just laying down the law, but because he knows your right. If he threatenes to walk....let him go. Anyone who immediately tosses that up in your face after living together with you is someone you don't want. Obviously he's calling your bluff too but to hell with him. He lacks responsibility and doesn't give a sh*t that it effects you.
Make the move and make it now!
2006-10-17 06:14:14 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Is it an option for you not to deposit your money in there and just pay with money orders? If so I would try that. Let him know that until he can be more responsible and considerate that you are requiring that he pay you at the time it is due rather than expect you to pay for him. Let him know you are not his mother and you should not be expected to pay his way. Unless he wishes you to treat him like you are his mother, in which case grounding him and taking away his priveleges may be the next step. Good luck.
2006-10-17 06:10:49 · answer #10 · answered by april_fay21 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋