What can I do to bring the passion back into my marraige. We have been together for 7 years and have three children. Is it possible to get that new exciting feeling back? I miss the butterflys.
2006-10-17 05:53:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Good for you to want to rekindle the romance with your wife. If you can afford a night out, take her to a nice, romantic candlelit restaurant. If you do not have the funds, at least hire a babysitter and create the atmosphere yourself at home (no kids allowed). Turn off all the lights, put on some soft music, light the candles...and the sparks will fly. Don't forget to fix the dinner first, even spaghetti or mac and cheese, whatever your specialty is. Give her a full body message with oil, kiss her all over her body and tell her how beautiful she is and how much you want her. Leave her love notes on her pillow...call her in the middle of the day and tell her you miss her. Vacuum the floor or do the dishes without having to be asked. Take all three kids to McDonalds for lunch and tell her to go to the mall for some alone time. Romance is about much more than sex. You are on the right course...
2006-10-17 06:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all know that it is possible to keep passion, romance, excitement and sexual intensity alive through the years, we know some friends relatives who achieved this. We also know that many relationships settle into a kind of friendly (or not so friendly) roommate situation. Every relationship has it’s ups and downs, but there are tools that can keep passion perking right along. Here are 10 of them:
1. Be kind
2. Be attentive
3. Be gracious
4. Be patient
5. Be honest
6. Be funny
7. Be flexible
8. Be generous
9. Be available
10. Be physical
Someone has said, "Life is what happens while you were making other plans." Romance is about real life, not about dreams and fantasies of the perfect partner, someday on a Pacific island. Romance and passion are about taking time to enjoy the company of the person you love. Have fun. Do it today!
2006-10-17 08:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It truly depends on how you have been with her as well. If you were showing her that your interest had subsided then of course she will begin to lose interest as well. She is not an on/off switch that you can turn on when ever you are in the mood, and if she is doing the same thing to you then she needs to understand and realize that you are not one either. It takes two to keep the butterfly's flowing not just one! Why don't you take her out for a romantic dinner and show her that you love and want to be with her. Express your true & most honest feelings & desires that you have for her and let her express her's to you and see if the butterfly's & sparks begin to fly again!
Good Luck!!!!
2006-10-17 08:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a babysitter, clean the house and when you're done with that do some yardwork. Then buy her something nice from Victoria's Secret and surprise her with dinner at home with flowers and candles on the table and music playing in the background. Try to make that a regular date thing. Just thinking about coming home to that gives me butterflies.
P.S. Nobody ever said life was easy.
2006-10-17 06:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by saveit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her she is still sexy.....that she still makes your heart race. That even after three kids.....and maybe physical changes......that she is still the hottest woman walking this earth.
Do this by sneaking little squeezes, and whispering naughty sexy things in her ear when she is doing the 'common' stuff around the house.
Take her for a drive sometimes, just you and her, and pull over and get her out of the car to kiss her hotly and deeply, and tell her something like, you have been staring at her lips all day and just had to taste them. Then continue your drive.
Take her to the mall one day, take her by the hand, walk right into frederick's, and pick out some things you want her to try on, and tell her to pick some things too. You don't have to sit on the outside to wait, you can go into the dressing room with her. Let her model for you, and when you find the ones you like, set them aside to buy them, then do something sexy to her.......or do something sexy TOGETHER while still inside the dressing room.
show her that she is still a knock out. giving her that self esteem and approval will send your sex life through the roof.
2006-10-17 06:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure, take her out on a date. Hold her hand, nuzzle her neck, rent a jacuzzi. the butterflies will come back, just with the stress of raising three kids, it kind of overrides the butterflies. Start by bringing her home some flowers, and tell her they are for her just being a great Mom and wife. This works for my hubby everytime!!
2006-10-17 08:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by Lissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-26 21:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take care of yourself, spritz her fav cologne before going to bed, compliment on little things, act grateful for the things she does, take a class together (art, dancing, chess) and learn something new about her...
2006-10-17 06:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by dollface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to come up with new and exciting things that the both of you will enjoy and never stop looking at her or it is the sofa for you
2006-10-17 06:04:15 · answer #9 · answered by scotch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dude, the butterflys are gone, those hormones have ended
do the honorable thing, stay married, treat your wife well and get a girlfriend
2006-10-17 06:01:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋