If you discovered your spouse or partner was cheating on you, (even if they admitted it) and say you had no children involved to consider, would you let your husband, wife, or partenr, stay with you or would you kick them out for good.
This question is out of interest and I'd like your opinions please of what you would be likely do in this kind of situation and could you ever trust again.
On a personal note if I ever found out my spouse cheated on me it be bye bye for good.
2006-10-17 05:28:00 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I doubt if i would be able to forgive him. We went through too much to be together.
2006-10-17 06:32:09 · answer #1 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to answer this from the perspective of the one who did the cheating.
My marriage was going through a really bad state, in law interfearance, and my husband wasnt paying me any attention, or so I felt, and I started a fling, it started when I was drunk, and went on for about four weeks, the flattery, the attention is what I got caught up in, then my husband found out and I realised what a bloody big mistake I had made, and the look of hurt on his face is something I never wish to see again.
He gave me a second chance and this was eight years ago, and the thought of cheating has never entered my head again. I had to make alot of concessions though, to make him feel secure and not give him any doubt, he has never mentioned it again, and has never thrown it back in my face, I dont think it would have worked otherwise, not that I deserved a chance.
2006-10-17 07:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't any concept it is worse because of the undeniable fact that snooping and cheating are the two reprehensible. as quickly as a guy or woman starts off snooping the relationship could end even with what's spoke of because of the fact it shows there isn't any have faith. i might in no way cheat, yet as quickly as I found out my history or cellular records have been each and every regarded at i might end the relationship right now and not employing a questions asked pondering i'm able to't be with every person who does not have confidence me. I even have faith that as quickly as a individual starts off snooping (or cheating) they're basically finding for an excuse to end the relationship. decrease out the video games. in case you're unhappy, circulate away. undemanding as that. The Maury era is disgusting.
2016-12-26 21:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is Cheating.. If he/she has cheated u than u must say bye bye to that person.. Cuz they are now addicted to cheatings and they wont stop it that easily. So Say bye bye better.. If u saw that the person cant really leave with out u and it wasnt cheating but a mistake.. So after 4 to 5 years.. Single freindship is better Or Forgive them and leave way u lived b4.. he/she might has learned enough in last few years..
2006-10-17 07:46:41 · answer #4 · answered by Sensitvie g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we do have kids and he did cheat, I thought like you that if he did it I'd kick him out, but I didn't. It would have made no difference if we had no kids, we made a vow to stay together and I believe in working through your problems, which makes you stronger in the long run. I had to look at my own behaviour from before his affair and although I don't condone what he did, and never will, I have to take some of the responsibility for his unhappiness. It might make some difference that I'm a Christian, and although I have the right to divorce him in God's eyes too, I would always try to make it work before taking that step.
2006-10-17 21:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I simply couldn't take them back. My husband did it to me and it was so soul destroying to know that even when he was saying he loved me etc, he was also seeing someone else and saying the very same to her.
I do believe that if your partner cheats on you its not only about that they are unhappy in the relationship but its also because they don't love you enough to make them not want to cheat on you because if you truly love your partner you would never want to hurt them.
I found out about my husband's affair a few months after it was over but it did destroy our marriage as we knew it, which in my opinion was a very good marriage and we were happy together for many years, but after when I found out, that special bond that was between us, just never would come back or feel the same and it wasn't just about trust.
After several months of recovery, I am now in a new relationship and very happy. So what might seem to be one of the worst things to happen a one point in your life can sometimes work out for the best and I'm glad I did end it with my husband, even although it was a painful thing to do. I just couldn't live with it, to me its one strike and your out.
2006-10-17 09:27:26 · answer #6 · answered by snogger18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never take them back. You couldn't possibly ever trust them again. If they've done it once, for whatever reason and no matter who's involved, then there's always the chance it could happen again. I've never cheated on my wife and i know she's never cheated on me. But if it were to happen, it would be bye-bye
2006-10-17 06:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by slinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so so difficult. It would be hard to trust them and for me knowing he had been with someone else would hurt so much.
If they do it once, they will probably do it again - or was it just a silly mistake? Personally, I think it may turn the person who had been cheated on into an insecure and jealous person who would find it hard to trust anyone!
2006-10-17 09:14:03 · answer #8 · answered by Deemakca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I wouldn't be able to forgive a guy cheating on me. I have too much self respect to allow someone to treat me that way. Only someone with MUG written across there forehead would take back a cheater.......once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater!
2006-10-17 09:39:33 · answer #9 · answered by littlebabygem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would take them back but I would want to find out what caused the affair and then deal with those issues.Trust would also become a major issue.But with unconditional love anything is possible.The eyes are the windows to the soul
2006-10-17 06:58:42 · answer #10 · answered by Aubrey M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i did forgive my ex and we stayed together but then when i found out he was cheating again i confronted him and he punched me in the face and started threatening me (he was never like that before) i would never take anyone back now, there ex's for a reason
2006-10-17 12:47:30 · answer #11 · answered by Emma B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋