MY GIRL is 3 and she is very stoburn. always by the television. and when i put off the tv , she always cries. what can i do.
2006-10-17 05:04:03 · 4 answers · asked by dianelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What is wrong with you people?
This is a 3 YEAR OLD CHILD!
She isnt stubborn, you are lazy. You take the easiest way out - letting TV be nanny entertainment and comforter, then Duh moan when you want her to do something, and she cries.
If you bothered to be with her in the first place then you wouldn't have this problem.
Turn off the TV and LET HER CRY!
Children cry! thats how they communicate and manipulate. 9/10 times its temper or displeasure. You let this situation be created over 18 mths. You have to put up with her tears.
It might last a week but she will get over it, so long as you start interacting and stimulating her. If she watches TV, you need set specific times or programmes. Talk to her about what she is watching. Teach her from it, make it interactive with you by singing the songs, drawing pictures, acting scenes etc.
Before you say what do I know - I have a stubborn daughter. BUT I AM THE PARENT. Im not her friend, although we are friends I AM HER MOTHER. I work full time and have done since she was 9months old. I went thru the TV babysitter phase, but it was just that. Kids need control and boundaries put in place from 2yrs old when they start separating from you. You start giving yourself a hard road to hoe, if you dont start then, but at 3 its takes longer and is probably more wearing to undo what you have done as well as teach them new habits.
If you dont learn to control her now, what are you going to do when she is 7, 10, 15 - just watch the police bring her home?
Put her to bed and start watch all those parenting programmes to give you some ideas. Kids need time and love from parents, and secure boundaries.
2006-10-17 12:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do more things with her. Take her to the park, read to her, play with her toys with her, draw or let her help make cakes with you. Enrol her in a playgroup a couple of mornings a week, she will benefit from that as well as yourself
2006-10-17 13:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be more assertive, make her earn the right to tv, read, play games, cook, talk, have quality time and through what you do together she will learn about behaviour, persevere and be consistant, don't give in to the crying as hard as it is, she learns from you and they are very good at manipulation
2006-10-17 14:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do test you at this age............
Just do activities in the day, or play group will help..........
I think all children go through a stubborn stage so no worries we have all been there...........when my son started school he changed completly its amazing how much there brain needs to kept active....
good luck x
2006-10-17 15:27:01 · answer #4 · answered by xXx Orange Breezer xXx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋