2006-10-17 04:53:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Trying to keep a child young only means stunting their mental and emotional growth. If you love your child, let your child grow up, or you will make it very difficult for them to cope with the real world later on in life. Just be there for them, protect them when you need to, and make sure they don't take on more than they are ready for, and give them the knowledge they need to deal with the real world as it comes. Part of being a parent is letting your child grow up, and if you don't let them do that, you aren't doing your job as a parent.
BUT, if the problem is that they are being exposed to things in life that they simply ought not to be yet, then you may have to step in and intervene. A 9 year old still needs alot of protection from a parent, and it is very good to keep the reigns on what they watch on TV and who they hang out with at schoo. Get involved in your child's life, know who her friends are, who her friend's parents are, and who her teachers are. Be there and be ready to help her deal with whatever comes and learn from it, and to shelter her from what she isn't ready for yet. Just be sure you aren't sheltering her from anything she IS ready for... that is never a good thing. It is impossible to grow without adversity.
2006-10-17 05:52:32 · answer #1 · answered by The Link 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep her in kiddie activities. Make her hang with kids her age. Demand she leave the room when "grown folks" are talking, don't let her watch anything too adultish on t.v- including racy music videos and comedy shows. Make her dress like a 9 year old- nothing too tight, too short, too "grown." My sister had this problem with her little girl, too, but she was much younger at the time. She simply did all the above, and in no time, she wasn't shaking her booty, rather singing "Blues Clues." But that's about all you can do, kids now are a lot different then they once were. Oh, and school- that's probably where she is exposed to more mature things.
2006-10-17 05:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would imagine that she has a sudden interest in dress, makeup, designer clother or what the other girls are wearing....
I would still pick outher clothes, ones that are appropriate for her age.
There would be absolutely no make-up or perfume in her bedroom.
If she starts with whinning and tantrums, you can't give into her.. you must stand firm and hold your position.
I would limit what she is watching on TV and the time on the computer as well...
She needs to spend more time outside being a kid and not stuck in the house......
It might seem that you are stiffling her , but you aren't. You are helping her enjoy her childhood .
SHe will grow up quicker, if we fuss and make everything too easy and too grown up for her...
Treat her like a 9 year old not a barbie doll all dressed up in fancy clothes with an attitude that is not acceptable... You are the parent.. clamp down..
2006-10-17 05:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard and scary out there today vs when we were growing up. I am very open and honest with my kids. Dont shush shush things you dont think they are ready to talk about. It makes for them receiving less than truthful information from other sources. (for example my 10 year old asked me if girls could grow a penis if they took viagra) Some times you have to discuss things YOU are not ready for, but the fact is the stuff is out there and you are better off letting her learn about things from you instead of her peers. Monitor what they watch on tv etc. Even at a friends house. One of my son's best friends mom always calls ahead of his visits to see what the plans are, what movies, video games etc are on the schedule. Do age appropriate things with her and her friends. Don't fall for so-in-so gets to do this and that. You need to set the boundries and show her that there are plenty of things she can do that she will enjoy. Tell her about the things she will have to look forward to. If she does them all now what will she have to anticipate. For example my mom set a series of steps to make up. When I was 13 I could use mascara. When I was 14 I could use eye liners etc. Let her know how much you enjoy her being 9 and not 19. Good luck!!!
2006-10-17 05:46:59 · answer #4 · answered by his temptress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her body may change but that doesn't mean she's not your little girl anymore. I'm grown up, an adult of my own but I still have a very close relationship with my mother. We have coffee together all the time.
You can keep close with your daughter by staying active with her and be her best friend all the time. You'll both be women together soon. This is exciting!
You'll get to open up and talk more on a mature level. You have someone to go shopping with, go to the hair salons and so forth. You're gonna have fun!
2006-10-17 05:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
can't keep them young forever, but you do have the "power" to decide what she can wear clothing wise...kids today seem to mimic little Paris Hilton's..it's so sick to see a pre-teen, or a young teen dressed in a suggestive way..and it's hard to believe that parents are buying these clothes for their children.
Keeping open communication helps as well..know who her friends are ,and have as many activities at your home so you can supervise.
Most 9 year old girls have already had at least one boyfriend..do you know who your daughters crush is.It's a scary world and the media isn't helping!
2006-10-17 05:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by kat k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They grow up fast and there isn't much you can do but try to cherish every moment you have with them while they are little. They will still always need you even when they are grown up just be there for her always.
2006-10-17 05:31:27 · answer #7 · answered by mistypa12000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there isn't any longer something you're able to do different that sit down her down and clarify to her what's occurring. little ones are hitting puberty in the previous and in the previous. some have confidence that its brought about via chemical ingredients and hormones placed into our foodstuff (ordinarily milk). attempt going to any all organic and organic weight-help plan.
2016-12-16 09:11:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you cant keep your kids young forever... and she's growing up... just like you did at one time...
The things she's starting to do are just like the things you did at one time ... its nautral
Don't be to strict on her... and talk to her about things so she tells you things and when she becomes a teenager you'll be able to put her on the right track...
2006-10-17 05:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't keep your children young and if you try to treat them like they aren't getting any older they will resint you. let them grow up but spend as much time with them as you can. it'll make you and her more comfortable and make it an easier transition.
2006-10-17 05:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by smallz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋