Lots of wee things she has done and is doing. Its like she is trying to show me what i should be doing. She lives with us(Im Scottish married to an Indian)while she is studying in this country, most of the time i get on really well with her, i love her a lot but besides the fact that there is no privacy when she is home, i feel she thinks i should be doing more for him and is trying to make me aware of this by doing it for him. I find it hard to explain properly. Whats more is she seems to be quite thick when it comes to knowing when she should back off. Today im in my bedroom and i know she must have known i was upset talking on the phone to my husband and she sticks her head in the door and asks me to ask him something about his dinner!!She could see all morning i was upset and didnt want to talk about it etc and she comes swanning in looking for his shirts to iron! There is a lot of things going on and im getting more and more stressed out, im a wreck and im ready to tell her to go!
2006-10-17 04:50:36 · 6 answers · asked by DKG 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She isnt the only reason im stressed but she is a main part of it.
2006-10-17 04:51:17 · update #1
I would tell her to get out and find her own place
2006-10-17 06:12:28 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is the culture thing.!
I have lived amongst Arabs for the past 30 plus years. I love my husbands extended family to bits, but i cannot think like them, no matter how hard I try.
You don't have to grin and bear it. i am sure that she is an educated lady. Sit her down and both of you write out what you need to keep yourselves happy.
Make sure that at the top of your list you mention that you have created a new family unit with him and that making that unit work is a big priority for you.
You are going to have to blend if your relationship with him is going to work and she needs to see that this is how blended families work. they compromise.
Good luck, but don't make it seem too much fun to her or she may choose a Scottish mate as well and then theentire family will really be down on you!!!
2006-10-17 05:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by Christine H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get on a plane and go to South America with the money you have saved. You take the rest of that money and get her a place for her and the kid. She is a stripper, she can pay her rent after you get her the place. Do not send the cash through Western Union. She will spend it and stay with her mom. Then you catch your return flight and get a second job. Then you file papers to get permission for them to come to the U.S. When they get here...you put them both in school. Have the wife learn a trade and the child get a proper education. Make sure she knows that her stripping days are behind her, or you will put her back on a plane. Best wishes
2016-05-22 08:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her bluntly if she thinks that you are not good enough for her brother. if she says no then tell her the way she acts makes you feel that way. try to talk about it like two civilized women and see if ya'll can't work it out and understand eachothers points.
2006-10-17 05:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by smallz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to go to a hotel or b&b if shes not going to stop interferring ...
good luck x
2006-10-17 05:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
does it matter to you wat she think about you wat is important is he thinks ok
2006-10-17 05:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by bonnie3bd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋