Do you think i should think of having a baby or should I wait another 2/3 years?,,
i know i can handle them and take good care of my baby cus i baby sit alot and i got alot of backgrounds on how to feed them and everything.but im afraid
2006-10-17 04:47:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
well if you asking as to whether or not you should have a baby then you probably arent ready to have one. You will knwo when you're ready.
2006-10-17 05:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by my101201cutiepie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I had just turned 17, I live in Texas by the way. and I got pregnant when I was 18 and had my baby at 19 and we had or second child 8 months ago. I am now 21 years old.. Me and my husband have been married 5 years now and happier than ever, people always said we wouldn't make it cause we were young and they really didn't like it when we had children so young, but I tell you, being a mother is a wonderful thing and Yes I was young but don't let that stop you, as long as you and your husband are commited to each other and you know you can support a baby and you have enough maturity for a baby, then go for it, I don't think age should matter at all. Some young people are still very immature and living with parents but you are already married so you are on your own now, and being a parent is a wonderful thing, there is ups and downs as is anything in life that you go through. If your happy and your husband would like a child.. I say go for it...Jinifer
2006-10-17 05:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, things change SO much when a baby comes into the picture. Enjoy your marriage...how long have you been married? Once you have a baby of your own, you'll see how different things are. Babysitting is a piece of cake in comparison to actually taking care of your child. It's a responsibility you will have for the rest of that child's life....and it's a huge thing that will change your life. I love my son to pieces....and I'm having another baby here really soon....and nothing is "normal" anymore. My life centers around my children and my family.....I was 23 when I had my son and I'm 24 now...there's a lot of things I didn't get to do before I had my babies. Take your time, and enjoy the married life first!! Good luck to you!
2006-10-17 05:39:58 · answer #3 · answered by geminiparody4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very important decision you should make with your spouse. You BOTH need to be ready. I got married at 22, and we waited 2 years before we had a baby. In that two years we were able to work on our relationship, and have some fun as a couple.
We knew it was time to start trying to have a baby when one day we were talking and the subject of a baby came up and we both felt like it would be time to take that next step.
We were finacially set, my husband was still in college, but having our son has changed our lives, and our needs have always been met./'
2006-10-17 05:37:00 · answer #4 · answered by chickensneezer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babysitting is a whole other ballgame than actually having your own child. You are the one responsible for everything that baby needs...late night feedings, changes, sickness. There is no more going out with your husband to enjoy that time. Enjoy it while you can. I have 2 children ages 13 and 7 and my husband and I started young...right out of high school and we missed doing a lot of things that we would have liked to do. Don't misunderstand, I don't have any regrets...just wished we would have waited a little longer to allow us that time to enjoy each other. You will know when you are ready and since you are asking about it, there are doubts...So my suggestion is to wait for a while...You will know when the time is right. Good Luck.
2006-10-17 05:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by Peachz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, If you have to ask, your just not ready yet. You will know when the time is right, and it will be wonderful, not scary.
I'm sure, since you have some background knowledge in caring for infants (your already one step ahead of some people), and also because you asked this question, you will make a wonderful mother someday.
2006-10-17 05:54:51 · answer #6 · answered by POOKIE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you spend at least 5 years getting to know your husband and doing things that you enjoy now because when kids come, you can forget about traveling and going to movies, etc. You are totally absorbed in taking care of the kids and forget about having any time together as a couple unless you hire babysitters.
I suggest that you be secure in your marriage and spend quality time together before starting your family. It will make you better parents.
2006-10-17 05:32:18 · answer #7 · answered by stocks4allseasons 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Prepare yourself for parenting first and understand what parenthood demands. Read some books on pregnancy and parenting. You will realize the responsibility, time, efforts that one need to be a full-time mother, but you do not realize that the father's role is also prominent here. This is parenting and not caring for the child all by yourself all alone!!! Hope you got my message.
Best wishes to your parenthood. God loves you.
2006-10-17 05:44:28 · answer #8 · answered by Spheris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, then your not ready.
Baby-sitting is totally different then having to care for your own baby 24/7.
You should wait.
2006-10-17 05:27:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is hard to have a baby at twenty. i did it at twenty one and it was hard. babysitting, also something i did with regularity (and brillance if i say so myself) was a completely different ball game. it gives you the basics but its kinda like asking your mom to make phillo dough because she knows how to whip up cookies. its hard.
should you wait? why are you asking us? what does your husband say? i know this isnt' much help but no one can answer this question for you but you. sorry.
2006-10-17 05:40:34 · answer #10 · answered by kajunprincezz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋