If your spouse to be told you that they wanted a sexless marriage how would you react? Why would you react in that way?
2006-10-17 04:45:02 · 30 answers · asked by radiancia 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes Y not as long as I loved her, Sex is nice but not a necessity where you cant live withought it
2006-10-17 04:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by a1_friend64 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think if anyone wanted a sexless marriage, 1st off I would not call that a marriage at all. Sex is a part of marriage and if that person is not willing to share that part of themselves with you then it is time to seek counseling or get a divorce. I also think if this person has told you that then they must be gay. They feel the attraction to the opposite sex is no longer there but does not have the heart or courage to tell you that and for what ever reason they feel ashamed to just come out and let you know what is really going on. I was in a marriage that I didn't have sex for 3 months at a time and it is no way to live your life. My reaction finally to all of that was to get a divorce and find someone who was going to make me happy
2006-10-17 11:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by Duece 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would bet that the marriage may be sexless, but your spouse wouldn't be. So, the question really is - Can you deal with your spouse having sex with others? I would say NO!!
That is sad to think about! Someone is bound to be very unhappy. Even more important than sex is the intimacy that goes with it. If you don't have that bond in your marriage, it won't last long. You will need to have your needs met.
Now, if you are both ok with having an open marriage, and your understand that your sexual needs are being met elsewhere, than.......go for it! I wouldn't be ok with that, but to each their own!
The answer to your question is.....I would be devastated, and want to know why he felt that way! My first thought would be that he is gay! I would then contact an attorney and file for divorce. Intimacy is too important to me to give up, and I am not good at sharing!
2006-10-17 12:05:49 · answer #3 · answered by Kailey 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am 52 and know people that did just for the feeling of being in a secure marriage, someone to help raise their children. The man was kind and gentle. After a few years my friend felt cheated. She would never have an affair but the state of her marriage makes her feel very much alone.
He had a back injury and does not want to explore other was to satisfy her. This was not a problem before the marriage.
2006-10-17 12:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by Nani 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My spouse does expect me to stay in a sexless relationship. I'm not going to. I've been planning to leave for a month or so. It's going to take time because I have to save up money and other things. I will not stay in a relationship like this, and I don't think anyone else should either because it's a very lonely place. I don't like it, but I also don't get regular attention too often either.
2006-10-17 11:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would expect that in a sexless marriage that you would also be able to abstain from a lot of things...like the concept of marriage. Your marriage would be nothing more than a "good friendship"...which both you and your spouse could have with many other people.
I don't understand the desire NOT to have sex, especially to deprive your spouse of such a defining marital activity...
2006-10-17 11:57:34 · answer #6 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not the only part of a marriage, but it is definitely an important part! It's a way to feel close to your spouse, and do something that you only do with eachother. Without it, it could definitely ruin a marriage. I recently got married, and couldn't imagine my husband not wanting to have sex with me. I would feel hurt, betrayed, like I'm not good enough for him, etc. So, I would not enter into a marriage where there was no sex, it wouldn't be healthy!
2006-10-17 11:58:27 · answer #7 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a victim of a sexless marriage.Didnt plan it that way.
2006-10-17 11:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by Nevada S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There has to be a reason for that kind of request so I think the spouse 'needs' to explain why. Saying "just because" isnt enough.
2006-10-17 11:57:11 · answer #9 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No way, God Created sex for a husband and wife, check this person at the door, you seriously need to re evaluate the situation
2006-10-17 11:58:52 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that lots of relationships are successful without sex ex. family, friends, and co-workers. A marriage that is without sex is one step away from divorce court.My advice would be to leave not cheat.Don't lose your morals just because they lost their mind.
2006-10-17 12:05:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋