What are your views on bi racial marriages????

Question

I have been married for almost 2 years to a black man. He is my whole world he treats me like a queen but it seems like it is hard for osme people to get over his color. I was married to a white guy who beat me up twice and almost killed me and it seems like"that was ok" to some people.

Answer 1

I'm in favor, but that's just me. Sadly, some people will take issue with it, but if you are both in love that shouldn't matter to either of you.

Answer 2

I'm from Brazil. Almost everybody in this huge country have white, black and Indian blood. The races and cultures (Portuguese, African, indigenous) have been all mixed. My skin is pale but I don’t feel like I’m white. I feel like I’m a human being. Despite of it, we’ve got prejudice here, too. It’s not so easy to understand.

Recently, I was searching in the internet for stuff about prejudice. I found an interesting site called “beyond prejudice”. Take a look at it, especially in the topics about “understanding prejudicial behavior” and “reducing prejudicial behavior”. After I read, I realized I’d had some prejudice, too. It was concerned with judging before thinking or having enough information. I made a commitment to myself to change…

What really matter is what people are inside, the love you two feel for each other. Forget what other people may think about you. Be happy.

Answer 3

My 19 year old daughter is married to a 36 year old black man. I was not happy about the relationship for more than one reason. First, he is old enough to be her father. Second, we live in a White town basically. Third, he had been in trouble with the law and he couldn't (wouldn't) hold a job. Fourth, they were having a baby and that was the biggest concern because mixed babies seem to have a lot of trouble and no innocent baby should have to go thru that. We moved them in with us and he found employment and he is trying really hard. We get along really well for the most part now and have some good talks. My daughter is bipolar and sometimes she treats him really bad but he has stayed with her and been thru good times and bad times (more bad than good).

I guess the answer to your question is this. If you are happy and he is happy then who cares what other people think. I have never had anything against black people I just believed that everyone stayed within their own race but being a mother in law to a black man I have to say has been an experience that I have learned from. It doesn't bother me to go places with him and if anyone looks funny or anything I just smile and go on because it is their loss not ours.

Answer 4

Let me start off by saying, if you love him then thats all that matter. Society doesn't get to decide who your heart loves, thats the great thing about being an individual. However on the same note we live in a world that only seems to be excepting of what it has known for a long time. Bi racial relationships and bi racial children took a hard hit in the late 80's & 90's because it was something that people didnt see often. So instead of embracing it, they chose to be against it and treat people as if there was something wrong with them. But as time goes on you see less and less people think twice about it, because its more apparent now than was before. You have a new generation that is more open to alot of things, maybe alittle credit goes to MTV on that one. However it is getting better, its just unfortunately a slow progress. I tell everyone that Gay & Lesbian relationships are going through the same thing bi-racial couples and children did. It's the new bandwagon for close minded people to jump on. But my favorite thing to say to people that have mixed emotions on the situation is... " Why do you care so greatly as to what goes on in my bedroom". At the end of the day if your happy and your treated well thats all that matters. People in this world will eventually have to decide if they are going to continue to be judgemental or they are going to understand that everyone is their own person with their own needs, wants and likes.

Answer 5

I am all for love, no matter the color of someones skin. Unfortunately a lot of society isn't as open minded as the people on here. Take a look at where you live, some places have more racism than others, and there will always be a**holes in the world, just ignore them. Be happy and good luck.

Answer 6

I am one of those that don't care who is with who as long as they are being treated the right way. The way I see it, if the person can't see passed his or your color then you don't need them anyway. If it's your family, tell them to get over it, you are his family now and you don't answer to anyone. I know a lot of people still have a problem with interracial relationships but those are not the ones you need to worry with, only be worried about those you love. Some one is going to find a problem with anyone and anything, it's up to the happy ones to make sure it doesn't get to them. Stay positive. You are in love! That's what counts here.

Answer 7

f.uc.k em!!! YOU HAPPY!!!!!!

Then F U C K what everyone thinks. If you are not being accosted on the streets and people are just staring then the hell with them. There are real problems facing marriages before you start bringing in silly BS like skin colour and some stranger not approving or people rather you being miserable than happy. If you want to be alone and sad and miserable, leave your black man and go marry another white man so the world can sleep easy.

Answer 8

I have no problem with it. In fact I'm attracted to a lot of white men. Black and white I have no problem with. However, the only thing I have a problem with is that Mexican-American people only marry white people because they are white. And some Asians do too. But I would definitely marry someone who isn't black.

Answer 9

I understand completely. I'm in an interracial marriage as well, and I've had people make snide comments in public, such as, "why don't you get with one of your own kind?"
Just ignore the small-minded, bigoted idiots who can't handle it. They don't understand that there is really only one race, the Human Race, and that we're all in this together. The consider skin color or facial features to be things that divide us, rather than knowing that there is actually less genetic difference between Africans and English than there is between English and French. Their concept of "race" is completely screwed up.
What matters is that you're happy, and have found someone wonderful for you. Enjoy it -- that's a rare thing no matter who your ancestors were!
Peace.

Answer 10

Love is what matters. I can't believe that in today's day and age there are still people who may look down on bi racial marriages. Disregard what those close minded pea brains think and follow your heart. If you love him and he loves you, truly, this is the only thing that matters. I am disgusted that there are still people who cannot look past the colour of a person's skin. HUMAN IS HUMAN, you're a damn lucky woman to have found love, not many people do...though they think they do.

Answer 11

there will always be people who will look cross at you but if you love him and he loves you then don't let what other people think interfere with that love. I have sister who is married to a black man and they have been together for about 18 years now, and when they first got together there was conflict in the family as i am from a redneck family, but they stood their ground and in time everyone learned to face the fact she was going to be with him anyway so they all learned to accept him and he is as much a part of the family now as any of the so called "redneck boys'. so stand your ground!!!!!