My boyfriend and I have been together 5 years, should I be persuading for marriage. I want to be with him and he wants to be with me. and I don't want to lose him I love him to much. Let me know what you think.
2006-10-17 04:28:22 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you're both ready (financially, emotionally, maturely) to be married, then 5 years is enough to get to know someone. You won't lose him unless he doesn't want to marry you. Is that the problem here? You're afraid he won't marry you?
Well.. talk about it, match your plans.. don't waste more time. If he has the same wishes for your future together than discuss the possiblity for marriage (the pros & cons of it). If he doesn't want to get married, is it because he is not ready (not right time) or he's not sure with you (not right person)?it's better to know now and loose him than wait another year then loose him.
Ask him nicely about his plans, don't nag him. Good luck.
2006-10-17 04:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by Akai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time you are spending with him is certainly preparing you for marriage. But marriage is a commitment that you BOTH need to make. I'm sure you've spoken with him about this before. As for the "losing" part of your question, I'm not sure that I understand that. If you think marriage will "keep" him, then you are mistaken....the relationship "keeps" people together, not an arbitrary act. The wedding is the public (and legal) commitment that occurs when both people want the relationship to be known and respected. You need to discuss with him the aspects of your relationship that seem to be preventing (or at least inhibiting) the next step of marriage...(work, money, etc.)
2006-10-17 11:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he did not ask by now he does not want or he is keeping his options open. plus people get divorced to easy and sometimes things are just left alone. If you cant handle than you have a decision to make. you see its ironic i was him in a wonderful 5 year relationship i hesitated & lost her. i still love & miss her. but i learned alot from it & have grown to find new love. If this girl is the one i will not make the same mistake. However if i feel she is not rite for me' at that point i will let her go no matter how much it hurts her. i hope i was able to help. if you have any ? its cool to contact me. dado on myspace.
2006-10-17 12:32:30 · answer #3 · answered by DustinM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have waited long enough. You can sit down and tell him that you want to know where your relationship is heading.
Are you over 25? Does he have the financial means to support a family? Do you both have careers and jobs? If so, Ask him, otherwise, forget it.
Good luck
2006-10-17 11:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋