Our family has tried to talk to him and have asked him to see a doctor and he refuses. We have a 2yr old and she is already asking, " why is daddy's belly big" ? I feel I have exhausted all my options. Even his parents have sat w/him and to use his parents as an example. His father is also in poor health, but atleast he does visit a doctor once in awhile. I know this must come from him and his will to survive. But I find my self feeling quilty because i often throw quilt right at him. What, if any other options are out there, can I take?
2006-10-17 04:22:42 · 11 answers · asked by curious2no 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Do you think he doesn't know all this stuff so you have to "tell" him? Absurd! He knows, all right. But smoking is extremely addictive, very few people are successful at losing weight and keeping it off, and nagging NEVER helps. Either shut up and accept him the way he is or move on without him. Harrassing him is soooo counter-productive! If you just love him and don't nag him, he may or may not quit smoking or lose weight, but he sure as heck won't do either as long as people are raising his stress levels to the breaking point by yammering at him all the time. And that includes body language and sighs and head shaking as well as verbal nagging - if you love him, just stop all of that stuff!
2006-10-17 12:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by Maple 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take some time and sit him down with you and your daughter. Get some research information showing the decline in health and both brought on by smoking and show him you are willing to help him quit with any means possible. Try to get him to understand without being overly harsh that he wants to see his little girl grow up. She deserves that much and you dont want her to be without her father. Hopefully that will wake him up to the situation. You shouldnt feel guilty you are all concerned for his health. If he really loves you and his family he will consider your feelings. Try not to make it sound like a lecture though, try to be sincere and maybe he will want to listen. Good Luck.
2006-10-17 04:44:22 · answer #2 · answered by wizsap 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd suggest showing him pictures of smokers lungs or the damage being severly overweight can do. u can find these pictures on medical sites. if that doesnt work how bout doing the female thing. start something fun but that involves exercise and he wount notice hes making a difference. woman do it all the time and men are so oblivious lol
2006-10-17 04:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by Jessi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
EB Gal is absolutely right, and I'm only answering this to emphasize what she said.
Shut up already. You aren't helping him. Either love him as he is, or get the hell out. You can't make him change, and your attitude is only making it less likely that he will choose to make the incredibly radical change that you are demanding.
2006-10-17 12:37:29 · answer #4 · answered by swbiblio 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I quite comprehend what you're dealing with - my mum tried to kill herself previously this 12 months by using taking an overdose. it is months later, and that i nevertheless have not gotten over it, there is not any longer an afternoon whilst i do no longer think of roughly it. My dad and brother do no longer look any distinctive and a few days i think like screaming at them, becase this has handed off, yet they are no longer any distinctive! it is so frightening, yet they are wonderful, which itself seems unfair, yet then you definately could desire to handle college and each little thing else in existence besides. My mum has replaced too because of the fact it handed off, its like she is the newborn and that i'm the grown up. She's extra quiet and withdrawn. it is extra the little issues, no longer great issues which blare out at you. one subject that's distinctive is my mum pronounced she replaced into sorry, and to think of if she wasn't is basically heartbreaking. For you it is going to be like he's not sorry he replaced into stopped. right here all i will declare is to maintain attempting to get by using to him. you're saying you experience offended - and that i comprehend you may desire to do - so maybe practice him that in case you haven't any longer in the previous. maybe thats the set off which gets him to open up? I constantly knew my mum suffered from melancholy, yet i in no way thought it replaced into this undesirable, and so it replaced right into a great ask your self for all this to ensue. maybe its a topic approximately melancholy then - that they are additionally very stable at hiding issues. regardless of you think of, do exactly no longer blame your self, its in all probability something tramatic that handed off to him. maybe there is somebody you could refer to approximately all this - i refer to my ultimate buddy, and bellieve me it quite helps. just to comprehend which you're no longer on my own and additionally you will pour out all your fears to a individual. please respond decrease back to me in case you % i quite do no longer strategies because it form of feels we are dealing with a minimum of a few of a similar stuff. do no longer even think of roughly pay attention to the thoroughly stupid idiots who first respond to you, it quite is huge, and in no way are you in basic terms searching for interest. i individually desire it seems ok xxx
2016-10-19 21:13:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre right youve exhausted all the options. he knows, and wants to die. So let him.
2006-10-17 04:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by David B 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
tell him he has to choose between u and the smokes.
2006-10-17 04:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by Henry P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Jessi's.
2006-10-17 04:44:30 · answer #8 · answered by Potitin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You tell him, simply by leaving him.
2006-10-17 05:28:29 · answer #9 · answered by Brett H 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
make him choose: you or being a fat, smoking, hot mess
2006-10-17 11:32:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋