i have a friend... that grew into an intimate relationship. We became steady after a while but then broke up because she said she cant love me, because she only treat me as a special friend. and i have found out that she like another guy, but admitting only to be friends which i doubt so. she said that they are only friends but treating him like his boyfriend...
2006-10-17 04:16:32 · 10 answers · asked by smileefacee_2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Difference is that you love your girlfriend more than you love a friend. Like you will do anything or change yourself for your gf but you will not do that for a friend.
Love for your friend is emotional but for you gf it is emotional and sexual.
The just be a special friend as a girl can change her mind later. They may like another guy but if something goes wrong then they will realize the mistake they made in missing you
2006-10-17 04:31:36 · answer #1 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be brutally honest but she fell into a relationship out of conveinence. You were good friends and there was a little fling until she found someone who she truly desires. She isnt excited or turned on by the thought of spending a length of time with you. I would look for a woman who is attracted to you in a real way and not just a buddy buddy way.
2006-10-17 04:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by THESHWAB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two types of women in the world. Normal women and psychos. One quality a psycho has that a normal woman does not is that they sleep around with many men that they do not love, including men who are friends or even just aquaintances. It isn't just one thing but a pattern of behavior that leads to a crazy and unhappy life. If she is that type of woman, you definitely do not want to have a relationship with her as it will cause nothing but suffering.
If she is a normal woman, than what she wants is for a strong man to love her. A strong man is one who is used to making things happen in his life rather than just allowing things to happen randomly. He tends to remain calm and in control, especially when things go wrong. Love means that he cares about her and is interested in being with her for the long term.
When a normal woman acts this way, usually the problem is you aren't giving her one or both of these things. You either are not acting strong enough so she doesn't see you as good enough to have children with or she thinks you don't really care about her and will leave her on a whim. This is instinctual behavior for women. And women are MUCH greater controlled by instincts than men are. A woman is attracted to any man that has good genes to pass on to her children. The most important genes are ones where he shows strength like this. A man who shows these qualities is universally attractive to women. However, women also are terrified of being left by a man after getting pregnant or having children. Before modern times, this meant that they would all starve to death. So a normal woman won't stay with a man who doesn't constantly reassure her that he loves her because she is afraid he will abandon her after she has children. Neglecting to show her either or both of these qualities is probably the reason she stopped being intimate with you. Either she saw signs of weakness in you and lost attraction for you or she thought that you only saw her as a sexual fling and decided not to let the relationship develop any further because it didn't have what it takes for the long term.
Fixing this is as simple as showing those two qualities to her. Since you already have a prior history, it is extremely easy to fall back into that pattern. You will be shocked at how easy it is to change the way she feels about you with just a few simple changes to the way you act (did I mention that women are FAR more controlled by instinct than men)?
2006-10-17 04:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she is only interested in you as having a friend with benefits on a lonely night if you know what I mean. Move on and find yourself a real relationship, everyone deserves that. Good Luck.
2006-10-17 04:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes there is.................
True Love
I feel you in my heart
with every breath I take.
I smell your scent of happiness
in every morning we awake.
I touch your smooth and tender face
with every chance l get.
The feeling of your presence
makes me happy, we met.
I know everything, but nothing about you
and I love you in so many wonderful ways.
My heart knows when you’re near me
and it knows when you’re away.
It doesn’t matter what you look like
neither tall, short, skinny or fat.
Your skin is soft without color
and hair as smooth as a cat.
My love for you will never change
and you will always be on my mind.
I wish you could see what I see
from the heart of one who’s blind.
By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra
2006-10-17 04:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you built more and was wide open to be used.you need to move on. there's probably some one out there just waiting patiently to be come the one and only in your life and won't just use you till something suppose to be better comes a long!
2006-10-17 04:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it hurts i mean without the bad there is no good but there are other people out there who will like you more than a friend so go look hun and see what you can find
2006-10-17 04:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by LiL mAmMa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop her like a hot stone!
2006-10-17 04:23:21 · answer #8 · answered by demilspencer@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is obviously confused give her space and move on.
2006-10-17 04:25:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on..find sumbody else.
2006-10-17 04:31:23 · answer #10 · answered by mia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋