My husband used to enjoy giving me oral sex, which I crave. For over a year now, he hasn't devulged in any fore-play and when we do have sex, he just rolls on top of me and does his thing and that's it.
I go to incredible extremes to make sure that I'm asthetically pleasing to all his senses.
Freshly showered every night, shaved, his favorite perfume, etc.
It's a long drawn out process that I put myself through every night before bed just to make sure that in the rare case he wants me, that I'm prepared so that it's a good experience for him.
Should I stop going through all the trouble for someone who obviously doesn't appreciate the effort and just continue with my toys to pleasure myself when I need that kind of stimulation? Or how do I get him interested in oral sex again?
2006-10-17 04:08:22 · 13 answers · asked by princessslave 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I commend the efforts you take in making this work. Don't give up.
Have you actually spoken to him about this? How about a sort of quid pro quo (be creative and enticing). Have you maybe tried visual aids?
And if he does get around to it, make sure you make the...um...'sounds of appreciation'. Just don't overdo it, make sure it doesn't sound corny or fake.
Good luck.
2006-10-17 04:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by endrshadow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow you're doing all this for him to go down on you? and he's not @ all appreciative of this. does he know of the effort you're putting into this, I say keep it going with the toys. Don't stop doing what you doing as far as the process. What you do is let him get into bed first then you join him later in the nude, we he tries to roll over & get in hit him with the 69. Or just tell him what you want.
2006-10-17 12:14:16 · answer #2 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the exact same problem as you except I'm on the other end. Do you give him oral pleasure? If not, he might be boycotting your treasure between your legs until you show him you will do it too. That's the only thing I can think of. Shaved and showered...Yum!!!
2006-10-17 11:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by The Hispanic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to TALK TO HIM. If you just stay quite, he will think that everything is fine. Tell him that you want something more than a missionary position. Lack of communication is the main reason that people don't have good sex lives.
2006-10-17 11:37:06 · answer #4 · answered by BAnne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Ice_princess hit the nail on the head.{no pun intended}
2006-10-17 13:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by Nevada S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it like this.... if you dont get what you want or need your not giving up what he wants and until you are satisfied orally... hes not getting anything
2006-10-17 11:25:05 · answer #6 · answered by ice_princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop trying so hard.also ask for what you want,perhaps he feels it is no longer any fun for him,your toys may be a turn off. Ever consider that??
2006-10-17 11:18:56 · answer #7 · answered by skirickfiftyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is tried of you in the sack...
2006-10-17 11:15:55 · answer #8 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
peanut butter
and the pootch
2006-10-17 11:15:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go down on him, then tell him you want 69
2006-10-17 11:18:29 · answer #10 · answered by TONY L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋