I can't live without my girlfriend :( my life is going down and I don't know how to get out of this without her being by my side. She told me two weeks ago that she wanted to spent the rest of her life with me and now she hates me and wont even answer my calls. I'm not crazy, please belive me I'm not. I'm just in love with this girl and since she left it seems like my life took a sharp turn for the worse. Please if anyone can relate and tell me how they got over this type of situation, i would really appreciate it.... help please :(
2006-10-17 04:07:14 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is obviously not healthy, if you are driven to "thoughts of suicide".
You might be in a codependent relationship...
http://www.mnwelldir.org/docs/mental_health/codependency.htm
At any rate, I would suggest you "move on" from a person who "hates you and doesn't answer your calls".
2006-10-17 04:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by elcycer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joe first of all you need to give this time. Girls often come back over time. So it give it a little while before you do anything so drastic. Also, your life is not worth losing over a girl. I have been in your situation before. I am a suicide survivor. I was having girl problems, school problems, financial problems, social problems etc. You just need to look at the bigger picture though. Things do get better though. I know you hate hearing this but, there are so many other girls out there who a just dying to meet you. If she can't see that you love her so much then perhaps she doesn't deserve your love and divotion. Perhaps someone else out there is more deserving of it. God works in mysterious ways and sometimes you think he is against you but, he is not. He is doing what is best for you. So trust in him with all of your heart and you will be fine. In fact you will be more than fine. Remember if you didn't not know misery you wouldn't know happiness. So, please don't end your life over this. It wont prove anything except you being a coward. It wont help anything in fact, it will make things worse especially for your family, friends etc.. I would find someone to talk to and go from there. Suicide is not the answer though. You haven't exhausted all of your possiblities to make suicide a viable option at this point. So please take care and believe in God. He knows what he is doing. Take care and Good luck.
2006-10-17 04:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by MightyRighty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What caused the abrupt change in mood? No sane person says, "I love you, want to spend the rest of my life with you..." Then the next thing you hear is, "Silence"...
If that is really the way it went down... If by some weird twist of normal human behavior, she's crashed and burned...
You need to stop being so selfish and thinking only of you. You need to focus on what's wrong with her. That's extremely abnormal.
If she's that flaky and you still love her. However, the manipulation of your emotions will not cease. She'll continue to do it anytime she wants something. If you can help her, reassure her that you'll find healing for the two of you.
Suicide? Over a relationship? And you're not crazy? You are either crazy or b.s.ing us to get a response. On the outslight, that you're crazy, I apologize.
However, think rationally for a moment, You are thinking of making a permanent decision to solve a temporary problem. Shake that!!! Nothing is ever that bleak!!! Go get a nap and clear your head. Whatever you have to do to clear your thoughts about this situation.
If you're serious, I urge you to seek psychiatric help immediately.. This is not normal. You need to talk it over with a professional..
2006-10-17 04:24:31 · answer #3 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been given life to live it...do just that...you came into this world without her....you did well before her....now just carry on and make the best of your life. You will be surprised when you find out there is something better out there for you. YOU ARE A SURVIVOR. There is life after her...believe me. It may seem dark now, but the only reason you don't know how to live without her is because you probably based everything on her. Been there, done that...and i do understand the feelings. Once you start placing yourself around friends, or places where you can see, meet, and experience other people, you will see that things are not as bad as they appear at this moment. GET PAST THIS MOMENT AND LET LIFE LEAD YOU TO A BETTER PLACE AND PEOPLE.
2006-10-17 04:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by williesimple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joe, I realize some of what you are saying, and yup - I know the feeling! I believed I'd die w/o my girlfriend too. I just took life 1 day at a time, because if I 'off'd myself , well then there would be no options left, or possibilites of finding the 'us' we had. I've been married for a long time now, and the girl I thought I'd die w/o isn't her. I found another that was just as beautiful to me, AND was as much in love as I was! Since I really can't suicide myself w/o damnation - I just took it 1 day at a time. It worked. married & happy 34 yrs. Give it a try , don't rush in, you are worth the effort.
2006-10-17 04:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by cryptic1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I swear I have been in your position with my ex so many times. I finally had to just surround myself with the people that cared about me and get out of the house more. Take the stuff that reminds you of her and put it away for now where you CANNOT go through it. You can later but just for a while dont. meet others as friends go on a date or two as friends or other. Your preference. Do not spend too much time by yourself. It is hard and people are gonna say you are stupid for even mentioning suicide, but @^$@^$ them, not everyone can hold it together all the time. Love is hard hon' just keep yourself busy and in time I PROMISE it will get better. I have a wonderful new boyfriend now we have been together for almost 5 yrs now. So it gets better.
2006-10-17 04:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by determined26a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off please know this isnt the end of the world.i have been there but let ne tell you ending your life isnt the way to go.you areloved by many many people and you dont know it.you need to find an outlet be it friends family or just new people to talk to about how you are feeling.sometimes things change and we dont know why.she has changed and you dont know why.something has happened it may not be you at all.but you need to talk to someone and soon.when you lose a loved one like that it hurts more than anything you have ever felt befor in life but sometimes it is for the better,mybe god has other planes for you and someone else in mind for you.you dont know.just hang in ther and be strong even if it feels like the world has come to the end it does get better and life does go on.you are gonna fimd someone to love ytou as much as you love them and be hppy and have the life you always wanted justgive it time.god bless you and good luck
2006-10-17 04:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by tiffany_bare2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew a guy once, he was in his early 20's and his girlfriend dumped him. A week later he threw himself in front of a truck and died. Do you really think a girl is worth that? What about your family and friends and the people who care about you? Give it time and you WILL get over her. It's always hard at first, the pain seems unbearable, but it will get better. Suicide is the cowards way out. Are you to cowardly to take what life throws at you?
2006-10-17 04:18:41 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what I think... you need to have the state of mind that no body has shiit on you. No girl or guy is worth doing anything crazy like that over. No one is that good. PERIOD. I was married to "the love of my life" BLAH for about three years, he had 3 affairs (that I know of) and has not lived with me the whole time, even during all of my pregnancies...I now have a 9week old, a 1 year old and a 2 year old...and Im doing it all by myself. I know Id be damned if I let him know I was struggling...Be strong, no one is too good for anyone... Fuuck em
2006-10-17 04:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by maliearhyse32 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude you are not the only one to have felt like this. I have thought about it also but then i think it too easy, what if there is something better to look for. Plus music helps me out, there is nothing like some good blues music. Have you thought about a couselor or preist to talk too?
2006-10-17 04:16:42 · answer #10 · answered by glazer_098 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋