2006-10-17 04:01:18 · 22 answers · asked by angel_808_69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The person who is more mature, mentally, always try to bring peace and harmony in the family. My mother is a very good mother in law she tries her best to make her daughter in laws, feel comfortable and loved, though they don't care about it, but she never gives up and does what is best for the family. Likewise if your future mother in law is not mature enough then you will have to take initiative to bring peace and happiness in the family. After all you are going to be a part of that family, whether she likes it or not. Your question suggests that you are quite mature and cares about her attitude so I personally think that you are good going and I am sure that you will find out a way to get your problem solved by yourself because it is an attitude only, that makes the difference.
Good Luck!
2006-10-17 04:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by goodbye 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
the answer: be a good wife for her son and a great mother to your kids. If that doesn't work don't worry about it. Are you sure she doesn't like you right now or is it just a feeling you have. I do know one thing don't discuss your marriage with anyone in your fiance's family all it does is make trouble. Sometimes that really old saying what happens in the home stays in the home has a lot of merit. My ex sister in law would make out she was my best buddy and then tell everybody in the family. Once you are married ask her what she would like you to call her. I have a son in law and a daughter in law and I would like them to call me mom but they've never asked.
2006-10-17 04:17:55 · answer #2 · answered by oldmomma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want to get her to like you it has to take time because your mother in law has to get use to you and well me personally ive been through the whole father mother in law not liking me stage but i got to know then and soon we were inseperible and i could tell them everything. so what im telling you to do is have a sit down with her like make up and excuse to talk to her like problems at school or boy friend or best friend problems and if she helps you the farther she gets in to it the more dyou learn about each other and the more your relationship will grow.
2006-10-17 04:11:39 · answer #3 · answered by stresshorse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might not,but it a try.Some mother believe that no woman is good enough for there son,it's up to you to prove her wrong.Then some mothers are just jealous of your relationship with there son maybe they feel you would take up to much of her son's time and he won't have time for her,again you have to prove her wrong and show her how much you care for him and you can both share him or you should sit down with her and reason out you'll difference.
2006-10-17 04:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Mother in laws have expectations in their own heads of what they want for their sons. You may be perfect but she'll probably still find something wrong with you. Your husband chose you so just be yourself. You need to make your husband happy not necessarily your MIL.
2006-10-17 04:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by gel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think san_ann68 said it first (nice job!): Sometimes the simplest answer to life's questions IS the best answer.
Really, be yourself.
Be happy with yourself. Do what you would normally do. If you think there are things you can improve in yourself, do it. But for you, not her.
In the end, people are more likely to like people who like themselves :-) Or you can try so hard to get someone to like you, that you end up becoming a different person. You probably won't like yourself, and its a toss up if she will.
No worth it. Go with the simple answer, and let her see who you are in time. And remember, if she doesn't like you 1,2,5,10+ years from now, the issue is hers.
2006-10-17 05:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask for her favorite home-cooked recipe, so you can present it to her at a special ocassion. Act genuinely interested in her. Give your boyfriend ocassional space for just a mother-son time.
Thank her for her part in your life--her wonderful son. And break the ice by saying, "I am really looking forward to getting to know you on a personal basis." Make this about your feelings for her, and she will feel warmly accepted into your heart.
2006-10-17 04:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by flowers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hah. i dont think its possible to "make" someone like you, in general. especially not a mommy who's having another woman take her baby boy. ya know? you'd probably feel kinda the same way when your son is getting married. and it all depends on the personalities of both...i dated this guy for 4 years, on and off, but still very strong and in love, and it was obvious how much i cared for him...i TRIED to befriend his mom for the longest time but she never, not even once accepted me. after a while it seemed as though she'd finally given in some and was talking with me and joking with me and all that jazz...but you could tell it was forced and fake. *not a favortie of mine* so eventually i was just like "screw it, if she doesnt like me thats just fine...im not in a relationship with HER im in a relationship with her son, and there's not much she can do about that" sure she can be pissy and talk **** and get huffy about it and even try to convince him not to be with you...in which case, its all up to HIM what he's gona listen to...his heart or his mommy *most guys will listen to their heart if they're truly in love* if not, oh well...you dont want a guy like that anyway! but YEH as far as the mom goes...i wouldnt worry about getting her to like you...itll either happen over time or not. just make sure when ever she see's you guys together that you are both happy to be with each other, make her see that he's in good hands
2006-10-17 04:40:41 · answer #8 · answered by *wonderful lady* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to first love her and respect her. Treat her like your own mother - that's the whole secret. Always remember this cos it's very important. Good luck.
2006-10-17 04:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell i might like you! But the best thing is to sit down and try to get to know her and show that you are trying to have a relationship with her. If she does not reciprocate then tell your dad that you tried and you dont like her.
2006-10-17 04:12:53 · answer #10 · answered by glazer_098 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋