i jus broke up with myboyfreind im finding it hard to cope and i keep wanting to call him which i no im not supposed to at the moment how do i keep my mind of this.its really putting me down and im so depressed.
2006-10-17 03:52:11 · 10 answers · asked by jollybear 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way!
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all!
By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra
2006-10-17 04:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by Cobra 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this is trite but really, time does help. It's always so excruciating at the start, you think you'll never cope, never be able to go out again, never find anyone else. It's like a huge hole where the other person seems to have been ripped out of you. Agony.
How about your friends or do they just keep going on about him in way that's not helpful to you. You could do with someone to just listen to you get rid of all the stuff that's going on in your head. It's very hard to stop your mind thinking of what you don't want it to. Try not to think of the word rhinosaurus for example.
Get out and do something you really enjoy. And do so with other people you really enjoy seeing. Another person had a good reply: exercise. But it can be hard to motivate yourself to do this.
Did you break up with him or him with you? If you did the breaking up then it could be easier to cope. also if you were together a while it makes it harder. Try not to put yourself in the same places as you went with him or you'll only get upset. I know that's not always possible, but if you can avoid, do so.
Things will get better, not soon, but sooner than you think. Just hang in there.
2006-10-17 04:16:38 · answer #2 · answered by Pema 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No word of a lie.. the best way to get over a bloke is to get another one!! Some people might say this is rubbish and you JUST NEED TIME. Load of rubbish, Im telling you. Ive been there a few times and ive been absolutely devastated and i wish somebody had grabbed hold of me and dragged me kicking and screaming to a pub/club/nearest place to meet people. It'll still take a while but i promise you the recovery time doesnt half speed up when youve got your mind concentrated on someone else!! (Plus theres always something good when an ex sees that your not in the gutter after a breakup and sees you talking to other guys, sounds superficial but true!!) I know how bad it feels, and i cant believe no ones answered you yet!! Good luck
2006-10-17 04:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by Jenie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look ive gone thru the same thing..but ofcourse in my case ive broken up wid my gf...
well the first thing is to divert ur attention from the actual thought of him...u cud do this hanging out wid a bunch of close friends who ofcourse woudlnt bring up the topic..or u cud jus b by urself and listen to music and enjoy the waves by sittin on the sea shore...jus make time for urself and jus keep on motivating and talkin to urself...ull soon realise that ull find a friend within urself...
2006-10-17 04:04:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard for you and if you are that badly hurt about the break up then invite your friends and watch movies and or go to the movie theatre and go watch a scary movie cause well a scary movie takes my mind off of everything
2006-10-17 04:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by stresshorse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really hard to cope on a break up especially when he did not do or did not do anything wrong for your relationship to end.Just keep yourself busy and just think that God has purpose on everything that's happen to us.
2006-10-17 04:02:57 · answer #6 · answered by kimy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, this site might help:
http://www.brokenheartedgirl.com/
1. Distraction, distraction, distraction!
That’s right, distract yourself as much as possible. Out of sight, out of mind, inner plight, fill your time! Make yourself busy so that you can’t focus on your loss. Just make sure you busy yourself with productive activities like exercise, friend-time and focusing on school or work.Don’t get self destructive and at all costs avoid excess of any kind.
2.Cry it out as much as needed.
This is no time to put on a brave face. Your heart is broken, you’re wrought with disappointment and loss, it’s A-O-K to cry a lot. Just make sure that you cry in a private place, no PDAs (Public Displays of Affliction) and if you can’t handle being alone only cry in the company of someone close to you whom you know you can trust.
3.Dance!!
Put on your favorite song, something upbeat or even angry in tone, no sappy love songs allowed! Make sure it has a good beat and a sound that gets you moving. Then get up off your sad butt and dance around. Be silly, be funky, sing along at the top of your lungs, have fun with it. It sounds crazy, and it will look crazy to other people, but getting your real heart beating this way will do wonders for your proverbial broken one.
4.Talk about your feelings with a friend... for a time.
Talking is an excellent way to cleanse your soul and ease your mind. Pick a close and trusted friend and ask them in advance to listen to you vent whenever needed. Warn them that they may get sick of listening to you say the same things over and over but that you really need their help. A good friend will be there for you. Then set a mental deadline in your head, 2-3 weeks is a good one but when coping with the loss of a more serious or long term relationship you may require a bit more time, and once you’ve reached that deadline cease and desist all talk of the matter.
5.Visualize your future, block out the past.
You need to stop living in the past and focus on the future. People who are dealing with a break up tend to play over past events in their head ad nauseum. This behavior is normal and healthy in the early days of a break up but it can quickly become a dangerous and defeatist coping strategy. So after the first couple of days have passed you need to forget the past, good and bad, and look to the future. Think about all the positive ways your life will change; more time for friends, pursuing old hobbies that had been put aside or taking up new ones, and having more you time are all good focal points. When you think of your future do not think of anything that has happened as a loss but try to view it as an opportunity for change. You don’t need to bury your past forever, just for now, and when you can think of the past and smile you’ll know that you’re well on your way to being healed.
Hang on in there babe, I know it won't seem like it now, but time is a great healer. Good luck
xx
2006-10-17 04:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by kchick8080 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else. That is the only way to get him out of your mind.
2006-10-17 04:13:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your girly mates round... have a drink... Or spliff) whatever floats yer boat... just remember if it wasnt meant to be it wasnt meant to be....
take care...
sending huggs...
2006-10-17 04:54:32 · answer #9 · answered by Cat ( " , ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
exercise!!!
2006-10-17 04:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by vt_mom_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋