my son started kindergarten this year and on the second day of school principle asked me to leave after 20 min. in the class room. asked why my son was haveing a bad morning and planned on leaveing as soon as he settled. was told a unwriten rule states a appointment was needed before visiting. I then waited for son to be okay and went home and contacted school board just to inform them of the incident in case of future promblems. no other problems untill after first 6 weeks was over aug 10 took son to school a little late he got upset when i went to leave he ask me to return when i brought my oldest son back to school after eye appointment. I then went to ask his teacher if it would be okay if i returned near the end of the day for a visit,She said that would be fine and I left . returning to the school maybe 1 hour give or take a min. till the end of the day. Then on aug 16 I received a letter stateing a appointment was not made and asked again for me not to return with out one.
2006-10-17 03:50:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
norman777 I agree but like i said my oldest son has addended school there for the last 3 years and Ive never had this kind of problem before Im involved with the schools homeroom parents and for the last 3 years Ive helped with and planned partys and fundraisers never haveing to be at the school sitting in a class for no reason my oldest adjusted fine. But with my youngest hes a little more attached hes doing better besides the two times in the last 2 mon. My point is them are visits that cant be forseen I still follow rules as checking into office before going to class . And just to add frist are you a father with yong ones in school? and last thing if every visit to our public schools are being announced who knows what teacher, principal,ex.... are getting away with agian this is something I hope I wont have to continue and my son as a great year but Im not okay with that door being shut of checking in on my child.
2006-10-17 04:19:20 · update #1
as a parent, we want to be there for our kids... we all understand that.
If it is a public school, you do have the right to drop in. HOWEVER - you need to let your son's teacher do his/her job. kindergarten is a tough transition, but mom being there makes it more difficult to get the child distracted from being upset and on task. kids have TWO personalities! One for school and one for home. Unless he is throwing an all out tantrum - and in that case, the counselor should intervene - you need to drop him off as quickly and efficiently as possible.
Respect the school and teacher by keeping the classroom visits to those times the teacher invites you in for parties and such. If you want to be there more, offer to be a parent volunteer, and make yourself useful by helping out with paperwork or tutoring.
As far as the note you received, if your school has a policy, but if it is unwritten then you probably shouldn't have gotten a written letter. it wasn't WRONG, just RUDE!
2006-10-17 04:13:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if this is a public school, you do NOT need an appointment to visit your child's class or school. You DO have to sign in at the office so that they know who is in the school at any given time. I would contact a local representative(police or such) and let them know the experience that you have had. If a school tells you that you need to make an appointment to be there or that you can only visit at certain times, then that should be a GREAT BIG RED FLAG that something is not right. Any school should have an open door policy about parents visiting. And in every child molestation case that has made the news (in day cares and schools) there has been an appointment only policy and that is the one consistent thing that the officials will tell you, that if you can not visit at anytime,then something is wrong no matter what excuse the school gives you. I would make a stink about this, take it to the local media and pose the question what is the school available only when they want you there? What if you were there to volunteer at the school, helping with children reading or such. I think there is a problem and you should check into it more. It could be nothing more than a principal thinking he/she has ultimate power and is instituting their own rules that violate the school board and state school rules.
2006-10-17 04:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by whatelks67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The presence of a parent in the classroom usually makes the child act up rather than calm him because he knows Mommy is more powerful (in his world) than Teacher.
Schools know this. It's very hard for parents to let go when their child starts kindergarten so they have to be firm. In order to get the children accustomed to the school environment quickly, they restrict all parental visits.
Never promise your child you will return to school. This puts you in a situation of breaking your promise or crossing the line with the school. If your child is ill, they'll call you.
The teacher should have told you proper procedures for a visit. I'm fairly sure you have to go through the administration office for that.
Do you really want your kindergartener to call the shots? It seems that you are letting him control you a bit.
2006-10-17 04:06:19 · answer #3 · answered by loryntoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your actual rights are will depend upon your location, and the written policies for the school and the school district.
I would ask for a copy of the written policies, and abide by those. If you don't like the written policies, go to the school board about them. "Unwritten" policies are subject to abuse - if they insist the policies are unwritten, then you have every right to protest them - again, go to the school district or school board about them. They'll either put them in writing, or back off.
As for your visitation - perhaps the school is asking you not to show up so often because your presence is disruptive to your sons learning? My wife volunteers at my sons preschool, and we've found that he does better and is better at following rules when she isn't there. This is true for many of the children and their parents as well. I'm not suggesting that you're doing anything deliberate, but it may be that your mere presence is disruptive to his ability to focus and learn in a classroom environment. It's tough to learn that about your own child.
2006-10-17 04:06:13 · answer #4 · answered by Chris H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord. No wonder teachers are leaving for other professions.
I am so tired of the parents making all the rules like the schools are doing something wrong by tring to make a safe, consistent enviornment for the kids. Butt out and just send your kid to school. If you really have a concern, MAKE A CONFERENCE with the teacher and principal. You can work out the problems like rational adults in a professional meeting
2006-10-17 04:33:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the Principal.. an appointment should be made before sitting in a classroom with the child(school child). I would consider it very disruptive to have a parent or parents in a classroom.. Perhaps once in a while but just think if every parent wanted to sit in a classroom... what a mess that would be.
2006-10-17 03:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok at my childs school u r asked to sign in and u may go into the classroom, never should the pricipal ask you to leave.
2006-10-17 05:39:19 · answer #7 · answered by tonya j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋