Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year and a half. My whole family loves him and we plan to go married when I turn 18. His family loves my just like I was theirs. But, I don't know how to tell my mom I am pergnant. Help Me Please.
2006-10-17 03:42:16 · 30 answers · asked by miss.lodge_2007 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Just don't worry.Look for a moment when she is not in bad mood.Tell her sit down and make no phones or door-knocking interrupt you.Begin with something like "Mommy,I'm worried because I have something serious to tell you",then tell her(and don't expect her to jump of joy) and ensure her your boyfriend loves you and after you are going to get married,your baby will be born and everything will be OK.She might be mad for a while but don't worry.She will get through it.
When I was 17,I got pregnant too.At 18 I delivered a beautiful daughter and I have never regretted for being pregnant and having my daughter.Now she is a 15-year-old beautiful teenager and I'm overjoyed seeing her(and her brothers and sisters) growing up.
2006-10-17 07:39:23 · answer #1 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you're really struggling with this sweety, and I understand "why." I look at it this way. You say you and your Mom have a good relationship, right? Well, if you are close already, telling her may be a bit of a shock, but she'll respect you a lot more for being up front on this matter. Though she may be disapointed that you didn't wait, she'll love you just as much after you've told her this, okay? Go ahead, because waiting won't make things better, it will just add unnecessary strain to a situation that is supposed to be potentially a "happy" one. Okay? And good luck, I hope I helped you somehow.
2006-10-17 13:32:22 · answer #2 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand. I'm in the same boat, and 2 years younger then you. You just sit her down and say," Mom, you konw that I love you and I would never want ANYTHING to stop the good relationship that we have as a mother and daughter. I have to tell you something and I don't know how your going to take it, but hopefully you take it ok. Mom, I know this is going to hurt you but I'm pregnant, and you don't know how sorry I am. But I will do everything. I'll stay in school, I promise, and I will take care of this kid. I have a responsibility now, and even though you may be upset, there's nothing I can do now, and hopefully nothing changes between us." At first she'll probably be upset, but in a couple months when you start showing, and then a few months after you that when you have the baby, she will think to herself," This is the most beautiful day ever." And she won't regret it, i promise. My mom almost killed me, but now that she holds my son, she is the happiest woman ever to get that gift. So at first she'll be upset but not mad...then, she'll be soooo excited. Good luck! Email me sometime jks_princess1991@yahoo.com
2006-10-17 14:28:25
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answered by hot_chick4eva20032002@yahoo.com 2
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Just take a deep breath and tell her. She may be upset at first, but it sounds like you have a good releationship with her and you and your bf have a good relationship as a couple with both families. If you are planning to get married at 18 and the families know this, I doubt they will have a problem with you getting married a few months early. Good luck to you all.
2006-10-17 14:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you may not want to hear this but Don't get married just because you're pregnant. That is not a reason to get married yes the baby will have two parents but love respect and honor is just a few of the reasons you get married. He can still be in the babies life. TELL your mother as soon as possible because if you are as close as you say she will be upset but she will really be hurt if you don't trust her enough to tell her.She will be your greatest supporter, trust her you really need her now.
2006-10-17 17:04:14 · answer #5 · answered by Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was pregnant at 17 as well, and had the same problem. Because I waited so long to tell her, she figured it out on her own! (when I stopped having a period and my boobs got huge!) It was the biggest relief to be able to talk to her about it. She may be sad because having a child changes your life considerably. But she will support you and love you anyway. You will feel so much better once you tell her. Mother's are amazing, and love you unconditionally. If you have a good relationship, than just be honest with her.
Good luck
2006-10-17 12:26:53 · answer #6 · answered by rtlsimpson 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you and your boyfriend are that serious, why not go ahead and get engaged and see about your parents allowing you to marry now for the sake of the child.
Either way you need to tell your mom, you will need her support through this adventure, and if you do decide to get married sooner than later they will need to sign papers allowing it.
Just tell her. Iam sure she knows you two are sexually active, and everyone knows babies are a result :)
Its not a bad thing, babies are exciting. Iam sure she will be upset at the timing, but what can she do? Hate the child? yeah right. Jsut tell her.
2006-10-17 10:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in a very similar situation to me apart from im not pregnant!
I hav a real good relationship with my mum and I would say that you need to get her on her own when she's in a good mood and jus say that you are pregnant and need her support. tell her that you realise this cant be easy to take in but that you think its right for you and you have thought it over in great detail. It may take a while but im sure she'll be supportive of whatever decision you make.
hope this helps, feel free to message me hun.
2006-10-17 15:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by Jess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will obviously take tons of guts no matter how you tell her, but in the end you will have to. It's better that you tell her instead of having her find out some other way. How about wrtting a note telling her that you're pregnant and leave it some where that you know she'll find it.
2006-10-17 13:10:14 · answer #9 · answered by Fefe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well being a mom of an 18 year old who is expecting her first baby in 2 months i would say just sit her down and tell her no point trying to hide it and you need medical care for you and your little one the worst she can do is be angry with you but if she is any type of mother she will forgive you and things will work out fine
2006-10-17 12:51:05 · answer #10 · answered by misshart2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋