My marriage is falling apart, we have 2 young boys, I'm a stay at home mom and we are financially well off.

Question

I had to sign a prenup which gives me nothing. I have nothing. What should I do first? HELP!!!

Answer 1

See a really good lawyer. Even with a prenup it should only apply to money and assets that he had before you married. You would still be eligible for child support and since you are also a stay at home mom the courts should still provide you with spousal support. If you have nothing he may try for custody of the children. This is the time that you may have to call on your side of the family to help you out with some place to stay until you can get a job . Before you go to a lawyer sit down and make a list of all you and your sons needs per month and don't forget anything. Think of down the road a few years so that you don't have to go back to court in 2 or 3 years to get the support payments raised. School fees, medical costs, clothing, food costs, vehicle cost if you need one to get the boys where they need to be, insurance for the vehicle, maintenance of vehicle, a place to live and upkeep of the place to live ( it doesn't have to be a mansion but it should be similar to the type of home they are used to now) magazine or book fees so they can read, toy allowance, fees for gymnastics or karate. You have to think of all of these things or you will end up struggling to survive with 2 young boys and he will go on his merry way. If you think there is any way to save your marriage do so. If all it takes is some hard work and both of you try maybe everything will work out.

Answer 2

Start saving money for yourself, set up a secret saving account just in case.

Even if you have signed a pre-nup, thet is to protect his assests (real state, bonds, etc) that he had before getting married; however, since you don't work, you are entitled to ALIMONY and assests obtained after the marriage which is marriage property.

You will also receive child support for the kids, I'm sure that he would like for the kids to maintain their lifestyle.

If he is the one that wants out, then he can pay for YOUR lawyer, get a good reputable one. He or she can advise you of your legal options and when papers are drawn, you can request for your spouse to pay for your legal fees.

Do you have a career? Start looking into getting an education to get some job skills if you don;t have one already. Divorces can take months or years, and while he is still responsible for you, you can go to school at night and obtaing a tech license so you can work afterwards.

Yes, you have something, You have the love of your boys. Don;t fall apart now they need you. Be smart and make educated decisions.

Good luck

Answer 3

First ask why is your marriage falling apart? Try saving the marriage first sweetie you have babies. If that is not an option, well there are all kinds of ways to start over. I am 29 and I have started over twice now and it took me a whole lot of saving up courage before I got to that point of leaving. He will still have to pay child support and if he is well off you should be set. I hope the best for you and I truly understand what you are going through.

Answer 4

if you are sure u cants save the marriage then first get a job and a really good lawyer. get dirt on him if possible and ask for a lot of alimony and child support. sometimes the reason the marriage failed Will override the prenup. talk to a lawyer he will tell u where u stand and what u can do legally. good luck.

Answer 5

go to a lawyer he has to provide for the boys and if you can find a loophole in the prenup great.If not nows the time to plan.Never leave make it seem like you are ok.If he leaves thats abandoment.Next its time to start liquidating some assets put them in the kids name so that if they are found you can say they are for the kids better yet a mom would be better.Then start taking a little bit at a time.Oh i need new whatever then put that money away....

Answer 6

Call attorneys that are recommended by reputable friends and ask for a free consult. Go with whoever you feel the most comfortable with... Prenups aren't always stone.

Answer 7

Since you signed a prenup you're screwed. Find a job, and fast!

Answer 8

use this time to better yourself...go back to school, apply for that dream job....whatever...use this time productively to BETTER yourself.....get a new makeover, start going to the gym.....start bettering yourself financially, physically and mentally. The fact that you signed a prenup use should be entitled to child support that can still help you if you decide to divorce before you can completely get back on your feet.

Answer 9

since you "had to" sign a prenup, better go to work on saving the marriage.

Answer 10

What you can do is focus on saving your marriage. Your boys are the most important thing here and you need to do all you can to keep them in a home where mommy and daddy are together. Some things to think about.

Reports show that approximately 85% of youth in prison, 85% of children with behavioral disorders, 75% of adolescents in substance abuse treatment centers, 71% of all high school dropouts, and 70% of adults serving long-term prison sentences come from fatherless homes. Fatherless children average significantly higher in terms of teen suicide, illegitimate birthrates, incarceration and unemployment. 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes. 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes and 85% of all children that exhibit serious behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes. Because only a portion of each age group grew up in a fatherless home, these statistics mean that children from fatherless homes are 5 times more likely to commit suicide, 9 times more likely to drop out of high school, 10 times more likely to abuse drugs, 20 times more likely to end up in prison and to have behavioral disorders, and 32 times more likely to run away than their peers who grow up in intact families with both birth parents. These trends persist even when socioeconomic factors are controlled for.