Not divorced yet. Individual I would be living with is a male that has no history of abuse, neglect, ect...
2006-10-17 03:31:24 · 13 answers · asked by me_me625 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know it sounds like I'm moving fast but my husband and I have been seperated for over 2 years. Didn't get divorced because I couldn't afford it and he didn't want a divorce at the time. Now the divorce is just about in place. The guy I've been seeing is someone I've known since i was in elementary school. We dated in highschool on and off. Have been seeing eachother now for 6 months.
2006-10-17 04:21:57 · update #1
I didn't mention that I have no intentions of moving in with him untill the divorce is final. That is the reason I haven't yet.
2006-10-17 04:26:56 · update #2
Thier dad also has a girlfriend. She has her own apartment but stays with him on a regular basis when the children are their. I have no problem with this. All I care is that she is good to my kids.
2006-10-17 04:40:35 · update #3
absolutely not! He sounds like either a concerned father, which you just need to reassure him that everything is fine and with time he will mellow. OR he is just a control freak and ignore him cause well he is your EX and he can't control that. Hang in there.
By the way ignore mamaexfour above that person is rude. Can't judge people until walked in their shoes.
2006-10-17 03:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by determined26a 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YES THEY CAN.. I have read many cases where the other spouse, can not have any person of the other sex, living in the home where the children live - can not even INTRODUCE the kids to the other person, until MARRIAGE is within 30 days and a copy of the marriage licenses has to be presented to the courts.
YOU can also put these stipulations on HIM.
Put the kids first - let him be a dad and act like a mom. Don't give your children a bad example.
2006-10-17 04:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by WhatNext 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you are saying that your leaving one relationship and moving right into the next one am i right ? why would you do that to your children, they are already confused about the divorce that you are going through and what ever else that has been going on in the house. and all you have better to do is start a new relationship and move the person in . do you have any self respect or do you think about the kids will being.i don't think your thinking . it has nothing to do with your ex it has to do with the kids, please think about them and not yourself . you will have plenty of time for yourself in the future first secure your kids and then later on see about a new relationship . how do you know about this mans history what did you ask , or did you look it up hire somebody you need to know he will be around your kids and your ex has every right to be concerned for the kids
2006-10-17 03:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes in some states. I know when I went through that I didn't have to let my daughter go to her dads bc he was living with a woman out of wedlock. Also in some states you can't even have your child around the opposite sex until 6 months after your divorce and the other parent meeting them.
Do you want your children around that environment? Is that the example you want to set for them?
2006-10-17 03:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by katbeek 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO
But it don't look good for you.
He can use it against you in court.
He might try and take the children from you.
I wouldn't move in with the guy until after the divorce, it would just make it easier on you & the kids.
Besides you need the time alone with your kids to help them heal and accept the divorce.
If this new guy really cares for you he will let you have this time to help the kids. Besides you need it for yourself just as much as they do.
2006-10-17 03:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally he can if he has a evidence to support his reasons why he doesn't want this guy around his kids. The reasons have to have merit. But, if your new guy is clean then you should have no problems. I think you should check up on this guy though first. Make sure he is who he says he is. Or you could find yourself without your kids or new man.
2006-10-17 03:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by Bonnie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa!!! in a hurry are you??? wait til you are divorced- and don't shack up- it is a bad example- it is not a wise idea and will cause problems you don't need- for you and the kids- D
2006-10-17 03:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by Debby B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you sign something regarding child custoday and living arrangements?
If not, why is this even an issue?
2006-10-17 05:54:26 · answer #8 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IS THIS REALLY THE EXAMPLE YOU WANT TO SET FOR YOUR KIDS??? ARE YOU THE TYPE OF WOMAN THAT CAN'T BE WITHOUT A MAN?? YOUR NOT YET DIVORCED, AND YOU WANT TO LIVE WITH ANOTHER MAN..............THINK WOMAN, T H I N K!!!!!!!!!!!! YOUR TEACHING YOUR DAUGHTER, CHEATING IS OK, SHACKING UP WITH SOME ONE IS O.K. AND NOT TO HAVE TO MUCH RESPECT FOR HERSELF, YOUR TEACHING YOUR SONS THAT ACTING LIKE A DOG IS OK AND TO HAVE NO RESPECT FOR WOMAN IS OK, AND THAT CHEATING IS OK........ARE YU UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF SOMETHING????????????? DO YOUR CHILDREN MATTER??? I DON'T BLAME YOUR EX FOR BEING UPSET, HE DOESN'T WANT TO SEE HIS KIDS SCREWED UP BECAUSE MOM CAN'T CONTROL HERSELF!! SMARTEN UP MOM!!!!!!
2006-10-17 03:50:13 · answer #9 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if the judge thinks it is the best interest of the children.
you should complete one relationship before moving on to another.
2006-10-17 03:41:11 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋