because one of my so called friends(who's a smut) sleeped with the guy im messing with and i forgave him because i still have feelings for him and someome told me that she lead him on but forgave her because i forgave him so my other friends are now mad at me because they think im stupid for forgiving both of them but yet before i forgave them they were trying to get me to forgive them both ?
2006-10-17 03:21:40 · 13 answers · asked by dimplz_89 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
:-) you definitely know how to use the word "forgive" there...
2006-10-17 03:29:49 · answer #1 · answered by D-tale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be able to forgive is good but it's something that you have to be careful with because it could make you seem naive. It's okay to forgive but that doesn't mean that you have to allow him and her back into your life. Because once you show this side of you it makes it easier for them to get over on you whenever they feel like it. Who is to say that the two of them won't hook up again behind your back and expect you to forgive them. If she was truly your friend she wouldn't be f#$%ing your man. Therefore I can understand where your other friends are coming from with their anger. They are true friends that just don't want to see you get hurt or have people playing you for a fool. Those are the type of people you need around you right now. So I think you should drop that so call other friend as well as that cheating boyfriend and make amends with your true friends that care about you.
2006-10-17 10:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by liliw24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they were true friends then they would respect your decission and be your friend. And the two you forgave if they were truly your friend/BF they would have never done you that way in the first place, but no matter what you chose to forgive and forget and your friends should be behind you not against you.
2006-10-17 10:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by Kimmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes our friends try and give us advice in light of what they think they would do if they were in your shoes. Unfortunately, they really don't know what they would do because they are not in your shoes. Some of these people who you consider "friends" maybe showing you their true colors in that they are mad at you for making your own choices. The others maybe upset because they really don't want to see you hurt by these two people again. In reality if you feel you made the best choice for yourself then that's all that matters. I think that you shouldn't have to justify who you are or your choices to anyone. Stand for what you believe in and take the consequence for being self-sufficient. Eventually they will accept your choice and either love you for it or move on. Either way you will be more enlightened about the people who surround you.
2006-10-17 10:35:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you are just so much of a forgiving.....doormat. That is why your friends are mad, they see that you are allowing people to treat you like dogpoo. They care about you and do not want bad things to happen to you. All I can suggest is that you ask them to go along with you this one time and hope that they will be around when it all falls apart again. Remember they don't have to support you through this kind of thing over and over.
2006-10-17 23:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...How old are you? You sound like you are to young to be in a relationship anyway! And if these people are a friend to you than why do they sleep with each other? Should'nt a friend RESPECT one another? Get you some friends that will RECPECT what you feel.
2006-10-17 10:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by Child of God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look deeper into the situation- why would they be mad at you for forgiving people that wanted to be forgiven- it's your life if you are okay and over what happend then they should be to - but they aren't. Ask yourself why... even better ask them why.
2006-10-17 10:33:31 · answer #7 · answered by bree_1384 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend doesn't mess around with your guy.
A bf doesn't mess around with one of your girls.
They deserve each other,.. Now you know they both can't be trusted ... It is time to get rid of them both.
This could very easily happen again... I think by staying with them both you could be settin yourself up for a fall.
Your other friends are right, it's over move onto something better......
2006-10-17 10:38:32 · answer #8 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your chose, and just because it happened doesnt mean you forgive and froget. You will still know that it happened, and jus keep an eye out or anything that happens.
2006-10-17 11:26:14 · answer #9 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay forgive and forget is the phrase right? so just do it, its your choice who you want to forgive, not anyone elses.
2006-10-17 10:28:46 · answer #10 · answered by heartdeathcab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is healthy to forgive, our friends will come around to that understanding.
2006-10-17 10:41:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋