and try as I might, I just can't help but worry. I'm a very, very quiet person, but worry that people are saying all sorts about me, especially that I'm too quiet. I don't know what methods to use to cope with this problem.
2006-10-17 03:18:52 · 31 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Do you think you are too quiet?
If so then work on that for yourself.
As far as people talking about you.
What if they were? Who cares.
What other people "think" about you is none of your buisness.
Worry about what you think.
2006-10-17 03:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by Steph 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself and don't worry about what other people think or say about you. People are going to talk about you until the day you die. You could be the nicest out spoken person on the earth and they will still find something to say about you. This is how the world works but if you want to stop being considered a quiet person. Then find ways to join into conversations, I've learned that being yourself works better than changing for others. I was quiet to but I'm still working on it and doing much better.
2006-10-17 10:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by Justice 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there - I think your main problem is your self-esteem.
So what if your a quiet person.
Are you honest, reliable, consistant and polite?
Do you offer help to others?
Are you friendly?
If you answered yes to any of these then you are a nice person and this is what people will notice. Your quiteness may just be a part of your personality. However if it really bothers you maybe you should seek some professional help.
Learning to assert your self can be very rewarding and can open you up to a whole knew world of possiblites... JUST never forget to smile.
2006-10-17 10:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by kellz_car 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it seems if you are quiet there is something abnormal about you, I have the same problem, well Im not quiet, just fussy who I talk to! Try chatting to one person each day, just ask how they are or whatever and build up the chatting slowly and let each person get to know the real you.
2006-10-17 10:28:08 · answer #4 · answered by Annie M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people DON'T think about you until you give them a reason to. Your shyness might appear as unfriendliness to others. They might think you are uninterested, and they are right to a point. You are interested in them, but you are more interested in your own anxiety, fear, and self-doubt. Don't allow yourself to become consumed or self-absorbed. Force your focus outward. Make people's day, by complimenting then on stuff, and making positive observations. Follow up with questions about them. Show more interest in other people. Give people a good reason to think good things about you. Show appreciation, recognition, acknowledgement, admiration, respect, attention, and interest. Quit worrying about yourself. Share your personality with other people. When you don't, then some people may make things up about you so they feel like they know you. Ask people to get together at a public place (bowling) for a work party. Make time (at least 5 minutes) to chat with everyone. Notice their efforts to be noticed (what they wear, their hairstyle, skills, comentary, etc) and make positive observations. Act like you think highly of them. You will make people feel good about themselves around you. Don't talk too much about yourslef, but rather show them with your behavior that you are a part of the team and that you have time for them.
2006-10-17 12:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can relate. Sometimes I am outgoing and the life of the party, but sometimes I am quiet and shy. I hate to make small talk. It feels faked and uncomfortable, but it would be best if you could throw in some small talk here and there. When you get to know the other people and open up to them, you should feel much better about yourself. Focus on them and ask questions to open things up.
2006-10-17 12:13:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
people willjust think you are a hard worker. If you want to know your staff members better then try going out on the staff nights out. A few drinks and you will relax and chat more.
I was very shy at first but getting to know them informally meant I couldm open up and start to talk a bit more at work too
2006-10-17 16:33:11 · answer #7 · answered by trixieb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry just work, have a good time dont mind in other people opinion is better to be quiet instead of being loud..so people could respect you, and not treat you bad..
2006-10-17 10:29:21 · answer #8 · answered by Eddy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are they complaining? Especially if you work in an open plan environment! Give me a nice quiet colleague any time! And when you want to move on to your next job, don't forget to mention your quiet demeanour as one of your selling points!
2006-10-17 10:53:09 · answer #9 · answered by Doethineb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is completely normal, but you have a social disorder. Most of the time, people are NOT talking about you, because not many people talk about the "quiet girl." It's ok to be quiet, but maybe you could try to reach out to the people in your office in other ways. Make brownies, or cookies and bring them to work tomorrow. People love sweets and it may start a conversation with someone. Then, if that works, try to have lunch with someone from work one day. Don't feel pressured to be the outspoken chic. Just be you and try to make friends at your work place.
2006-10-17 10:30:41 · answer #10 · answered by Brutally Honest 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Rule 1: Do worry about other people, most if not all, are worrying about what you are thinking.
Rule 2: The less friends you have happier your life will be. Friends are just problems waiting to happen.
Rule 3: Stay with one job as long as you can.
2006-10-17 10:28:17 · answer #11 · answered by tcmoosey 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋