hmm where do i start, i mean it was a year ago, basically failed my first test and told dan* how i felt, he felt the same and it went from there. It went on for at least 5 months but then he moved into a new house with his wife, step son and his own kid and decided to ditch me.
I cant seem to get over him, its got better but i am still so angry at him, he was supposed to care about me and he stranded me, my mum got cancer&he promised to be there for me but he left me broken hearted and to deal with my life alone.
I am so angry with him, i have calmed down since it all happened, but he is basically a c*** towards me now, he doesnt speak to me and refuses to even aknowledge that we happened or that i even exist.
When he was with me he he told me he loved me and wanted to leave his wife- i know likely story, but i believed it because i was naive- i was 18 at the time and he was 32. I really loved him and it properly smashed my world apart.
I dont know how to get over him completely??
2006-10-17 03:14:46 · 23 answers · asked by static_lullaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is a very sad story. You are neither the first, nor the last, young woman to get her heart broken by an older married man. There is no perfect solution to your question, but a good place to start would be to make a solid assessment of what you have learned from this experience. What did you do that you should never repeat? What would you do differently if you found yourself in the future starting to have feelings for a married man? What was your role in your heart getting broken? Some worthwhile lessons are very costly, but this may be a good one to remember.
2006-10-17 03:24:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey the only person you have to be mad at is your self, he told you he was married. what part did you not understand married is married. of course he brought a house and moved in with HIS family . all he wanted was a young thing on the side and when it was over so were you, so get over it and move on to your own man. and stop being mad at him and start having some respect for yourself and never mess around with someone that's attached . and when your so young you believe anything but trust me from experience they all say the same thing and when they are tired they throw you away like a piece of garbage so next time think first lol
2006-10-17 03:41:39 · answer #2 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes couples need to bend the rules a bit to have fun. Sounds like your sex life took a nose dive, the reason you cheated in the first place.
If you go online, swinglifestyle.com, you can find real couples, exchange IM's through the plethera of online services, and connect with your own husband on 3 somes, girl on girl, etc.
Ask your husband to join you in selecting a couple. The trick is you both have to TRUST each other & not be jealous over someone's actions. No matter what, your husband has to help you, not you sitting online looking for a person for yourself. It doesn't work that way.
This driving instructor is a real ***, get over him, forget about him, and do something wild & exciting for yourselves.
2006-10-17 03:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by thedailybs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry but what did u think u were gonna get messing around with a married man? they never leave the wife for u! your worth more than that find a great man u can fall in love with and maybe get married to someday, dont waste ur time with someone who doesnt have the time of day for u unless it comes to sex..... then u wont have these feelings..u cud have potentially broken up a marriage and u dont want to have to live with that for life...i get sad when i hear girls in this situation cuz u deserve better!
2006-10-17 03:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I'm in the same situatiion. Believe me, there is nothing best to do but to take life without him one day at a time till it stretches to weeks and months and years. The more I try doing something else about it the more I fail. Just face the truth head on. You should be feeling fine one day.
2006-10-17 03:37:17 · answer #5 · answered by Mary Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that a lesson to you
32 does not make him mature just a liar, I bet you are not the first nor will you be the last
so you should thank your lucky start that you are not stack with him instead pray for his wife,
as difficult as it is you will get over him at the moment I think you are more angry than in Love
keep busy take care of your mom and yourself
And thank God that he is out of your life
2006-10-17 03:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are it will take a very long time to heal from something like this, but you will. It's a classic story, told by many young women throughout the world. Older married man meets young attractive girl, sees she's naive and vulnerable, says what she wants to hear to get her in bed. Later , because he realizes he has responsibilities that he conveniently forgot about for a short period, he tries to convince himself it never happened...it was nothing...just a weak moment (men are good at that because unlike women who base everything on emotional feelings, men base everything on physical feelings) that he needs to just walk away from and go on with his life.
Your still a young girl, easily swayed by promises of love, not aware that the world is full of creeps like this. The one thing I hate is when someone says you'll get over it. There are some things we never get over...they just get easier to deal with. I was very much in love with a 22 year old girl when I was 38 and she died in my arms one day while we were at work together from heart failure. I miss her dearly and think of her every day. I'll never forget her, but life DOES go on and it DOES get easier. Whatever you do, DON'T forget this...it's a valuble lesson to learn from to prevent it from happening again. Some people will verbally beat you up over the age thing...that doesn't matter...in general, older guys are usually more mature than this guy and wouldn't put you through this hell.
The only way you will get over him is to believe in your heart that this was not your fault. This was something you couldn't and still can't control. You need to move forward...find someone who treats you the way you deserve. It probably won't happen over night, but be assured it will. Don't do what I've done and seclude yourself from new relationships for fear of being hurt again. Life is full of hurt...it's how we grow. Good luck. If you want to ever corrospond just to have someone to talk to about it, send me a message. Be brave...get up, brush yourself off, and move on.
2006-10-17 03:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by paesano2578 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what you get for fooling around with a married man. Seldom do they leave their wives. Consider it a life lesson and move on with your life. Don't try to get even, it will only deepen the pain your going through. Just move on and forget all about it.
2006-10-17 03:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by yooper guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on, you did a terrible thing and thank God you didnt break up his home. I am not saying he is not at fault also but at least he realized he was wrong. Leave him alone and find a man your own age that isnt married.
2006-10-17 04:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to a psychiatrist in my opinion. This will take long to just get over alone. I think if you see him with his wife you should tell his wife what you and her husband had. She has a right to know
2006-10-17 03:37:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋