i got married after knowing my now husband 6 months. we have been together a total of 10 months. In this time I have caught him in a number of lies, which i forgave him for. This time he caught in a lie about having a daughter which he doesnt have. He didnt even seem sympathetic when he apologized. he lied staight to my face repeatedly when i tried to confirm the lie (which isnt the 1st time he did this) then i broke up with him and he left and brought a ticket home when were we supposed to be on vacation together as we speak. all he can say was that he said sorry like its no big deal that he lied and makes he its seem like i made the wrong decision when hes the liar. What should I do know?
2006-10-17 03:13:28 · 14 answers · asked by REGINA p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was married to a guy like that too (notice the "was"). The weird thing is that he believed his own lies. You can forgive and forgive, but he won't stop walking all over you. He just doesn't get how much damage he's doing to the relationship.
2006-10-17 03:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
each and every time and each and every time a woman has sex with a guy she isn't married to, she negative aspects: a million.getting used for sex and dumped 2.Getting pregnant and dumped 3.categorized as a whore and made a purpose for adult males searching for easy sex. 4.Her self-worth taking a beating by using at least a million-3. 5.the relationship going bitter and ending up dumped and dealing with style 3. adult males want sex because it is a organic want and it feels solid.they do no longer imagine ahead and neither do women.The have sex FIRST and then get to carry close the different man or woman, is an fairly retarded way of dealing with a relationship.It takes a year or so for human beings to truly get to carry close one yet another and maximum unmarried ensure moms(and fathers) in the journey that they had to do all of it throughout back does no longer have had sex before sorting out their b/f or g/f replaced right into a druggie, an alcoholic, a sl-t,an abuser, a cheater and so on.
2016-12-04 22:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by hausladen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You rushed into marriage without knowing him well and his personality traits. He could be a compulsive liar and this particular lie is a very serious one. If you want to give him a chance, then go to marriage counseling so he understand that what he says has consequences in the relationship and that trust is important.
If after goung to conseling he continues wit this behavior then you should consider terminating the relationship. Is not worth it stayionmg when you don;t what what is a lie and what is true.
Good luck
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2006-10-17 04:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage is based on more then these lies. Sometimes it's hard to focus on the good things about him when he causes so much pain. Why not try to start over, write him a note saying..I love you and I forgive you, lets move on and start over. Then its up to him weather your marriage works or not. You need to tell him that the sorry card is all played out and you want action now, he has to prove himself to you now if he wants you to ever trust him again. I went through this with my hubby and I still to this day can't understand why he behaved the way that he did. If he messes up then you know that you've done all you could to salvage your marriage and you'll have no regrets if you do decide to end it.
2006-10-17 03:45:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly knowing him for 6 months isn't enough time to just get married that was your first mistake you should've dated each other for a longer period of time that way maybe you would've seen the flags throughtout the relationship early on but since your married to him now we have to focus more on that.
I don't like to tell anyone to leave their spouse because I'm always optimistic about change in people, but it's a total waste of your time to put forth effort into something only your willing do. Marriage is team work not one sided and it seems like maybe he's taking things to lightly especially once he's believing his own lies. I know it's difficult for you but unless he's willing to be truthful then your marriage is going to fall apart because of his dishonesty.
2006-10-17 03:39:27 · answer #5 · answered by bettyspagettii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys have a lot to talk about. A liar will always be a liar. So if you like liars stay with him and try to work things out, if not , run as far away from him as you can, cause who know what else he is lying about.
2006-10-17 03:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by carzone28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy needs help, you married him now you get to help fix him.
Some men are just liars, don't know why they just are.
Get some counseling for him.
You know he lies now you have to learn when he is lying and when he isn't.
Some people can't look at you when they lie, others get fidgety, some tap toes, some even get red spots from nervousness, ect.. you have to learn what he does when he lies.
2006-10-17 04:10:52 · answer #7 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on - he sounds like he needs a lot of time to grow up. I'm not suggesting you totally give up on him, because if you love him then you should try to work it out. But he is setting you up for a lot of trouble ahead. You need to keep some distance until he figures out what is important in his life. Sadly, he may decide it is not you, but at least you won't find yourself in a situation from which you can not recover .
2006-10-17 03:25:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of people who are compulsive liars. Ask him to get help and if he won't I guess the question really should be do you think you can live with a liar?
2006-10-17 04:07:10 · answer #9 · answered by determined26a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear confused:
I would be too if the man I loved is a liar.Relationships are based on trust/honesty.If your man makes up lies this serious,what else will he lie about?only you know what is acceptable to you.Good Luck.Lisa
2006-10-17 03:30:59 · answer #10 · answered by lisa m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋