Is sex really important in marriage ? im married for a year now and we have a 3 months old baby . i just wanna know if it's normal to have sex once a month ???
2006-10-17 02:52:47 · 50 answers · asked by Reesie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sex is very important. It is the physical expression of your love. Keeping a healthy and active sex life with your partner is a great way to help you to have a long marriage and avoid cheating. With that having been said... you have a three month old baby. No one should expect to have a lot of sex during the early times of having a kid. If you can get enough time alone, you are both probably exhausted. Give it some time, and the spark should come back. If not, talk about what is missing and maybe get some counseling.
2006-10-17 03:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by Craig B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have a 3 month old baby? oh honey, once a month is GOOD with a 3 month old around! Sex is important, but there is also more to a marriage than just sex. You have a baby, a new one at that. Your hormones are still funky, and it may take a while to get back to your normal self. You didnt say, but I hope he is understanding when it comes to this. If not, you need to have a talk with him and explain how you feel. I have a 7 month old baby, and to be honest with you, its only been the past month or two that we (hubby and I) have gotten back on our "sex routine" Hang in there, it will get better.
2006-10-17 03:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by mojo0520 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no honey, its not normal. But you just had a baby 3 months ago and most likely you didn't really have much sex in your last couple of months of pregnancy, but it should get back up to at least once a week. If he doesn't ask for that, something is wrong, he might have gotten someone on the side, not because he doesn't love you, but because he needed some when you couldn't give. What you need to do is ask for it more and tell him that you are constantly thinking about him, and wanting him, and that you would like to get it at least once or twice a week. Communicate, it will help! Good luck
2006-10-17 03:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have a three month old baby, anything goes! Or nothing goes. The point is that at certain times in your marriage you will find that you have less sex than at other times. My husband and I joke that we never had sex from the time our kids were babies until they were 10yrs old...not too far off from the truth. We were both working full time and had 4 kids to manage...hockey games, swimming lessons, and gymnastics took priority. Now that the kids are older it is much easier to find time alone, but back then it was a struggle, and when we could "get alone" we were both so tired from looking after everyone that it was just nice to go to sleep. Don't worry so much about it, if you arent fooling around as much as you two used to it is likely because you're both tired and just learning how to be parents....things will level off soon, and you two will be able to balance things more easily. Ask your mom or mother in law to babysit for you guys one night soon and make sure you go and buy some new lingerie first......
Oh and Dublinboy....now that our kids are out at the pubs most nights, five times a week is a slow week....
2006-10-17 03:10:19 · answer #4 · answered by pickigirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a month for newlyweds seems very slow...but you do have a new baby...dont be so hard on yourself. How were things before the baby? Maybe you need to get some books out and explore them together? Watch some porn....go to a good sex shop and buy some things to spruce up the bedroom? Buy a sex swing? Think the national average is supposed to be 3 times a week but personally I think that is bogus.....more like once a week.
2006-10-17 03:08:02 · answer #5 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have a brand new baby, your focus changes. You stop taking care of yourself as good as you used to. Maybe you don't shave your legs as much or maybe you don't curl your hair. It takes some getting used to taking care of yourself as well as your infant. Also, what I've felt for me is that I want sex more when I feel sexy. This is very hard to accomplish when you can't take care of yourself in the way you normally would.
If this is a bet between your man and you, you just tell him that if he wants more sex, then what he should do is find a way to relieve your stress, and your fatigue first. Maybe he should take care of the baby for the day so that you can take care of yourself.
It takes some time getting back to normal so I would say yes it is normal that the first few months is once a month. But work it out and things will fall into place.
2006-10-17 03:07:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally depends on the couple and what they want.
I have heard some people say it is boring, some just don't have a high sex drive.
Best thing you could do is talk with your partner make sure you both are okay with how it is going, if not try to come up with a solution together.
With a new baby it might be kinda hard, just try to spend some time together so you don't grow apart. At least once a week.
2006-10-17 04:25:31 · answer #7 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sex is very important in a marriage. It is a special connection between the just the two of you. I dont know if it's you holding out or your husband, but you both need to address it and get intimacy back into your lives. I with held it from my husband, had every excuse in the book as to why i didnt feel like it, and i have alot of reasons to believe he may have found it somewhere else. Not that theres ever a good reason or excuse for cheating, but we (men or women) are only human and have needs and desires. So, please, get the intimacy back in your marriage.
2006-10-17 03:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual desire and frequency of intercourse is usually a very personal matter. Since you've put it out for all to see, here goes. Sex is the means of procreation and futhering the species in most forms of life. In humans it is usually enjoyable and can be performed for recreational purposes. This is a trait found only in humans, well, maybe pigs fall in this category too.Married for a year, sex once a month, means someone is either very fertile or very lucky ! Personally speaking, once a month would be a famine.
2006-10-17 03:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by James 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me sex is very important in my marriage. Everyone has different normals so to answer your question, as long as you and your husband are satisfied with once a month than that is normal.
2006-10-17 03:02:05 · answer #10 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋