Me nad my husband having be tryong to concieve a baby and i think it has happened i feel sick and my nipples are sore and my breast are sore. i got a very light period i didnt have to use a tampoon or a pad. well my husband wants to have sex and i have just not have been instered in it. he says i dont want to becuz i got what i wanted out of him but that isnt true. i love him right to death. but i just have not been into it should i just give it to him to shut him up and becuz i love him and just give it to him or just not until we both can enjoy and not just one of us?????
2006-10-17 02:51:58 · 22 answers · asked by jessica H 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Explain to him what's going on... he should understand.
Sometime's I would like my wife to do it whether she's into it or not, but it's nothing I'm going to leave her over... or even get mad at her for.
2006-10-17 02:59:58 · answer #1 · answered by Dell PC 4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you have had sex, and not know if you're pregnant for sure, and you're husband is already saying he's not getting enough sex?
My god, it cant have been more than two weeks ago that you did the duty and possibly got pregnant.
Some guys dont know when to back the hell off. but on the other hand, some times we do for our spouse what we can instead of what we want. I mean, i could see if it had been a month or better since he was able to have sex... but it seems like it cant have been more than a couple weeks.
Tell him to grow some balls and stop being so insecure. His value as a husband and man does not hinge on how many times in the past two weeks he's fulfilled his desires.
Holy crap.
2006-10-17 10:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should prepare himself for SEVERAL months without sex through the various stages of the pregnancy. My wife didn't feel like it at first either, when she was sick all of the time. That phase went away and she was in the mood again. But later, as the baby grew, it caused her to constantly feel like she had to use the bathroom. Again, no sex for a while. And once the baby arrives, you can't have sex for 6 weeks.
You should explain to your husband that you're pregnant and your body is going through major changes. When you begin to feel better, you'll have sex with him. Until then, he should buy a Playboy magazine and a big jar of Vaseline.
If he's sensitive at all, he will understand. If he doesn't believe you, have him pick up the book, "The Expectant Father: Facts, Tips and Advice for Dads-to-Be, Second Edition". It's available at Amazon.com and local book stores. He will read about the changes you're going through and it'll help him to understand what's happening in the relationship.
2006-10-17 10:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by Cool-K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in a marriage there is the need to think of each others feelings, if you take care of the others needs, they will take care of yours.
He has needs, or at least he feels he does. You have feelings that he needs to consider. Some women lose their sex drive when they are pregnant because they feel like crap. If you wait until you have it again, that could be a long time and unfair to him.
He also has to think about your feelings that you want to be thought of as more than a tool for sex. If you aren't in the mood, can he try something to get you there or at least make you more favorable to it.
Just because the sex drive isn't there, doesn't mean you can't have sex, you just both have to work at making it happen. He needs to expect it less, you need to work at letting him know when you aren't feeling too crappy so he doesn't approach you at the wrong time, rather at a time when you are more favorable to give it a try.
Usually after the first Tri-mester the sex drive picks back up... pregnancy doesn't mean celebacy.
2006-10-17 10:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by JAMMco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself gave in...but really, it depends on how you feel. If your breasts are too sore, just ask him to avoid touching them and you should be fine. However, if you feel so nauseous that you think you'll throw up if you have sex, then you're best not doing it - after all, I think he'd understand (and prefer not to be vomited on).
As for possibly waiting until you can both enjoy it...that could be a long time. For me, it was 7 months. So if it takes even half as long for you to become interested again...well, making him wait would just be cruel.
If all else fails, there are ways to pleasuring him without having sex. Perhaps you could try one of them?
2006-10-17 10:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by xxunloved_little_angelxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to take a pregnancy test first of all. As these feelings can come from other thing i think. I ve felt these feelings, but i wasn't pregnant. When the weather changes, and you change your lifestyle, the body reacts.
It is ok to have sex when you are pregnant, but it is not good to force your self if you don't want to.
Such things are to be discussed with your husband, as a good chat can solve the problem.
2006-10-17 10:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by nadezdha87 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats how i was cause i always felt sick, explain to him that u dont feel well and when it passes ur sex life will be right back to normal. whats the point of having sex when u feel bad, ur not going to get into it enough to enjoy it.
2006-10-17 10:02:15 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is up to you.. If you are not in the mood he should not force you, he needs to try to understand where you are coming from. If you want to know of your pregnant take the pregnancy test to know for sure... Good Luck!!!
2006-10-17 10:02:08 · answer #8 · answered by Vicky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait, you don't know if you're pregnant?...go to a doctor for god sake! He can explain to you and your husband all the stages of pregnancy and desire and all that, there are also a 1,000 books on the subject...
2006-10-17 10:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by Martha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should ask him to understand that your emotions are going to be all over the place and some days you might just not want to .. or maybe encourage him to get you in the mood .. make you feel sexy.. when I was pregnant I got very horny so my husband was making excuses when he didn't feel like it . but I understand ... good luck ..
2006-10-17 10:03:57 · answer #10 · answered by mum 2 Cameron and Ewan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋