i would like to send him off to a borading school as he disrutbs the house and argues with his brothers, and gets in to trouble with school.
He's not a real bad boy but just to big to handle and dose not know when to stop
2006-10-17 02:47:57 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2006-10-17 02:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Tickle 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
rather then jst sending him to borading school i think you need to evaulate the situation first there is a reason he is acting like this he could just b e crying wolf and looking for attention and knowing how you are most likely to act he plays on the fact that you find it hard to cope so he will play up even more shouting at him will just add to the problem a bit like throwing petrol on a fire what you need to try is to keep clam and let him have his paddy and be firm with him showing as well as saying you will not accept that type of behaviour that may help i also think that you should take him to see a gp as there could be an underlining problem or it may help to find out what may be the trigger for this type of behaviour i wish you the best of luck
2006-10-17 10:54:02 · answer #2 · answered by Denver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your doctor about his behavior. It could be a medical or mental problem causing him to act that way. I have three kids and I find most boys at some age start to get a bit violent. I think it is normal. You just need to try harder and make him understand what he is doing is wrong. Most important show him how to deal with his anger. I have told my sons to hit or scream into a pillow to let it out. Teach him it is okay to get angry, just not okay to take it out on other people. Tell him when he gets up set to count to ten in his head then deal with what is wrong. They are children learning how to behave and act the way they should. Take more time to teach him how. If it isn’t a medical problem you just need to keep trying. Don’t give up he needs you.
2006-10-17 10:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by lynx 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you all need help. but, i would have him in-patient, with the family out-patient. if you don't do something very soon someone will diffinently get hurt, be it you, one of the other children or him. boarding school isn't what he needs, he needs a place with more restrictions and pychiatric help. you saying he's not a real bad boy, but just to big to handle and doesnot know when to stop sounds as though you are defending him, you need to defend your other children and yourself and if he's causing trouble in a regular school, he would do the same in boarding school, they aren't meant for children with behavioral problems. get some psychiatric help ASAP for the safety of your family. feel absolutely no guilt, because you must protect yourself and the rest of your family and the other children he attends school with.
2006-10-17 10:30:56 · answer #4 · answered by mary s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sending him off to a boarding school will only make this worse. Sounds to me like he might be trying to get attention ?
I wish i could help more but i dont know much about child psychology, what i do know though is that you gotta work with him to fix it, and when i say fix it, that means both him AND you too. Do it now before it becomes too late and get help if you need it.
2006-10-17 10:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by Dabidu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on his age there are many different ways to deal with this. First is stop sugar-coating. He is a nightmare yet you say he is a good boy. Maybe you are telling him these same things at home and he doesn't realize his behavior is horrible because you tell him he is good even when he is behaving badly. There ar NO bad children only bad behaviors. Consistency in parenting is key. Try it!!!!!
2006-10-17 10:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by freedom4ni 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think all boys are like that I know my boy can be like that,I asked my son's teachers for help they just said he would probably grow out of it, social services are no help either,your best bet is to try and not react to him,this is harder than it sounds I know,but my son is settling down a bit now.
2006-10-17 09:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it's boarding school he needs to be sent to...i think he's seeking attention by behaving this way....give him more attention, maybe get him to see someone to find out why he's like that..if you send him away he could feel so rejected and unwanted, and it may make him worse...he just needs some old fashioned TLC...don't ship him off because he has a problem...deal with it delicately...talk to him, ask him why he's doing these things...sending him away will make him hostile, he needs your attention more then the others do...get to the bottom of this and ind out whats happening with him at school...he may be getting bullied and too scared to say anything....dig deeper...but don't send him away
2006-10-17 09:59:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
THIS CHILD IS ABUSIVE AND VIOLENT TO YOU BECAUSE YOU ALLOW HIM TO BE. HE ARGUES WITH HIS SIBLINGS TO GET ATTENTION. DONT TOLERATE BAD BEHAVIOUR BUT REINFORCE GOOD BEHAVIOUR WITH PRAISE. TRY SETTING ASIDE TIME FOR JUST THE TWO OF YOU WITH NO ONE ELSE INVOLVED.DONT SEND HIM OFF TO BOARDING SCHOOL, HES GOING TO FEEL EVEN MORE ISOLATED. TURN THE BEHAVIOURS AROUND SO THAT GOOD IS REWARDED POSITIVELY AND NEGATIVE IS IGNORED. CHILDREN SOON LEARN THAT ITS NICER IF PEOPLE ARE NICE TO YOU, AND THE ONLY WAY THAT HAPPENS IS IF YOUR NICE TO THEM..GOOD LUCK AND REMEMBER YOU ARE THE ADULT HERE.
2006-10-17 10:15:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a normal kid to me
i have two boys (7&9)
they are both loud and fight with each other
they have both had problems with being cheeky/rude at school
you don't say how old yours is
i wouldn't worry too much about it, but don't simply let him get away with it
sit him down, and discuss it
good luck to both of you
2006-10-17 10:10:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure its u who needs help...child pick up habits at home...wat ever & if hes behaving violent cause he doesnt know other way to communicate & to seek attention...talk to him if hes violent just stay calm & watch him close ..with no reaction when hes calms explain how hurt u feel when he acts that way..& that it seems he doesnt love family....ask him wats bothering him ,help him find solutions to his problem explain him the differnce of opinion that all can hav & how he can take it in positive sense...u gotta be careful while saying NO to him..cause hes just not understanding so much restriction or rather so much freedom..keep discipline at home, same for all...& teach him to face consequences for his action..not punishment for his action..else will make him revolt more..wat ever is cause of his frustration or too much outburst..its all has risen frm home..& u cant just push him away..he sure will hate it more...hes ur child & ur responsibility ....if he not listening to u..it just could be cause he doesnt find things fair...or doesnt know how to use his energy & excitment right...work on him..analysiz & love n lots of love...with no conditions..just that he loves u all back..by his actions & words...& respect his childhood dont threaten child its worse abuse
best wishes...& tc..be patient cause its gonna take a while...hope all goes good
2006-10-17 10:21:56 · answer #11 · answered by chcuda9 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋