I got divorced this year. My ex-wife and I started dating again. Recently she has started acting the same way she did before and during the divorce. Blaming me for everything. She feels I'm wrong, because I'm not saying or doing things exactly how she expects them. So what do I do? I think I'm still in love with her but I'm not really sure anymore. SUGGESTIONS?
2006-10-17 02:28:33 · 20 answers · asked by Crazy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Both of you are divorced for a real reason. Reflect back on that reason and somehow you will be reminded of the bad times you both had gone through.
However, dating each other, to me, is perfectly fine so long as you both know the boundaries. I can understand that the ties you both had can be quite hard to severe and no matter what you will still miss each other's little things you used to enjoy. Even when dating, if things get uncomfortable, like when she started to blame you or somthing, you have the choice to stay in the argument or just leave. No love lost. Hence dating to me pose no harm but be careful if you decide to get involved or remarry. That will pull you deeper back to your own or same black hole.
As for still being in love with her, you have every right to love her but is there a possibility that you failed to realise that she was someone you used to love? Hence the feeling you may have for her now could be just care and concern, rather than love.
Well, I may be wrong in making these statements. Only you can sit down and decide what's best for you. Anyways, all the best and enjoy her company while you can... : )
2006-10-17 03:43:49 · answer #1 · answered by DiL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm... ditto. You got divorced for a reason, why are you dating now? What, did you get a divorce because the lawyers need a handout? People rarely change, and never for another person. Of course she is acting how she did when you were married, it is who she is. The definition of insanity, when all things remain constant you expect there to be changes. This means that when you date the same woman who you divorced, you are crazy if you think she will be a different woman. Move on, neither of you are healthy for the other.
2006-10-17 02:51:10 · answer #2 · answered by Craig B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe in working things out especially if u have been married to each other before... but of course it was a total waste of time to get divorced in the first place if u get to end up together again...
For me, its ok. It shows that u are probably meant for each other after all. Why not accept your differences and work things out? Accept each other's fault and if u are really willing to work things out, then do just that. Work things out. Sometimes all this world needs is a lot of consideration and communication...instead of the easy way out-- divorce...
Talk to your ex, tell her to forget the past and your willing to make things right. And if she's willing to start over again, then do that. If you've started dating again, it only shows that u really wanted things to work out. And u probably like each other. Why not give it another shot?
Good luck! This time, make things right for both of u... talk and accept each other.
2006-10-17 02:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by joe_logs_a_co 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop seeing her! It might be love, but then again it could be loneliness. Give yourself some space to think and get a outside view of the situation. You could also try sitting down and talking with her( with a neutral party to help keep it as a talk and not a blame game or from having unrelated things thrown into the talk) The both of you could also try seeing a mediator/ therapist together or separately.
2006-10-17 02:48:47 · answer #4 · answered by sweetyenah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea - you two need time apart. The two of you obviously felt that the marriage wasn't working to go through an entire divorce process. Take time and start seeing other people. Also, don't let her treat you the way that she does. No one deserves to be berated the way she does to you.
2006-10-17 02:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by Please use other door 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-21 14:57:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys got a divorce for a reason, so give each other a change to figure out what your want.
2006-10-17 03:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by carzone28 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you walked right into that one. You divorced for a reason - why is it so hard to let go? Move on, end all contact.
2006-10-17 02:36:57 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your personalities do not mesh together and she is not willing to be part of a compromising relationship. Cut all ties and move on.
Honestly, she is toxic. Do you really feel good around her? It's time to live toxin free.
2006-10-17 02:38:10 · answer #9 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the nastiest poison is the sweetest.....RUN THE HELL AWAY! DO NOT LOOK BACK! You wife is soul-eating demon. Break off all contact and find someone new.
2006-10-17 03:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋