Do any of you have a mother who has passed on ? And if so , what did you do to cope?

Answer 1

I am sorry about your mom. You have my sympathies and condolences.It was hard at times, very hard but I would focus on the good times and memories, as much as I could.But, when I felt like crying, I did. I would write my feelings in a journal, sometimes take a walk. Try to good things for others to take the focus of myself, take up a hobby read watch movies, at times do most anything to take my mind off of my mom.. Stay busy. But, time will diminish the pain God bless you , I said a prayer for you.

Answer 2

I wish I could offer an easy answer for you, but unfortunately that's not possible. It's going to take time, but there are some things that seemed to help.

If you have siblings, now is the time to set aside any difference you may have. Get out the old photos and stories and remember the times you spent with your mother. Take this opportunity to share your feelings and memories with younger children in the family, including neices, nephews, etc.

If you are a religious person, seek guidance from your spiritual leaders. Join a class, get involved in your mothers memory.

For coping with more personal issues, I find that a journal is very helpful. It allows you a safe place to put all the memories that you may not want to share with anyone else. Let's be honest, no matter how good the parent, there's always one or two things that you'd rather not remember about them. The same can be said in opposite of bad parents.

Celebrate your mother's life - don't dwell in her loss.

Answer 3

I can hear lots of pain over there, and I gues you would like to find a way how to continue on after your mother passed. I have lost my younger brother. I know that it is not the same, but let me share my way of coping...maybe it helps.
I believe that when we are in pain and when we invest this energy not in pitying ourselfs, sitting at home and being sad, but when we try to creat something good, to help others, to build something positive, maybe make arts as well, maybe volonteer, maybe just over and help the neighbor, maybe just offer a kind word or a smile to a person who needs it, then after some time this pain starts to be a gift for us. Does it sound strange to make a painful experience a gift?? Maybe? Still it is how it is for me. This way of looking at the world does not stop me from the pain I feel, it is not denying it eather..it is an action, a positive action. an active instead of passive. This worked for me.
If this is not acceptable for you, I really hope that you will find an answer. A hug! Br

Answer 4

I still have my mother; however, I lost my father, whom I was actually closer to.
The simple answer on how to get over them is very simply: Get over them.

I understand that sounds very callus and uncaring, yet it is the absolute truth. My father had cancer, and when he died, I realized that he was no longer sick, and no longer in pain, and for that, I was the happiest man on the planet.
Also, doepending on what your particular spiritual beliefs are, being sad, and crying, and feeling sorry are simply ways that your selfishness is coming out (as was mine). Our lost family members are, in most spiritual beliefs, in a far better place, and are much happier where theya re than they could ever be here. They are at peace, or free from illness, pain, and all of the other things that make the human experience. When they are in such a place, why should we be sad?
Once I realized that, I was able to love my father, and not be sad that he has moved on to a greater place.

I wish you peace in your heart, and a quick recovery to your loss.

Answer 5

I just think of it as being at a shopping mall. My mom took the elevator to the next floor, and she's shopping there. (I always joke 'I hope she went up and not down!) I've still got some shopping to do where I'm at. I'll join her later. She's not gone forever. I'll see her again ... just as soon as I've finished my shopping on this floor! In the meantime, she can hear me. I can still talk to her. And if I try, I can still hear her too: everything she ever said to me is still a part of me, and so she's here with me.

The ones who've passed on aren't gone forever. We'll see them again. The time until then is finite. Enjoy the time you have here, and remember, she's not gone forever.