I didn't know I'd lost the baby till I went for a scan at 11 weeks. Since then I haven't had a period when will things go back to normal?
2006-10-17 02:22:42 · 18 answers · asked by jacki20042000 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I am sorry for your loss and cannot imagine how you have endured but yet you have and, in general, people do endure. I do not have much faith in the idea of stages of grieving and my experience is that individuals vary so considerably that it is impossible to predict how long the hurt will last and for how long you will mourn the loss of all the possibilities that your child represented.
It is likely that you will never stop thinking about your baby but, eventually, you will begin to experience a reduction in the intensity and duration of the unhappy thoughts. I would urge you to find someone to talk to about this, a therapist, self help group, a church group anything set up in your area will help not just for the support which is of fundamental necessity but also because there is evidence that the more you talk about this type of experience the more you are likely to process the information and the less intense the feelings will become.
My very best wishes to you, John.
2006-10-17 02:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had grief couselling for many years due to the loss of a child.
My son who was 7 months old was killed by an idiot in a car.
That was way back in 1991...to this day I still think of him and have never been the same.
I have nighmares and I have anxiety problems all due to this.
The worst thing you can do is hide how you feel, I did that for ages and got very ill over it. There will be people who look at you and their faces are saying "Get over it already" but there will also be people who know how you feel and wish to help you.
If you need to speak to someone, I will definately gladly except emails from you.
But I think that your own heart will decide when it is time for you put this to one side in your life.
Also I think that it is a sign of what a good mother you would have made to that baby...things will be more normal some day.
Possibly when you get pregnant again, the remorse will heal.
If and when you do, please try not to worry about your new baby, keep positive.
2006-10-17 09:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by Eriduserpent~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About the baby, you will never stop thinking of it, but you need to move on for your self and the other people around you. That bond will always stay strong in your mind and it should, but you have to let your self live your life, and know the baby is in a far better place than the world. About your cycle, you probably need to consult a doctor and they will lead you in the right direction. Your hormones are probably just out of wack. Seeking a doctor could help both aspects of your question also!
2006-10-17 09:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will go through a period of grieving. This was a terrible time in your life. Go to support groups. Or get a book on how to overcome grief. I love my baby when I was 4 months pregnant and that was 33 years ago on Christmas Eve. I always think about it at that time. I wish you the best, and I am so sorry for your loss.
2006-10-17 10:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by Lynn M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello
I am very sorry for the loss of your baby...there is nothing which can gapfill that except for another baby if u plannin for the same soon...
its hard to not to think about the loss, but it will be good if u try to engage urself in ur office work or house work..go out for walks with ur hubby or some small trips with ur hubby..
I am not a doctor but a 30 yrs old man who lost his baby 4 yrs back when my wife aborted it against my will...
2006-10-17 09:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by Inquistive_man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like everything in life these things take time to get over but you will feel better,but you will never forget,i lost a baby early on in pregnancy 14years ago,i don't think about it all the time but now and again it crosses my mind how it might of looked i say it as i don't know what sex it was,you shold go and see yr gp cause yr periods should be back to normal by now good luck hunni xx
2006-10-17 10:11:09 · answer #6 · answered by robertboozychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to here that you had lost your baby. All that I can offer is my prayers and hope that everything gets better for you soon. I don't think you will ever stop thinking about it, but I hope that you will be able to deal with it and change the sad into good. Take Care....
2006-10-17 09:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by Monster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sad when these things happen but something wasnt right thats why it did happen and you can never forget a lost child but time is a great healer, you dont say how long ago this happened for me to say, but if you are worried about anything seek medical help they are there to help you even with counselling which does help a great deal.
2006-10-17 09:34:27 · answer #8 · answered by flowerpower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't know what I would do in your situation. All I can suggest is seing your doctor for advice about your amenorrhoea (lack of period) and maybe see if you can be referred to a support group for mothers who have miscarried or lost children. It could be very therapeutic to have others around who have experienced similar loss and to discuss it.
All the best...
2006-10-17 09:31:59 · answer #9 · answered by Disgruntled Biscuit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom lost her first 2 babys both after a day they were born and she also had 9 miscarriages... she still cries till this day.
Grief counseling would be your best bet i would say.
Sorry for your lose and i hope good things come your way.
2006-10-17 23:58:34 · answer #10 · answered by coffeejitterzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋