They are having sexual counselling but the counsellor has put them on a sex ban at the moment. The wife wont even kiss him or hold his hand or cuddle now. Do you think she loves him?
2006-10-17 02:18:03 · 38 answers · asked by Caroline 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please people stop assuming this guy wants to have sex with me - he doesnt! He is just a friend of me AND my husband. I also know his wife. It would be nice if people just answered the question.
2006-10-17 02:44:16 · update #1
Depends really, she might not want sex for a lot of other reasons. I dont think it meens that she doesnt love him its more likely that he feels rejected and unloved because of this. I do think that she loves him as she is prepared to go for sex counselling and realises that her reasons for not wanting sex are hurting her husband and having an effect on their marraige.They are taking the right steps together already. I wish them both happiness and the strength to be come out the other side with a clear understanding of their relationship. Be a good friend and don't take sides and try to stay out of this as much as possible.:o)
2006-10-17 09:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex and love are two different things and do not equal each other. Some women just like some men (yes there are some) have low libidos. Some were brought up to believe that sex was only for procreation and when one doesn't want to concieve one should not have sex (an idea teens should follow). But that doesn't mean this wife does not love her husband since love deals with the emotional heart and soul and not the physical penis and vagina.
2006-10-17 02:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy could be lieing for you to feel sorry for him and start something, I have heard this loads of times before, my wife doesnt understand me, she doesnt love me, she doesnt come close to me even to hug me etc the list goes on. If you met her I am sure it would be a different story all together - you will find she is a lovely warm person and nothing like what he has told you. Be aware and leave them to sort out with the Counsellors.
2006-10-17 02:39:54 · answer #3 · answered by flowerpower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can still love a person and not have sex with him. The problem is when you feel that sex is an important aspect of the relationship.
"I love you honey, but I can't fulfill your needs in the bedroom. You are doomed to go through the rest of your life aching for comfort and pleasure of a physical relationship that I am unwilling to provide. Although I am anatomically correct to meet your needs, I refuse to do so for my own personal reasons, which you should respect. Your only option is to have an affair outside of the marriage, in which I will be hurt because you cheated on me, or you will have to be crucified on the martyrs cross to prove you love for me, and like it. Just remember, it's your all your fault for falling in love with a frigid bytch. Remember, I'm the victim here, not you. I do love you."
Such a compelling argument. Been there, felt that.
2006-10-17 02:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went off sex wiv my hubby for a while everything he did at that time was irritating me i even took to sleeping in a separate room i really didn't love him then, i was even honest and told him so, i even demanded a divorce the only thing he could come up wiv was spicing things up in the bedroom which i ave to admit i wasn't adverse to the idea as part of the problem was boredom but everything i suggest he suddenly isnt that interested. i think your friend should ask his wife out right if she loves him or not. the bedroom is only part of a relationship but is always reflected upon by everything going on outside of it.
2006-10-17 07:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by rsrs782005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she didn't love him then she wouldn't be going to the counselling. It my be because there are problems that she don't feel right kissing and cuddling at the moment I was the same with my partner but now things are starting to sort them selves out i feel differently and things are getting better that way. I hope things work out for you friends
2006-10-17 08:37:56 · answer #6 · answered by pixi_kitten2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she thinks that he doesn't love her. If she suspects he's interested in someone else she might not want to be intimate with him. It's a defence thing. Some women are like that, I know several who have been in the same boat. She might actually be using the counselling to discover whether or not he might be cheating on her.
2006-10-17 02:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by Kari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my wife. I finally after years of trying got her to counseling and that is were she admitted to having an affair. She is in love with another guy now and we are divorcing. Good Luck
2006-10-17 02:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I went through this with my last boyfriend. I loved him, but I guess I wasnt really into him anymore, and was generally bored with the relationship. He never wanted to go anywhere or do anything. We were always at home. So eventually I stopped wanting to mess around or kiss or cuddle. There was nothing there anymore.
But that was me. She could be going through that, or she could be going through something else. Thats up to them to talk about!
2006-10-17 02:28:50 · answer #9 · answered by Lucky Penny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is reeling you in and you are falling for it.His wife must love him to go to counselling,he is making out that he has no affection from her so that you will feel sorry for him.It's the oldest trick in the book it's his wife you should feel sorry for after all he's blabbing about their relationship to you,when he should be talking to her.
2006-10-17 02:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋