what should i do about child abuse? i have no idea?

Question

one of my good friends has been abused at home by his alcoholic father who comes home high and drunk and starts beating him and his mother. its been going on forever but he just recently told me. i wont go into how badly his dad beats him, but its severe. and it needs to stop, and i want to help but i dont know what to do. i havent told anyone yet because he told me not to. and yeah, i know, i can tell child services and they wont give out my name. but all they do is search their house & interview (i've had them come to my home before), and i know if they dont find anything out (my friends mom is scared too & wont tell anyone either), his dad will just get angrier and beat him EVEN worse. whats even more wrong is that my friend thinks he deserves this! so what else can i do that will be effective?

Answer 1

How would you feel if you didn't say anything and one day the abuse is so severe that your friend or his mother dies? Sorry to be blunt, but spouse/child abuse is a serious problem that needs to be solved. If yuo think child services won't take you serious, tell your mother or father. Tell your preacher or leadership in your place of worship, or a policeman or anyone else that can help. I don't know your age, but sometimes older adults can discover/contact local resources that can also help. Good luck
you sound like a good friend to have. Just make sure you follow through and do something.

Answer 2

first lets start with you keeping this secret you should talk to your friend and his mother get them to tell child services the truth on the matter.if that doesn`t work their are many programs out their for battered mothers an children, that will help them get out of the home. i don`t know were you live but you can look the programs for your state on google.when you talk to them be prepared not just for the rejection of your suggestions that will happen trust me.be prepared with facts about abuse get the most horrible stories you can find their are a lot on the net. print them and all the help info you can find.i say print it out because it will be hard for them to tune it out if it is in print.most women and children in this situation feel trapped no were to go no help, showing them their is a way out opens the door so they can see the light.i grew up in a home like your friend i left when i was 15 i never did get my mother to leave but i didn`t know what i know now.

Answer 3

Are you in the UK? If so report this family to social services and they will take steps to ensure the safety of this boy. If you're not in UK so you have child protection services of some description? You need to tell someone about this and get this boy to safety before he grows up even more damaged than he already is. Keep talking to the protection services and telling them what is happening. If you can talk to the boy and tell him that he MUST report his father to police. I know it would be hard for him but he has to. Tel him his father is abusing him and he needs to report him. What a horrible situation, it needs to be stopped or this poor boy will grow up to beat up his own kids. Stick by him and keep telling him it isn't his fault.

Answer 4

Read a book bu Sharon Draper titled " Forged By Fire" Your friend needs to get him and his mother out of this situation, someone is going to end up dead and the other person thats left alive will always live with the thought of " I could've done something, I should've gotten help".

If you want to be a great friend, you need to get Child protective services involved immediately, maybe your situation wasn't that severe who knows but you need to let them know whats goin on.

Do you want to go through life knowing that you could've help prevented your friend from dying if something like that was to happen?

C'mon do the right thing.This abuse if affecting your friend and you can see for yourself that he has low self esteem issues.

Answer 5

Find out some facts about the case, You have to do this for him, and don"t let him know, because he will stop you. Tell the guidance counselor, at school, call the police, and call social service, or call 911, and tell them that you want to be anonymous. Tell your friend that it is not his fault. most people who are abused thinks that, Tell him to Pray, and to tell someone, not only for his sake, but for his mom! Please try and help them, Please.

Answer 6

I would still tell child services because they will continue to watch them, or you could tell the police and they will investigate it and should put your friend and mother in protective srevices of some sort so it doesnt continue

Answer 7

Your friend needs to understand first that it isn't his fault. Secondly, as soon as it happens, he needs to dial 911. What age is he? If his mom won't file charges, he needs to tell family services and let them file for him. He & mom then need to stay with a friend until dad goes into rehab....

Answer 8

FIRST, YOU TALK TO YOUR PARENTS THEY MAY BE ABLE TO HELP. TELL YOUR FRIEND WHEN DAD IS ON A ROLL DIAL 911 AND LEAVE PHONE OFF RECIEVER, USE CELL PHONE THAT HE CAN HIDE UNDER BED, COUCH. GET THE IDEA??? THE POLICE WILL THEN HAVE THE WHOLE BEATING ON TAPE, CHILDRENS SERVICES WILL HAVE TO INTERVEEN, ALSO THE POLICE WILL BE ON THEIR WAY!! GOD BLESS YOUR FRIEND AND YOU TOO, YOUR A WONDERFUL FRIEND!!

Answer 9

If you don't do something he could really hurt him or even kill him, find someone that you trust like a police officer or councilor that can turn him in they will listen to them more then the common person

Answer 10

If you love your friend, you will encourage them to tell someone. GO to a school counselor....They can help him. I went through the same things with my mom abusing me and they removed me from her home.