If someone does something that really hurts you and makes you feel so bad, can you really ever totally forgive them or is it just too hard?
2006-10-17 02:05:54 · 41 answers · asked by Moth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's a bummer when they hurt you, but you have to CHOOSE to forgive someone. You don't have to ever forget, but you should forgive them. Bitterness and hurt will eat you up if you don't. But take your time in trusting them again in whatever area they hurt you. They need to earn that trust back....... Good luck!
2006-10-17 02:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from a Bibilical stand point yes you can; search your heart. God forgives us daily. Haven't you wanted to be forgiven for something? Not forgiving hurts you not the person who hurt you. Read Isaiah 1:18 or 2 Corinthians 5:17
2006-10-17 02:30:45 · answer #2 · answered by Diva E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best to forgive and forget. It is the best way to move on with life. I forgave a cheating spouse that divorced me. I look at it as God didn't want him for me and I moved on. My parents still live with the hurt for me. They think about how much they did for me when I was there and they can't forgive him. I told them that they have to forgive him and a huge weigh will be lifted off their shoulders and they will see clearer. I wish my ex all the best in life.
2006-10-17 02:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can forgive that person,even if you try hard to hate him/her you just have to take it one day at a time,look at all the bad things that person has done to you,then do the same for the good things,if the good beats the bad then he/she is worth forgiving,if it's the other way around then that person is not worth forgiving.Think about it.
2006-10-17 02:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by leah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No . NO matter how hard you try you will never completely for get or complete forgive them.
They build a mistrust within. Some people can live with ok and go on, while others can not.and would be better off to break the relationship completely, and start fresh.
2006-10-17 02:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that person is asking forgiveness and if they really mean it by heart then u ought to forgive them or it is going to hurt u all ur life. its not easy to forget the offenses or the wounds they have caused in us but if we truly love them we just forgive them , it just happens, we can never stop forgiving them. it depends on the person, but forgetting is not easy but in future if that same person gives us all the love in this whole world we will just forget that wounds also, we r human beings we r not god to forget and forgive every single offense done to us by someone very close to us, it depends on who we r and who the offender is. so just listen to what ur heart says becoz it gives u the right answer to all ur questions. if it says forgive u forgive and if ur heart says no just do as it says . best of luck
2006-10-17 02:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
JESU WOULD so why should we not jesus wants us to forgive just like he forgives us of we do when we come to in prayer and ask him to forgive us of what we done. yes might hurt really bad but with lot of prayer and asking jesus for help we can forgive any thing
2006-10-17 02:31:49 · answer #7 · answered by Sabrina S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took me ten years to figure this out:
Forgiveness is not love and it is not trust
You can forgive someone--which means you are no longer personally offended by what they did (or what they still do). You can forgive them and not love or trust them.
Do not confuse forgiveness with trust or love. Three totally different mind sets.
2006-10-17 02:30:31 · answer #8 · answered by sixgun 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very good question..It certainly depends on the situation, but I have been hurt badly by someone and my theory is...for my own piece of mind I forgive...but NEVER forget!!!
2006-10-17 02:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends if you are a forgiving person, I am a forgiving person, but don't forget. If you can bury the forget so it's not there all of the time you have almost cracked it, each person is different only you can know the answer.
Good luck
2006-10-17 02:14:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋