My girlfriend and I had been dating 18mnts. Shes very attractive so I would try to get her to less revealing stuff. She used to wear stilletos and mini skirts and tube tops to school, and it did wonders to me. We fell in love and I got tired of guys always checking her out. So I started being more concered with what she wore: you know longer skirts and I would ask her to wear a jacket or something to school, since everyone knows how young guys hormones are! At first she was fine with this because we were in love and everything. We also both agreed that while we were dating, neither of us would do drugs, drink, or "hangout" with people of the opposite sex. Well about a week ago, i don't know what happened but we broke up and now shes totally REBELLING! Shes going against everything we stood for. Shes constintly flirting with multiple guys, wearing hoochie clothes, smoking pot, drinkin, and everything! What can I do to make her realize she's ruining her life and any chance with me again?
2006-10-17 01:59:38 · 10 answers · asked by Crazy4thisgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She said the reason she's doing it is because I wouldn't let her when we were together. She says she also just wants to see how things go for now? And she tells me that even if we don't get back together now, she knows we will later, but if she keeps this up, she can forget about that ever happening...Do you think she'll realize what she's doing before its too late?
2006-10-17 02:13:38 · update #1
listen she doesn't have those feelings anymore. She is doing this b/c she never really wanted o stop in the 1st place but she did b/c of you but the urge to do these things was just to strong. Beside I'm sure her friends had something to do with this. Trust me i know my friends always tried to make things seem way worse then they really were. also why would u want to be with someone who did that kinda stuff. If she truly loved you then she would care about how u felt and dressing like that wont get u any were in life but the strip club!
2006-10-17 02:11:48 · answer #1 · answered by kornbabe1988 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is too immature at this point, you sound like a great guy that needs to be focusing on his future not her silly games. I know you might really care about her but at some point you have to step back and ask yourself what is best for you in the long run. If things never work out together are you going to wish that you had dated more in college??? College is your time to spread your wings and find out exactly what you're made of, what you want, and where you're headed. Break off everything with her, if she keeps texting you wait a few days to respond and say sry that you've been busy doing other things with other friends... even if you haven't. If she really loves you this will jolt her back to reality and make her realize that she doesnt have you "wrapped around her finger" and that you are free to walk away at any time. She might then want you back just be careful because you could be headed down the same road as before.... Do you really see yourself with her for the rest of your life? If yes, then maybe you should wait until she's done being immature to pursue a real relationship. Best of Luck
2016-05-22 08:24:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will realize in her own time that shes doing bad things for herself. Right now shes just wanting attention where ever she can get it. She thinks shes making you jealous by acting this way. But shes making herself look like a fool,,and she dont even realize it yet. She will stop these games at some point. Just act like nothing she does bothers you,,and when she sees this she will think to herself,,,hmm why am i acting this way. Just let her go through her rebellion thing. Then you decide if shes worth it to take her back,,if thats ever possible.
2006-10-17 02:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were attracted to her before you decided to change her. You will never get anywhere if you think you can change people to fit into your ideas. You fall in love with a person and accept the negative side as well as the positive side of them. You ex-girlfriend is rebelling from your restraints on her life. Hopefully, you haven't caused her to go so far she ruins her life. I doubt if you have any chance with her. Better luck next time.
2006-10-17 02:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by dxle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off your motive is all about you. You can't change the way someone wants to dress. That is obscene to think you could. Second if you really want to help her you will and that will include if she wants to go back with you or not. You sound controlling and anyone else would have done the same. Except the drug part.
2006-10-17 02:07:22 · answer #5 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she knows how you feel, about her appearance, and the drug issue, their is nothing at this point that you can do to change her. Sometimes when you are young, this is the route that you want to take, regardless of what anyone says, you are doing what you want to do. Remember one thing, you can not change anyone, but yourself. So you just keep doing the right things, and study hard, so you can make your parents very proud of you!
2006-10-17 02:14:57 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to be with somebody who has not found themself yet? Ever heard the term 'if you pull she will just push away'? I cannot stress 2 you how true that is...plus, it seems you are both still young. Being young is all about learning about yourself...and learning about what you want for your future...utilize this as a lesson learned...you cannot change somebody only they can change themselves and there will be many more (even better) girls that will shape what you want for yourself in the future.
2006-10-17 02:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by akiastatz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really don't want to do anything. When left to her own devices, she reverted to the "tramp mode". That's where she wants to be and if you have any self respect, you will let her go and get on with your life.
2006-10-17 02:10:24 · answer #8 · answered by loufedalis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, this is gonna be hard for you to hear, but maybe she is doing this for a reason. Maybe she didnt wanna change but she did it for you, and now she is having to find out who she is since you made her change.
2006-10-17 02:07:21 · answer #9 · answered by ~*~Jeni~*~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask her y she acting like that.either she lost interest in you or unleashed a freak/hoochie.. if she really loves u she'll considered ur concern..
2006-10-17 02:11:09 · answer #10 · answered by boricuaspot21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋