how and when will i find a true real good friend?
2006-10-17 01:41:01 · 14 answers · asked by ChanIndian 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
till now all ur friends were niether frank nor open.
in fact they r losing a true friend not u.
most of the people don't like frankness and openess.
don't become emotional and change ur nature.
u be what u are.
u will really find a true and real friend.
2006-10-17 02:22:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being frank & open & honest is wonderful quality in a person. but then u need to understand that this level of openess can be used only with people u are close to. if u are frank with a person whom u are meeting for the first time or are just getting to know, its very likely that u will be mis-understood(that's whats happening to u right now i think).
we may all say that we like a frank & honest person but its also a fact that we humans cannot take criticism & a frank opinion very well. u will need to be patient when u are out making friends. friendship is a fragile relationship which can topple easily, u need to nurture it a lot with care & understanding. always remember that words can do more harm than physical hurt.
do not lose heart u will have some good & true friends for certain.
2006-10-17 02:33:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
being frank is really a good habit ya.none will b frank k.u r right in ur way y do u worry..but c to that ur frankness shud not hurt or go wrong in some situation k,thats important.ur way of approach may lead u to loose them.if ur friends r a true 1 surely theyl understand u 7 soon theyl reach u k,never worry for anything.just leav the word lonely k,think ur parents r with u,god k,;
remember one thing v came to this world as alone& v hav to alone only,no 1 will come along with us k.
true friends willl really never misunderstand u k;
take care
ul get a good friend
2006-10-17 02:36:52 · answer #3 · answered by benign_sudha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being frank is not at all a bad quality. But at times, silence is better. There is story going as below. Once a virtuous person was in his house when a poor innocent man was being chased by few bad elements. He had taken vow not to tell a lie. When asked whether teh person is hiding in the house, he could not think of telling a lie and exposed the poor person. This led to the poor man being beaten badly. Now had he told lie hhe could have saved the person. That is why at times, you can tell a lie, if it is for a noble cause and telling the truth would harm a good man.
2006-10-17 02:08:47 · answer #4 · answered by SGraja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being frank is not a mistake , but there are certain times where u have adjust to the situation.
u cannot be always frank and truthful in life, u have to mix lie like a cocktail drink and " THIS IS LIFE "
2006-10-17 02:12:07 · answer #5 · answered by shakthi v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
their is a thin line between being frank and being rude and many times those who intend to be frank seem rude to others.whenever you initiate a friendship and giv it some time it bcoms strong.if the friendship is worthwhile then you must honestly tell your friends about your frankness.honestly this world is full of ppl who dont wanna hear the truth and most of these ppl turn out to be the ones around you.just be cool about things.frankness should be shown only when asked for not just like that.for example if a friend comes to ask your opinion regarding something then you be frank no problem.dont show it when not asked.true friendship is as fairytale like as yash chopra's movies.i have personally stopped thinking of friendship as somethin thats true and eternal.i have found really good friends and accept them with their flaws even though i dont like them with their flaws.i just accept them.dont try to change your friends just accept them and they will happily accept you.just appologize to the ppl you have been frank to as i think you might have hurt them.while givin you opinion start out with the phrases like- 'i mean no offense' or 'i dont wanna be mean but-' or 'i dont wanna hurt anyone' these phrases are like warnings to ppl to brace themselves for criticism.being frank is not bad at all but bein frank and being smart bout it is just great.good luck!plus you will find great friendship for sure. if i can find true friends i bet anyone can!!
2006-10-17 03:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by s4e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
frank is good .but u have 2 think before u speak. maybe u didnt think how they would feel about ur frankness. ur bluntness might've hurted thier feelings. i have a friend like that who speaks her mind and says the things that no1 dare says. but we're all used to of her now.maybe ur friends werent used to of it. and if u tried 2 be considerate and think of others feelings .like how will they react when they hear something tooo frank from u? think of others reactions before speaking,every1 is different.
best of luck in finding a good friend!
2006-10-17 03:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by sally A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong in being frank; It is the manner in which you tell them that matters. Be more subtle and gentler with the truth. As the song goes, "Break it to me gently"...
2006-10-17 06:13:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being frank is not a mistake.
Have tact also along with your frankness.
I belong to your category.
You can join me.
No jokes.
Try me.
2006-10-17 02:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chandu, U can be frank without being offensive. be tactful, all friends will come back to U.
2006-10-17 01:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋