So here it goes: there's this guy in my college who really likes me like mad....... he's just crazy about me.......... but, somehow, i dont like him and whatever i say, it makes no difference to him...... what should i do to get rid of him?????
p.s. im a soft spoken person and i dont hurt him dearly and he is a good guy too.......... so is there any decent way in which i can deal with him????????
2006-10-17 01:37:00 · 19 answers · asked by proxsmartest2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
See yaar...if u dnt tell him now that u dnt like him then it will hurt u n him both of u....so b straight forward...If u r soft spoken then it'll b very hard 4 u to live happily....i was the same kinda person n i have faced very bad circumstances...n i dnt want any one else to face it not even my enemy....
so have a talk with him...tel him if u say yes to him then the person who will not b happy will b him only...u'll not b able to justify the relationship...it'll hurt both of u!!!!!
I know its quite hard....but say to him that it is for his betterment only....hope u got what i want to say....
If he doesnt listen then just igore him....i said IGNORE him so that he'll come on line....n u dnt feel guilty abt it.its not ur fault
ok i hope it'll solve ur prob....if i can help u pls msg me...i'll try to help u....
Bye...take care....god bless
2006-10-17 08:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hae one thing c here when others give response to us,v r in a position & v hav to give response to them,y u dint like him,if he is a worst guy u quit him,but ur words say that he is a good guy & there is no need to hate or move from him k,just have a good friendship with him in a neat way k,no other relation is as good & decent as frndshp k,....having many friends is not a matter but try to have a atleast one frnd who understands u &do everything for u k.if he is such a good guy have a friendship with him
2006-10-17 09:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by benign_sudha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a tough situation.but you have to discourage him gently.talk to him first.tell him to his face that you have no intentions of being his gf and tell him you alwyas prefer friendship.if he persists start ignoring him.talk to other ppl.treat him as if he isnt there.stop talking with him and stop responding to him.if he takes any extreme steps or anything just report to someone senior like your parents or the head of you college.also tellyour frnd bout him maybe they will take care of him for you if you cant!dont worry best of luck.do something b4 it gets worse.you may hurt hi m for a while but remember its the best you can do so that you both can live peacefully!
2006-10-17 10:16:34 · answer #3 · answered by s4e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your being soft will not get you the result.
It looks that you also like his attention towards you.
If you really want to get rid of him do the following
1.Call him to a place
2.Call your well wisher also.
3.Tell him the truth in presence of your well wisher.
4.Ask him not to bother you in future.
5.Otherwise you will report to the authorities.
2006-10-17 09:20:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you say about yourself is true, I mean if you are really softspoken, he would be finding it fun to hear you say no. So all you have to do is say NO in a fairly firm way and then proceed to show you mean it. Make sure you have nothing more to do with him after that. No more communication no more entreaties. It should work.
2006-10-17 10:26:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not respond to him and dont think about him. You aim is your career and should not be that boy. If you are not confident in making your career now, you have to suffer alot in future. Be firm in your studies and career. Love is a part of life but its not the whole . At this moment you have to care your studies and life. all the best , do well in your studies.
2006-10-17 09:29:51 · answer #6 · answered by raghu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tat was a nice way to ask a question and ur soft kindedness reflected in ur question itself............
at first i cant understand ur feelings... you say he is a good guy but some how u dont like him, wat does this mean...... ur hiding something....how can think of answer........... this was first case......
now second case..........
you said he is mad about you, just be a friend with him, join him in ur group, when he is around with you, move closer with your friends in group and the he may feel some wat ignored and think something about you..... and do behave badly with you....if he beahves badly with you he is not a good person..... so u can solve it with his parents else as u said he is a good guy.....he may understand the meesage want to tell nad make him understand........ pyar sey tho nai smjah saktha hi naa.... tho u have to do this.........
BEST OF LUCK>..
2006-10-17 10:26:27 · answer #7 · answered by pavan k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait till the college days are over.
continue in a very polite manner and maintaining a distance.
2006-10-17 08:45:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with that person , is he handicapped, is he ugly, is he poor, do u think him as a brother,
why don't u love him, may be is he the right person for u. THINK OVER THIS
2006-10-17 09:16:32 · answer #9 · answered by shakthi v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sry sis but in this love game u HAVE 2 be insensitinve. he's never gna leave u untill u tell him firmly but politely .have a nice tone of voice but use hard words. tell him .
best of luck!
2006-10-17 10:57:23 · answer #10 · answered by sally A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋