Well I'm pregnant told my boyfriend how I feel about me getting and abortion he said sometimes you have to do something you don't have to do. But he just keep saying we are young because we both are 17 I understand that. It just seems like he don't care about me it and he said he's not going to have any sympathy for me I'm like it's your baby too. Just keep saying you better get the abortion. Then when I don't pick up the phone he always think i'm cheating so I was like forget it. Let me know if you want to be with me because I'm all cried out. When we was together he cried telling me that he was going to miss be and he would give up that easy and he's changing he ask me what I think it was all a game I said I don't know then he said f**k me so I hung up. Then I call back and said so f**k me now he said yea and my phone going died and hung up. I just want to know what should I do about him and the baby I mean I don't want to bring a child in this world who father don't want it.
2006-10-17 01:32:33 · 20 answers · asked by Scooby_doo06 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What?! He said that to you?! After those pleasures, and found out that you’re pregnant he just want to abort your baby?! What kind of a guy he is?! He is so selfish! It’s your baby, don’t abort the child. Although you’re underage it seems that you’re still afraid, BUT you must face the truth that you are pregnant and no one could ever turn back the time. The child is a gift from God to you. He knows it is the time to have this child for you even without the father. You know what? It is the child that can help you to fight your b/f back. Once he saw his baby you’re carrying, it is the time he would be scared of everything. He would be lost when he saw his child. Don’t let him turn you down after all. You can do it on your own. By the way, there’s a risk of having an abortion. You could die and you can have a mental disorder.
2006-10-17 01:56:26 · answer #1 · answered by herzae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off,I would not have an abortion, there's to many people out there who would love to have a child but can't & I'm one of them,think about putting it up for adoption instead!!! That's a better choice!!! The boyfriend sounds really inmature, move on from him, life's to short!!! Plus, just because he is the biological father doesn't mean you have to stay with him either, Mr. Right will come along and be both a great boyfriend or husband & father someday, that is if you decide to keep it. Please give all this some serious thought.
2006-10-17 01:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by hippiechic35 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, Congrats !
you both are young but that is no excuse for him to act like that. He is probably just scared and won't be much help to you in the future if you decide to keep this child. I just want to say that it's not the baby's fault and did not ask to be conceived. There are many single mothers out there and they do a great job raising the baby alone. Think long and hard before you do anything that you may regret down the line. There is nothing more precious than a child.
2006-10-17 01:41:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people took abortion and they regret for life thinking how it would be like to have the child if they didn't abort it. how old it would be and what kind of characteristic it might have.
i know you are kind of young. but you wouldn't wanna do something you are gonna painfully regret later. are you financially well off enough to be able to take care of a child is another thing. it would be hard to take care of a child without a breadwinner.
just sit down and talk to your bf quietly and try not to raise your voices. you can write him a note if that expresses your feelings better. is he the responsible type? if not and he still doesn't care... you might wanna start making your own decisions instead of getting him involve since he's not caring anyway.
talk to people whom you trust and who knows you personally can help you decide on your situation.
stay calm, and live in the moment. there are obviously pros and cons of abortion and not doing it and you need to do a little soul-searching on what you want most out of life.
good luck!
2006-10-17 01:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by Spidergurl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 17 and i think i might be pregnant but my bf is 24 and he still does not want to have kids but I'm still going to have it just BC the dad is not going to be in its life does not mean u should just get rid of it i don't believe in abortions in less u were raped. but don't get an abortion keep the baby but it is going to be hard maybe things will change after u have the baby if not take everything he has lol
2006-10-17 01:42:37 · answer #5 · answered by britt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont belive in abortion, i think that if you already know that you can not handle being a mom at a young age you should think about your options here are a few
:adoption
:ask your parents to help untill you are ready
:find a nice family that cannot have children and let them adopt your baby
: do what you think is best for you and your child and tell the boyfriens to f*ck off he doesnt have any respect for you let alone love so you are better off with out him
good luck and if you just need someone to talk to send me a p.m be glad to lend a shoulder
2006-10-17 01:44:36 · answer #6 · answered by crazylady1193 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats real fuked up. becuase if he was man enough to have sex with u then he should be man enough to take care of it. u too. i dont think abortion is good, because it wasnt the baby's fault he/she is coming to the wrold a bit early. i say have the baby and if the dad's not there oh well. he knows what he's doing.he'll feel guilty with time even tho he doesnt what to tell u. yeah all kids need a dad but not every one has one. i grew up with out my dad and im doing great. i have my career set out for me and yeah i've done my mistakes but u learn from them. raise him/her well and u wont regret it. u dont want to go on and have in the back of ur mind that u didnt something u wish u hadnt. and bout the dude,leave him..if he loves u he should loves his kid too. he cant have one without the other. or maybe he scared that he wont be a good dad. sit and really talk to him about it, ma. and congratulations!!!!!!!!! a child id the best gift from god..
2006-10-17 01:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by boricuaspot21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not to mean but it was your chose to have the sex and now your pregnant. now that your going to have a baby it is still your chose. if you love the baby then have it and work it out with the father, if he doesn't want to love and care for it, then ask for help(it never hurts to ask). or you can have an abortion and then he will be happy?. it seems that he only loves you when you aren't pregnant, that means he doesn't really love you. and u have to think about how will he treat the baby when it s born. if you love him work it because the choose is always your
2006-10-17 01:46:34 · answer #8 · answered by B.B. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep the baby,get rid of him there are lots of young mothers out there and the guy can pay child support to help raise the baby.if you personally don't want to have a baby to raise then consider giving it up for adoption but don't kill it...this will haunt you forever when your older you will regret it and wonder what your child would been like,looked like etc... there are so many people that can provide a life for this child.every baby deserves a chance..if you can't do it please let someone else...this is your flesh and blood growing in you .this baby wants a chance .don't hurt him/her,its only an innocent child........
2006-10-17 02:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by miss v8 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep the baby, by all means have it. You don't need this ******'s approval. When you have the baby, you can take him to court, prove his paternity through DNA tests, and get him to take financial responsibility for the child. I wouldn't take this loser back, though. He has shown his true colors. You are the one who is pregnant, but he is making it all about himself. He isn't going to be there for you during the pregnancy or after the baby is born. I hope you have other people around you who will support you and whatever decision you make. Just don't make your decision based on anything he says.
2006-10-17 01:49:18 · answer #10 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋