Is there live after 40?

Question

I am turning 40 soon, don't feel like I have accomplished much, how can I spice up my life, remain a good mom, and get my husband interested in me again?

Answer 1

Of course there is life. One thing for sure is that you don't have to worry about the small stuff, the needness, and other dumb bs that younger women trip off of ect... You can now discover what YOU want to do. And shyt, you don't have to appologize for anything that you do. I think that your husband is still interested in you, you maybe just feeling inadeqet because you are depressed about being 40 and feel that life is over. Rest assured as this will pass. Here is a little blurb that I will share with you by Andy Rooney:

Andy Rooney says:

As I grow in age, I value
older women most of all.
Here are just a few reasons why.

An older woman will never wake you in the
middle of the night to ask,
"What are you thinking?" She doesn't care
what you think.

An older woman knows herself well enough to be
assured in who she is, what she is, what she
wants and from whom. Few women past the age
of 50 give a damn what you might think about her.

An older single woman usually has had her fill
of "meaningful relationships" and "commitment."
The last thing she needs in her life is
another dopey, clingy, whiny, dependent lover!

Older women are dignified. They seldom have a
screaming match with you at the opera or in
the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course,
if you deserve it, they won't hesitate to shoot you
if they think they can get away with it.

Most older women cook well. They care about
cleanliness and are generous with praise, often undeserved.

An older woman has the self-assurance to introduce
you to her women friends. A younger woman with
a man will often ignore even her best friend
because she doesn't trust the guy with other women.
Older women couldn't care less.

Women get psychic as they age. You never have to
confess your sins to an older woman. They always know.

An older woman looks good wearing bright red lipstick.
This is not true of younger women or drag queens.
Once you get past a wrinkle or two, an older
woman is far sexier than her younger counterpart.
Her libido's stronger, her fear of pregnancy gone.
Her experience of lovemaking is honed and reciprocal
and she's lived long enough to know how to please
a man in ways her daughter could never dream of.
(Young men, you have something to look forward to.)

Older women are forthright and honest.
They'll tell you right off you are a jerk if you
are acting like one.

Yes, we praise older women for a multitude of
reasons. Unfortunately, it's not reciprocal.
For every stunning, smart, well-coifed babe of 70
there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants
making a fool of himself with some 22 year
old waitress.

Ladies, I apologize for all of us.

That men are genetically inferior is no secret.
Count your blessings that we die off at a far
younger age, leaving you the best part of your
lives to appreciate the exquisite woman you've
become, without the distraction of some demanding
old man clinging and whining his way into your serenity."

Answer 2

Sweetheart, just the fact that you are asking the question puts you miles ahead of the average 40 yoa woman. Try to be
smooth about this and not to drastic. To much change will only throw everyone into a frenzy of worry that you`ve gone over the hill and through the the proverbial dale into menopause.
BUT just the right amount of spice will enhance and allure and cause the desired effect on your man. Some ideas are a new perfume, try womens Curve, the purple bottle, it`s soft
and enticing, to me anyway (I`m 47 and W/M and very much active)
Change your routine just a bit sexually. Meaning be open minded to consider using your imagination. Do you have a back yard with privacy, a back porch, a trench coat, a vibrator. K-Y jelly, scented lotions. A hotel room with a jacuzzi.
Using moderation you can have some fun. Oral stimulation, it really depends on if you are able to break the mold you have created over the years and sometimes step out of your comfort zone to experience new heights of enjoyment. The turtles have the right idea, You never get anywhere untll you stick your neck out.
Hugs and let me know if you are successfull. I know you will be.
Jim

Answer 3

Age is only a number!! Enjoy each phase of your life. The world has so much to offer. You are young yet! Take a mini vacation, take nice long walks, do anything that you both ejoy doing together. Don't worry about it, just live your life. What makes you think you are not a good mom anyway? I am sure that you are, and I am sure that your husband thinks you are great. If you spend quality time together, talk to eachother, and do things for fun, you have nothing to worry about. Life is to short - live it while you can. I do, and I will never see 40, 50, or even 60 again. Each decade has its own merits and I am greatful to be alive. We should all live life to the fullest and stop worrying about being "good". We are all o.k. - life is what you make it. I wish you the best.

Answer 4

Honey, just because you are turning 40 that does not mean that you have lost your spice in life. If that was the case then I would say that your husband has lost his also and then you wouldn't have to worry about anything anyway. LOL ( unless he is extremely younger then you). And if he is younger then you then why would you want to have a younger husband if you had lost all of your spunk? 40 is just a number, it is how you feel that really matters. Now if you are feeling like a run down little old lady that is incapable of pleasing herself little long anyone else then I would tell you that you have a problem. But if you still feel alive, loving, sexy, independent, confident, attractive, etc. then you should have nothing to worry about. You are only as old as you feel! And you are still young and you should not allow a number to depress you.
Good Luck!

Answer 5

Make a list of things you've put off (ex. joining a gym or going to a spa or spending a weekend with friends or going to school )... Set a timetable and make sure you accomplish everything on your list ..being 40 isn't a reason to slack off. You can still accomplish alot without compromising your mommy duties.
There's definitely life after 40....but it will all depend on you. Don't let the number get you down bec if you do then your insecurities will build up and will affect your relationship with your kids and husband. Go for a makeover. Make time for yourself. When you feel good your husband will notice.

Answer 6

Heck at 40 you are still a kid, the number 40 is just that, a number. Life today or tomorrow is what you make it, at your age you should already know that.

Do things with your husband, the simple things, like going for a walk and holding hands. Closeness in simple pleasures will lead you to closeness in more intimate pleasures.

Remember how you used to compliment each other on your looks, or think, "wow...he smells good". Its those little things that we take for granted, that we forget about with the responsibilities of raising a family, running a household, and paying bills.

Bring those little things back into your relationship and you may be pleasantly surprised with the outcome.

Answer 7

I am 44 and having the time of my life. I just graduated from college and spending time with my friends. I spent two decades taking care of my 7 kids. Now it's all about me, at least for a while. I'm not a bad mom at all; my kids think I'm amazing.

Husbands love wives that are supportive but not crabby and needy. Get to the gym and work on your cardio. Stretch out your legs and arms when you are around the house. Turn the TV off and invite friends over to hang out. Take control of your life.

If you become an interesting person, people will be attracted to you like moths to a flame.

Answer 8

You state you are a good Mom, that is one of the best accomplishments. We tend to get caught up in daily chores, and before you know it, we forget whom we are. We all go through the Self Evaluation, and 40 is just a number. There is Life after, and I have had interesting moments rediscovering myself. Good Luck and Be Happy. Your Husband will notice this rediscovery and you will be amazed at his appreciation.

Answer 9

Life after 40? Gee I hope so...or else I'm dead. Ad I don't think that happened.

Yes, actually, it gets better....much better. Since I turned 40 a few years back...lol, it's been better than I could have ever thought. More money, fewer kids... and it's suddenly more about me.

There are so many things you can do with hubby that doesn't involve fantasies or liposuction...geesh. be yourself, but make o list of things you and your husband alwys wanted to do and just start doing them. You'll be surprised how close you two become... but make sure you do them together... not everything is about sex like some of these people think.... it's more about passion of life.

Answer 10

I have been 40 for a month now and yes there is life after 40.