My two closest friends went out with each other for 2 years. They broke up about an year ago and I am still best friends with both of them even though they no longer talk.
One of them (the girl) has had 2 boyfriends since then and is happily in love with her new man. My male friend (her ex) and I have grown closer recently and have admitted that we are falling for each other. I really care about him, but don't know what to do, as I know the whole thing about leaving your ex's friends alone. I don't know what to do.
2006-10-17 01:08:01 · 9 answers · asked by mysterious_gal1984 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If your girlfriend is really in love with the new guy, believe me, she'll be indifferent about you taking up with the ex. If you're bothered so much, just say to her, "I have to tell you .. please don't be upset .. I think I'm falling for XX. I didn't plan it, but the more I see of him, the more I like him. " An ex is an EX. She has moved on, and time and the new boyfriend will make her forget what her relationship with the ex was like. Good luck to all of you.
2006-10-17 01:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by Miz Teri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I accept with other guys answers. First talk to the guy clearly and make know whether he is really interested in u. Then speak to the girl about this. If u think they are really separated then go on otherwise just be their good friends and also try to help in getting them together if they still luv each other.
2006-10-17 09:00:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is talk with your female friend about it. Tell her how you are feeling about him. Maybe now that she is in love with the man she has now,,,she wont be bothered by this at all. She is happy now,so she just might want you to be as happy as she is. You have got to be honest with her,,be up front and dont sneak around with him. If she has any objections,,then take a step back from him a little,,she might change her mind in time if she dont agree with it now.
2006-10-17 08:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the advice given above is very good and seems to be in unity with talking to her first, and then going out with him. I agree, as she has moved on, and in my opinion, you shouldn't throw away your feelings for him....maybe you and he, are meant to be!
When I was dating, there was a foursome, and the guy I was dating, and my female friend, seemed to like each other alot. She approached me one day, before we were all going somewhere, and told me she REALLY REALLY liked my date. I felt like he REALLY REALLY liked her, too. I liked him, but I knew it was only friendship, so I was happy she spoke up, and I was glad to get out of the 'triangle' , and let them be happy..They got married, and still are happy....for many years. We are all still great friends, and we joke about what things would have been like, if it didn't work out the way it was meant to...
Good luck..and go for it!!!
2006-10-17 08:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by JoJoCieCie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I would mention it to your girlfriend and see what she has to say. If she is happy with another guy then it should not bother her too much and she will tell you to go ahead. Just kow that you risk loosing one of them or perhaps both in the end
2006-10-17 08:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your girlfriend and let her know how you feel. If she is happy with her new man she should not care if you see her ex.
2006-10-17 08:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by gary t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. She's got nothing to complain about. All's fair in love and war.
2006-10-17 08:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by jellyfishwich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's moved on and is dating other people, they broke up a year ago so go for it
2006-10-17 08:17:41 · answer #8 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it, she is happy with someone else
2006-10-17 08:14:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋