My husband never loved me after marriage ( 1.5 yrs). but I love him too much.He very rarely speaks with me.?

Question

he is willing to divorce me. but I am not. All her family members tried to convince him but failed. I am worried about my future. I am just 12th pass. what to do ? what is easiest way / solution ? guide me.

Answer 1

I don't see much that you could base hope for a future on.

This is sad, and I am sorry to have to tell you this, because I know it is hurtful. There is probably nothing you can do to change this. If any change is possible it must come from him. And he doesn't sound like he's likely to change.

I would suggest a separation of at least several months to see if he has any second thoughts. During this time you should not date any other men, but you should also try to stay away from him unless he wants to spend time with you.

Let him do what he wants during this time and don't pry into his activities. You should go back to school if you can, learn some useful skills if you need them and try to rebuild your life.

There is a chance he could have a change of heart. I would be open to him if that does happen, but you should be prepared to let him go if it doesn't.

I think this is very unfair to you. But you have to play the hand the way it is dealt and you have a life to live and you deserve to be happy. I don't see happiness in any future you have with your husband.

Answer 2

hi suresh (whatever u r)
I think or assume that u are a clever person.i suposs that u are the person who want to give the divorce to your wife. I think u are a man not a woman.you are just want to know the opinions of the readers at large through which u will be able to know the ways what your wife has to stop u.you are sick.
What make me to suspect about your reality
1. your name indicating your reality as a man
2. your knowledge of how to work on pc.
3. Knowledge of blogs.
4. Arrengments of the sentenses and the correct spelings.
5. The choosing power of you english word in asking.

these all indicating that you are well qualified and inteligent person.
If I am right then I want to say you that you are doing wrong.The goodness of your spous and the bad habbits could be known to you befor the marrige.when you did not wanted to marry her why u did it and why now u are going to leave her .
\ it is a shme on you . You should live with her and shoud pass a great life .Otherwise all the people will curse you and you will not live happly never. God knows it.

And if i am wrong and you are realy the female and needy then sorry to misunderstand you .If you required and leagle advise then E-mail me.I will tell you how could you retain you marrige and can get your right.A divore to a hindu woman within the 1.5 yr it is not easy and their are a lots of support you have from hindu marrige act 1956.
.there are the conditions are given in the hindu marrige act, on the basis of thease ,the divors can be given by a husband and these are very critical and u have these.So dont loos your heart be strog.
u know it is easy to a woman to get divorse but it is quit difficult to give divors to a wife.
Same time to findout the the cause of his behabiour and also the reqirment of your housband It you find that something is the problenm from you end and your behaviour then try you leable best to remove it.May be it work.
And if you find any quriality from his side then dont wast your time and take the support of family,your moters home, socity and ofcors low,if you find difficult.
I wise for your brigt future.There are a lots of oportinuty for everyone in the world . if you want any more suggection then wrigt all about u and you husbebd and the cause of this situation. THis will make easy to advise to u. dont wirry the whole world is here to support you if you are right from your part.
Wise you all the west.

Answer 3

After reading your question I reached at the conclusion that your husband is involved somewhere else. Husband and wife relation is very sweet. If any one does not like the other, he behaves differently and wants to quarrel on one pretext and the other. You said that he is willing to divorce you. Did you ask him what are the reasons for divorce??. Does he come to you and do you have kids???. These are the necessary information which are necessary to decide and reach at the conclusion of the case. In any case if he divorce you, leave him and shake his thoughts from your mind. You will get another one with whom you can get close and live as a good couple, provided you give him all the happiness and free will of married life. You should be quite sincere with him so that he should reciprocate with you. Good Luck.

Answer 4

That is what LOve is called. Yr Husband will realize it sooner that u r worth in gold and above. Be patient. Remember ur husband cannot divorce u as per law. U can always say that u love and want to live with him. Do not worry just because u r 12th passed. U r more than any educated person because u r able to love a person who has not discovered ur worth. Be patient things will be okay.

Answer 5

life is not all about marrige.you cant expect your lives to be happy if your husband does not even try to mend your relationship.i feel you should be strong.your husband does not vale your love for him.if he treats your love the way you say then he does not deserve you!you are an angel to love such a hard hearted person.dont worry about your future.this world is full of oppurtunities.you can persue your education anywhere.age does not matter any more.go for further studies and build your career.think of this divorce as a second oppurtunity in life.you must become strong and independent.dont let someone leave you like a helpless little girl.women hav a lot of strength.become that strong woman in you.if your husband does not value you leave him.you are in the 21st century and you are not at all helpless.if you think you still love him then think of it as a very very bad decision.he clearly doesnt respect you and that is the biggest insult a woman can bear.you will survive their is a lot in this world.he wants to get rid of you.but if you want you could cook his fav dish for him, talk to him and discuss your future with him and try to convince him that their is no one on this earth who could love him more.but i dont want you to do that at all.become independent and take your life in your own hands!good luck!

Answer 6

What does 12th pass mean? Regardless, if he doesn't speak to you, it isn't a relationship anymore. You're married by law only at this point. Accept the truth and move on. I you love him so much, why do you insist on making him miserable?

Answer 7

Since you r not very educated,start securing your academic side by taking a course of your interest.This will boost your confidence and and help u secure ur future...then get professional councelling to find out the reason for your partners disinterest.

Answer 8

Dear friend,
Don't worry. Worries will never let us to get a solution. First of all you try to prove your affection on your husband. Try to do whatever he likes.
If you are unable to know what he likes better you avoid what he doesn't like. This will definitely bring a better result.
again I'm telling you pl Don't Worry and try to prove your affection towards him.

Answer 9

I appears that your husband is involved somewhere else (or with someone else). If he is not paying attention to you or even speaking to you...why are you still with him? Divorce him and move on girl. Nobody deserves to stay with someone that doesn't want them. I don't mean to sound so harsh...but...face reality for a sec. He obviously doesn't want you. Why do you still want him?

Answer 10

ASK QUESTION TO U R SELF

1)TRY TO TALK TO HIM WHEN HE IS FREE REGARDING HIS PAST, MAYBE HE HAD FALLEN IN LOVE WITH A GIRL AND HIS PARENTS FORCED HIM TO MARRY U.

2) HAVE U MADE ANY SEXUAL MOVE TOWARDS HIM.

3) R U TRYING TO MAINTAIN STATUS ALONG WITH HIM. DO U TALK GOOD ENGLISH WHEN HIS FRIENDS TALK TO U.

4) R U CREATING ANY SCENES WHEN HE IS UPSET WITH U.

5) R U BEHAVING AS A GOOD DAUGHTER-IN-LAW TO HIS PARENTS.

6) R U R PARENTS GIVING A REGULAR VISIT TO U R HOUSE , WHICH MAY IRRITRATE HIM