My mate has started ignoring my calls, texts and emails and I don't know what, if anything, I have done to upset him! I am 29 and have known him for 4 years, although we didn't exactly hit it off at first. I won't go into the details, but there's been a lot of hassles - however, we ended up best of friends, spending time with each other every other day and if not, w would call each other every day nearly. We have also been working together in the same company on and off during that time. Over the last couple of weeks however thing have changed and redundancies happened at our work - I was kept on but he was let go, although he got a new job straight away. Nothing changed immediately, he still called me regularly and we met up last weekend. However, I have not heard from him since then. When I tried to call on Saturday he ignored all my calls, texts and emails. I managed to call him at work and he knew it was me, said "oh call me another time, my dog's been ill".Any thoughts?
2006-10-16 20:30:04 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
remember friendships come and go...and he wasnt the true friend that u thaught he was, perhaps out of jealousy, perhaps he used you for work and now that he has lost it he feels he doesnt have anything in common anymore.maybe he thinks he lost the job because of you.maybe he thinks u said something behind his back.
maybe he still likes you as a friend but feels he needs a bit of a break from you and things will get back to normal in the near future.
2006-10-16 20:43:37 · answer #1 · answered by dandyl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We all move on, eventually. Losing a friend is hard enough, but when one seemingly ignores your attempts at communication, it is harder still.
Perhaps your 'friend' has found a new circle of friends that he feels more in common with.
Also, perhaps he feels let down by you because he was the one that was got rid of in your stead.(?)
Find other friends that are more likely to remain friends, although how you go about that is anyones guess.
All through life, we make friends and lose froiends for one reson or another. Don't worry sir. A very good mate will turn up and you will have wondered why you fretted in the first place.
Friends come and go, accept it.
2006-10-17 03:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by Moorglademover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello..its sound like your friend may be feeling a bit down, joining a new team in a new job is a dig deal, and if he isnt feeling happy in his new job it will effect him as a person & he may resent the fact that he was made redundant, and you wasnt. he may also be having a hard time in his personal life & men dont tend to ask for advice or show their feelings, he may even be missing you!! you have worked together, and now its changed, change is a difficult thing to adjust to. Give him a few weeks & tell him you are there when he needs you, let him come to you, dont hassle the poor fella. x
2006-10-17 10:09:54 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him some space to breath.. maybe he just needs some time to find his own way... or you can read the question i've just asked... hehe. " reunion with an enemy friend?" i got a similar problem to yours.
but it might not be the case of you and him. sometimes he just wanna be free for a while. and it might be nothing.
but if you are really concern about something, write him an email sincerely and try to get him to tell you whats wrong. besides that. this is your best move. if you do anything harsher to get back a breaking down friendship, he might just move further away so somehow just let him do what he wants.
2006-10-17 03:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by Spidergurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi four years in a friendship is a long time you must have got to know each other very well,
it could be he is not happy in his new job and finds it hard that they kept you on and let him go?
or maybe he feels like he has got to make some new friends where he works as he has to get on with the people he works with and just has not got the time to do both at the moment as you have to remember what it is like to be the newbie in a place of work, it can be very hard to fit in.
If i was you i would pop over with a bottle of wine or a pack of beer and sit down and have a dam good chat as you might find that he didn't realise he was hurting your feelings and that he just needs to have a little time to sort out his problems.
2006-10-17 03:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by richdrury2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Sometimes people do move on without giving any reason,maybe he has made new mates as his new place of work
If he really is a good friend he knows where you are and how to contact you, best leave him to it for a while & see what happens
2006-10-17 03:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you do, how you try to extend the olive branch, sometimes, some people just leave with no real indication of WHY? Closure would be nice, but it is not always going to happen, which is too bad, in my book.
Just a thought, but do you have a girlfriend who also hasn't been returning your calls?
Good luck to you.
Peace.
2006-10-17 07:50:14 · answer #7 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be that he has found a woman.. (girlfriend) and you know for a man to convince a new girlfriend that his female best mate is only a best mate and nowt more!!!!
Or it could be a case of move up move on... either way im sure if you mean anything to him he will explain... dont push him though... he will talk to you in his own time...
2006-10-17 10:44:03 · answer #8 · answered by Cat ( " , ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
soemtimes peoples circumstances change in life, sometimes for the best, or the worst - and for no explicable reason, peoples attitudes change. Maybe it is just difficult for him right now - maybe he'll ring when he wants to, but the important thing is to realise that's just the way it is, don't blame yourself, people do come and go. Just leave it on a friendly note and move on
2006-10-17 03:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi. hmmmm try to think this through. maybe he has just had a lot on his mind and he needs a lil brake. i dnt mean for this to sound horrible but maybe he just doesn't know how to tell you that he needs a little time to himself. maybe he didnt't deliberately ignor your calls/texts, maybe he really has ben buisy and he will tell you all about it when he next meets up with you. it does sound a bit strange though but just send him a text saying hey such and such will u meet up with me some time this/next week just to catch up on things whenever you are ready. u know something like that. there must be some understanding for all this and he knows where you are so i am sure he will come to you when he is ready. good luck ;)
2006-10-17 11:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by honey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋