looking for a support group for children caring for their elderly parents. do you know one in Vancouver WA?

Question

I'am in my sixties and trying to understand my mom. mom gets so mad at me at times and then I'm upset a lot lately. is this normal in the elderly and how do I deal with it?

Answer 1

Unfortunately, I do not know anyone in Vancouver WA
But I do know that this is normal in the elderly
Every stage of life brings different experiences, and feelings and this just happens to be one of the many stages
For ex. the Teen yrs are said to be the "Rebellious years"
I am not a licensed psychologist but this is my area of study and I have had some experiences with the elderly to know that it is normal and that they go through the stages of perhaps feeling lonely, consciously or subconsciously thinking about death, past regrets. Coping with hormonal and mental changes can also affect them emotionally, thing is they tend to take it out on those around them. Try to be understanding b/c at times they can be very emotional and just want someone to talk to
If Possible try to keep her involved in activities that she enjoys that can help to keep her busy and gives you the opportunity to Relax and feel Stress free, taking care of an elderly parent/relative can be very burdensome
Hope this helps!!!!!

Answer 2

Even though you 60ish, your parents still consider you their child. Anger, I would not know how to handle it other than walk away. You may want to call Catholic Charities in you area, they have senior volunteers that will come in and give you a break to escape the house. A couple of hours here and there will make all the difference in the relationship with your parent.